Sidiku Buare, Myself and the Car Thieves

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Says Who 9 years ago

Doc, I like the way you have made light of your experience, but we learn from our mistakes, so I am a bit surprised that when you were asked the question by the local tv crew you responded that you will do the same thing agai ...
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Doc, I like the way you have made light of your experience, but we learn from our mistakes, so I am a bit surprised that when you were asked the question by the local tv crew you responded that you will do the same thing again.
That tells me that you did not learn anything from the experience. We still don't know how you ended up picking two complete female strangers, but if you are not going to alter your habit then are we to conclude that you are in the habit of giving strange women lifts?
cute shay 9 years ago

Saying yes to the question is so dumb. You can be the best book smart person and still be dumb, so strange. I don't trust his story, especially when he said people formulated their own theories, but he couldn't say what those ...
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Saying yes to the question is so dumb. You can be the best book smart person and still be dumb, so strange. I don't trust his story, especially when he said people formulated their own theories, but he couldn't say what those theories are. First of let me formulate my own theory here, doc be truthful to yourself, you picked two hoes and you were gonna get some condoms as the ladies instructed you to, you may be a freak who just wanted a threesome with some hoes. This is America, how many men give rides to random women, come on we not dumb, responsible men will not since most people associate it with picking up a prostitute, a cop can ask you questions in regards to picking those strange women. Gosh, they could have shot you dead, obviously they were high. I'm a woman and won't even feel comfortable picking up another woman i don't know, this is not Ghana. I bet you were the laugh and talk of the town for a bit. Plus who leaves 2 strangers in their car whiles the car is on with your belongings, unless you were thinking with your dick at the time ah you shouldn't have come out to write this shameful article at all. Sidiku's case is different from yours so don't hide under his to declare your fake innocence. You are highly educated, you just don't do certain things. I bet you crying now coz you've lost credibility, and the way Americans can be shady when it comes to stuff like this, smh. I know a pastor who went through a similar thing after picking a girl from the strip club, so don't worry you ain't alone in this. Just don't do this again, I don't know if you married, if you are then your wife has suffered at the hands of some mean women with mean comments I'm telling you. You embarrassed yourself further with the I'll do it again tish, to prove your innocence, but that shouts I'm more guilty than anything. Please be careful next time, and make a good name for Ghana, smh
ELIOT SPITZER 9 years ago

Thanks for exposing that dumb ho-seeking john parading around with that idiotic title Ghanaians love. Above all thanks for the advice to the damn fool - to make a good name for Ghana!

What kind of a man with a doctorate de ...
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Thanks for exposing that dumb ho-seeking john parading around with that idiotic title Ghanaians love. Above all thanks for the advice to the damn fool - to make a good name for Ghana!

What kind of a man with a doctorate degree will not settle down in the US with either a wife or a steady girlfriend but goes cruising around picking nasty hoes and crying when his car is driven off? There is no comparison with the case of the respectable Alhaji Sidiku Buari. Alhaji Buari is a respectable man, married for many long years and he even raised his wife's daughter, the famous actress, Nadia Buari, like his own daughter. No wonder Nadia loves Alhaji to death as the saying goes. Alhaji was not going ho-shopping when his car was stolen. His was a completely different case. No comparison, dammit!

We all advise this unimpressive "doctor": stop giving Ghana a bad name, and if you have family, spare them the pain of your being murdered if you keep engaging in this ashawo (prostitution) lifestyle!
cute shay 9 years ago

I know right, it was so painful reading it. I couldn't read it all the first time so I thought he was a medical doctor coz you know how the lawyers here just go by their names without any big titles, Ghanaians and titles oh l ...
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I know right, it was so painful reading it. I couldn't read it all the first time so I thought he was a medical doctor coz you know how the lawyers here just go by their names without any big titles, Ghanaians and titles oh lala and after all the accolades we still act dumb, that hurts... talking about his I phones, I mean who does that. His thirst was so strong he couldn't drop the hoes first or find a drive thru fast food restaurant to get a drink? And he cared for them not freezing to death within a few minutes, how long does it take to go get a drink? He could have turned the car off since they should have their jackets on and the car will still be warm for the few minutes he'd spend getting a drink. And you can just park in front of the gas station and see is closed. Funny how he walked a mile to another gas station to make a call, that should have been the one he should have been anyway. How come nobody stopped to give him a ride to the gas station? And he seems ok with his car smelling like coke and weed, I bet he is so conversant with the smell, and the car was involved in an accident, but he's good with it. His comparisons are so out of line tho. He wrote this to clear his name I guess, but well I hope people would buy it. This sure would affect his career a bit, and he needs to curb his late night thirst syndrome to improve upon his career, oh lordy
DUNGEON MASTER 9 years ago

There are many alarming hints in this account. I don't claim to personally know the author; but the little I know of him on Ghanaweb, he is this conceited, arrogant, in-your-face, know-it-all dude.

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There are many alarming hints in this account. I don't claim to personally know the author; but the little I know of him on Ghanaweb, he is this conceited, arrogant, in-your-face, know-it-all dude.

It won’t surprise me a bit that since he likes to put himself out there to be seen by all, proverbially-speaking, that is, the real truth maybe what some intelligent commentators have alleged.

If that is the truth, and this guy lives in a big city (Austin), I can see this write-up as an effort to get his side of the story out before somebody beats him to it. If I am wrong, then the guy is close to a saint.

Professor Lungu, long time, no see. Excellent comment.
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

I am close to a saint.

I am close to a saint.
DUNGEON MASTER 9 years ago

First of all, you have no justifiable reason to be angry with anybody here, as you did not furnish readers with sufficient information to exculpate you from what they are alleging here.

That is your authorial license as yo ...
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First of all, you have no justifiable reason to be angry with anybody here, as you did not furnish readers with sufficient information to exculpate you from what they are alleging here.

That is your authorial license as you rightly put it. By the same logic, commentators have a license to draw their conclusion based on the scanty information you chose to include in this write-up. You have your rights, we have ours. Your rights dont override ours!

Over all, you are less concerned with readers' concern for your safety than their refusal to acknowledge your saintly benevolence.

Let me share a personal experience with you. (This may not be on par with your experience). Once I was at a gas station and someone asked me for a gallon of gas. As most morally-minded people would do, I welcomed the request, intending to buy 2 gallons instead of one. However, I realized that this someone was more interested in my crditcard number, when I initiated the transaction at the pump, than the gas that that someone had asked. I saw it quickly and went to the cash register to complete the transaction.

I am not saying I did everything right, but learn from what I did: I did not forgo the kindness that was in my heart. Neither did I let my kindness strip me of the need to safeguard my creditcard.

Stop being arrogant and self righteous and know that you can learn to be more cautious next time; although you should not let evil people adulterate the kindness that is in your heart--something we both agree on.
Okaijah COWBOY 9 years ago

you've said it all as it is,this man really wanted box of condom for threesome but was not lucky with those WHORES,b'cos the feeling was high that he forgot himself,just thinking of how (things go knock things) sucking dick,l ...
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you've said it all as it is,this man really wanted box of condom for threesome but was not lucky with those WHORES,b'cos the feeling was high that he forgot himself,just thinking of how (things go knock things) sucking dick,licking pussy and changing position...why gambled with life with strangers / whores?.Now that is the sad end of the dreamt threesome bedside story turned cold badside story.A LESSON TO ALL.!
SARPONG 9 years ago

SAS, you have had bad luck with your cars. You had a really bad accident with another truck when you were living in Houston, Texas.

Bro, I also give people ride, but these are the people I know from work or socially. I str ...
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SAS, you have had bad luck with your cars. You had a really bad accident with another truck when you were living in Houston, Texas.

Bro, I also give people ride, but these are the people I know from work or socially. I strongly advise against giving ride to people you don't know especially here in Texas. Thank God it was only a truck and not your life.

These women here in Texas are very dangerous.
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

But bro. Sarpong, how do you define "know" and when can you say you really "know" somebody. I can assure you that you don't really "know" your own wife, and neither do I. So at what stage can we give people a ride if we canno ...
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But bro. Sarpong, how do you define "know" and when can you say you really "know" somebody. I can assure you that you don't really "know" your own wife, and neither do I. So at what stage can we give people a ride if we cannot "know " people? The solution is simply to give anybody a ride that needs a ride. And this is what I will continue to do. My practice has always been to give my clients a ride and buy them lunch as soon as I bond them out of jail.
SARPONG 9 years ago

SAS, "KNOW" somebody as I used here means somebody you are acquainted. Somebody you can identify to the Police.

From your response, I can deduce the two ladies might have been your clients. If they were, didn't you have th ...
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SAS, "KNOW" somebody as I used here means somebody you are acquainted. Somebody you can identify to the Police.

From your response, I can deduce the two ladies might have been your clients. If they were, didn't you have the information about them? As a lawyer, when somebody comes to your office seeking your service, you ask them for their drivers license or Texas identification card. If you had that information, it would have been easier for the Police to apprehend them and if you did not have this information, the bond company should have that information.

What intrigued me when reading your article is when you wrote that you were out there looking for your stolen car. As big as Austin is and its surrounding towns and villages with hundred of thousands of cars, even with the tracking device, it was a waste of your time trying to find your stolen car.

If the two ladies were your clients, then they fall on my definition of KNOW because it means you have information about them, their names, place of residence, place of work, etc

Anyway thank God it was your truck that they stole and not your life.

Let me wish you a happy Christmas and a happy New year.
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

Your definition of "know" applies in this situation, but that did not stop the thieves from stealing my car....
There are only four black 2010 Mercury Mountaineers in the whole of Austin, and that actually informed my decisi ...
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Your definition of "know" applies in this situation, but that did not stop the thieves from stealing my car....
There are only four black 2010 Mercury Mountaineers in the whole of Austin, and that actually informed my decision to go on the wild goose chase.
All the forgoing pieces of information aided the police in easily apprehending the culprits.
In this instance, the question still remains as to who you think you "know"
and who is a "stranger", and to whom we can give a ride. And what happens to your advice that we should give rides to only people we know?

Happy Holidays to you and the family.
CORNEY 9 years ago

Mr doctor,how do you know only 4 black 2010 Mercury Mountaineers are in the whole of Austin,did you check with Motor Vehicle?Just asking.

Mr doctor,how do you know only 4 black 2010 Mercury Mountaineers are in the whole of Austin,did you check with Motor Vehicle?Just asking.
Nero 9 years ago

Most esteemed doctor, there's a guy called Daniel Ellsberg, and his PhD thesis was titled: "Risk Taking, Ambiguities, and Decision-making". He asserted that to take risks, one must judge actions by their consequences; but wha ...
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Most esteemed doctor, there's a guy called Daniel Ellsberg, and his PhD thesis was titled: "Risk Taking, Ambiguities, and Decision-making". He asserted that to take risks, one must judge actions by their consequences; but what if the consequences are not clear. To which he responded: even here, one must still act reasonably.
So the question for your readership is whether they believe you acted reasonably, or whether you did part ways with commonsense. The preponderance of opinion tilts towards the latter. Similarly, the suspicion that your so called luxury mercedes benz was cruising for practitioners of the oldest profession is the conclusion of the jury. But I'm perplexed that you will still cruise, pick 'em up, leave your car's engine running to go get condoms... I mean drinks. Well, next time get the condoms...I mean drinks first, before the pick-up. This way you don't stop till you get enuff
Also,
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

Those two women were not "complete" strangers. In fact, I picked them from their home, not from the streets as others have inferred. But what difference does it make to those with their own "theories" of what happened?

Those two women were not "complete" strangers. In fact, I picked them from their home, not from the streets as others have inferred. But what difference does it make to those with their own "theories" of what happened?
SARPONG 9 years ago

Dr SAS, if you picked up these two women from their house, are you telling us the women vacated their residence after stealing your car?

If you knew where they live, why were you running around town trying to find your tru ...
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Dr SAS, if you picked up these two women from their house, are you telling us the women vacated their residence after stealing your car?

If you knew where they live, why were you running around town trying to find your truck? I guess the ladies called you to give them a ride so you had their telephone number.

As you termed it, these women were not complete strangers but whatever relationship you have with them is not my business or anybody's but when you decide to share a personal experience, try to provide enough information so that we can make informed comments instead of people guessing your motive for doing what you did.
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

A writer cannot and is not expected to give all the details in an article of this kind.....
All the scenario you propound are true, but I have selected those I deem necessary to project a certain theme. If you want a minutia ...
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A writer cannot and is not expected to give all the details in an article of this kind.....
All the scenario you propound are true, but I have selected those I deem necessary to project a certain theme. If you want a minutiae of everything that happened, I will have to write a book. If I say that I knew their house, it is your responsibility to conclude that they vacated the house. And if you rightly infer that I knew their telephone number, you should go on to conclude that I did everything to contact them on their phone to no avail. Must I give all the collateral details? Then I should be telling you things you will find irrelevant and boring.
The writing task demands that you exclude certain facts not deemed important to your story, and a writer has an authorial license to determine which facts to exclude.
cute shay 9 years ago

That means he knew their names, and shouldn't have been worried so much about not ever finding his car. And I guess this is what the police do best so why not trust them to do their job, which they did do eventually. I would ...
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That means he knew their names, and shouldn't have been worried so much about not ever finding his car. And I guess this is what the police do best so why not trust them to do their job, which they did do eventually. I would not go out in the cold knowing I may not find that car...awkwarrrrrd
CORNEY 9 years ago

Knowing their house and claims they vacated their house,what about their belongings,and why walk one good mile before calling the police,is that place a countryside having very few people and homes one mile apart to request s ...
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Knowing their house and claims they vacated their house,what about their belongings,and why walk one good mile before calling the police,is that place a countryside having very few people and homes one mile apart to request somebody to call 911 for you?

I always leave my car running for my passengers to go out to buy something quick if I have to do that either because of cold or heat but I think we just have to be careful about the people we give a ride to especially our 'sisters and brothers' we don't know very well.
Some of us are lucky we don't leave close to them but I think because of the of his job he is in friendship with many of them combining his professional and personal relationships which is is wrong.
We need to know the difference between professional and personal relationships to protect our own profession and image,you cannot be a lawyer and a taxi driver for your clients.

As for Sidiku Buari,I feel very bad for him but I think next time we find ourselves in that situation we should let somebody be in our company and turn off the car,remove the key and sit before handing the keys to the testing driver,Ghana unlike America it is hard to recover a stolen car easily,even if you have to pay for security to protect your car do it..
Joe 9 years ago

Thank you Sarpong, why didn't the learned lawyer just give the addresses of the two thieves to the police to assist in retrieving the car? This guy must realize that we are discerning mature people on this forum who can spot ...
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Thank you Sarpong, why didn't the learned lawyer just give the addresses of the two thieves to the police to assist in retrieving the car? This guy must realize that we are discerning mature people on this forum who can spot a lie from afar.
amadakurah 9 years ago

A very good piece for people striving for God's Kingdom must read. Kudos, keep it up.

A very good piece for people striving for God's Kingdom must read. Kudos, keep it up.
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

Thanks.
I just want to add that God's kingdom is right here on earth, and it is preserved for those of us who are daily striving to do the most good for the most people at the most time.

Thanks.
I just want to add that God's kingdom is right here on earth, and it is preserved for those of us who are daily striving to do the most good for the most people at the most time.
cute shay 9 years ago

Really? No wonder Christians today are a laughing stock. Jesus was a smart person so I guess we have to be as well.

Really? No wonder Christians today are a laughing stock. Jesus was a smart person so I guess we have to be as well.
Prof Lungu 9 years ago

So what are the lessons learned?

That we go about life giving rides to strange "ladies" we do not know, or that we invite strange people to our homes to buy a car without making sure we are prepared for an emergency - like ...
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So what are the lessons learned?

That we go about life giving rides to strange "ladies" we do not know, or that we invite strange people to our homes to buy a car without making sure we are prepared for an emergency - like the simple act of having others "ride" around, as witnesses?

Can we do all that because we are fatalistic, because "no iota of evil that we do...will go unpunished in the natural scheme of life."

Is that how, as rational legal practitioners, business "men", thinkers, etc., is that how we are supposed to operate in the urban environments of Texas, or Accra, Ghana?

Does this "transformative power of the enemy" require us to practically turn the other cheek for another smacking?

ITEM: Sorry! No fact-based, rational, "after-action" review of the two "cases" will require us to apply this "transformative power" in the manner presented here. Can we have a better self-preservation policy for others who are perhaps less informed, less endowed, and even less resourced?
cute shay 9 years ago

Thank you

Thank you
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

Prof.
You should be more articulate about the larger question of what we should do if the good we do is rewarded with evil. Is it your proposition that we stop doing good on account of our "self-preservation"?
Please explai ...
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Prof.
You should be more articulate about the larger question of what we should do if the good we do is rewarded with evil. Is it your proposition that we stop doing good on account of our "self-preservation"?
Please explain yourself.
Prof Lungu 9 years ago

Dr.,
We ought to be able to control what is within our power - not what others have/control, including what you call "evil," after the fact.

Maybe, our difficulty with your story is the pithy information about how the lad ...
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Dr.,
We ought to be able to control what is within our power - not what others have/control, including what you call "evil," after the fact.

Maybe, our difficulty with your story is the pithy information about how the ladies got into your car in the first place.

Had their vehicle "broken down"?

Were they clients that as a matter of course, your would have had some personal information you could relate to the police?

ITEM: I lived in Houston, Texas, for more than 20 years and traveled throughout the state as a student, musician, and teacher - San Antonio, Austin, Dallas, Corpus Christie, Lubbock, Nacogdoches, El Paso, Huntsville, etc, etc. I saw a lot of good and a lot of bad. I assisted numerous people, including Ghanaians, many newly arrived. But, many people have been physically hurt, some murdered, acting as you did, sometimes because they fell victim to an avoidable ruse.

On the other level, while living in Texas, I bought, used, and sold many cars from police auctions. I would never allow anyone to come to my house to inspect/buy a car without verifying phone numbers and checking their identities. I would ask exactly how many people would be visiting, what car they are coming in, who, etc. Any deviation, and the inspection would be cancelled.

ITEM: At my age, and given the breath of my experiences and training, I try to look at situations as a "professor" and their students ought to - analytically, with a policy "oughtness". "Evil" is not a concept that is applicable in these 2 car-jacking "cases".

In conclusion, our sense is, your "transformative power of the enemy" leads to other rational prescriptions where the self is preserved - before can even begin to "assist" another.

(Imagine! In all your "drive-bys" looking for your car, it was the police that found the car and contacted you!).

Greeting and Nuff Respect!
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

Prof.
Your answer still dodged the larger question....and no matter how pithy the information I provided, it by no means leads to the illogical conclusion readers ascribed to me: that I was looking for prostitutes. I have no ...
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Prof.
Your answer still dodged the larger question....and no matter how pithy the information I provided, it by no means leads to the illogical conclusion readers ascribed to me: that I was looking for prostitutes. I have nothing against prostitutes and their clients and I have defended many; but the information I provided in my article was foundational to the larger issue of ingratitude of those we help. Take it from me that I am no fool to expose myself to unreasonable risk; but what I consider as "caution" may never measure up to yours strict regimen.
I have been proved right in stating in the article that with hindsight, wiseacres will look upon my action as stupid. But I did not envisage, by any stretch of the imagination, that they will misconstrue giving rides to ladies as being coterminous to picking up prostitutes. I still don't see the link.
Under the circumstances, the question still remains as to what to do with ingrates who far outnumber those who are grateful. Should we change how we perform kindness because of how these ingrates respond?
Given all that you now know about the incident, is it still your proposition that I should have acted differently? I don't believe so!
Prof Lungu 9 years ago

Dr,
The "pithy information" in your piece is biased - resulting in some of the "negative" comments by others. I am not in those camps, still!

ITEM: You did not provide enough information about the "incident" to allow our ...
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Dr,
The "pithy information" in your piece is biased - resulting in some of the "negative" comments by others. I am not in those camps, still!

ITEM: You did not provide enough information about the "incident" to allow our hypothetical "students" to conclude your actions were wise given the urban context.

That said, I am not in the "camp" of those ascribing "prostitution." My sense is, most "prostitutes" are victims of society, and of other relations. Therefore, I am in no position to judge their character, or yours, in this case.

ITEM: Yes, change "how we perform kindness". But, do not change "why"!
DUNGEON MASTER 9 years ago

I have been following your salient arguments and have to say: you are dead on each and every time.

You are well versed in the art of cogent casuistry, I should say.

Well, if you "know" "Dr." SAS, he is not the type to ...
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I have been following your salient arguments and have to say: you are dead on each and every time.

You are well versed in the art of cogent casuistry, I should say.

Well, if you "know" "Dr." SAS, he is not the type to concede he is wrong when he clearly is; I guess his oversized ego wont allow that!
cute shay 9 years ago

There's "smart good"and the other good. Was Alhaji doing good? He was just looking to make some money by selling his car. He didn't think straight at that point, it happens once in a while to even the smartest among us. You h ...
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There's "smart good"and the other good. Was Alhaji doing good? He was just looking to make some money by selling his car. He didn't think straight at that point, it happens once in a while to even the smartest among us. You have to at some point accept this was not a smart thing to do so that others wouldn't fall prey to such evil persons, but you still trying to paint yourself as a no wrong doing saint is actually sickening. You can get a taxi for your clients if you want to, it shouldn't be you giving them rides all the time. Since you deal with criminals, you have to cautious of the things you do. What if you give a ride to a delusional person who ends up hurting you? You being selfish, think of the people who love you dearly and wouldn't want you to get hurt in any awkward circumstance that would tarnish the image you've worked hard to build for yourself. We all need tough love sometimes, I bet even Obama gets some tough love from Michelle and that helps, I hope you get some to make you think about the need to give clients or strangers or whatever rides, ijs
LONTO-BOY 9 years ago

Dr SAS, giving people a ride isn't necessarily a bad thing to do. It's a kind gesture. However, giving ride to complete strangers is very dangerous. I think your car theft story here is an easily avoidable situation. NEVER gi ...
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Dr SAS, giving people a ride isn't necessarily a bad thing to do. It's a kind gesture. However, giving ride to complete strangers is very dangerous. I think your car theft story here is an easily avoidable situation. NEVER give a ride to a stranger no matter how well dressed and well-spoken s/he may appear. And by leaving your car engine running, you did put yourself in a vulnerable position with complete strangers. Something you shouldn't do in the first place. I can only imagine the awful shame of explaining this story to your wife, if you have one.

If I may ask: Were you touring the streets for sex? Potentially, you've to realise that patrolling officers or undercover officers could have arrested you on suspicion of picking up prostitutes.
cute shay 9 years ago

Did you say touring for sex? Omg I'm done, lol

Did you say touring for sex? Omg I'm done, lol
Nii PhD ?no Nii PWD 9 years ago

this guy probably watched porno films and got exited feelings and have wanted to try same acts,which turned bitter with his dick running cold and down which an overdose intake of viagra can never revive.

this guy probably watched porno films and got exited feelings and have wanted to try same acts,which turned bitter with his dick running cold and down which an overdose intake of viagra can never revive.
JB Mann 9 years ago

You left you car engine on with two strangers in the vechicle and this in America? Trust, we know, develops, so how can you trust a stranger?

If some illiterate did that, I would understand it with questions, for an accla ...
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You left you car engine on with two strangers in the vechicle and this in America? Trust, we know, develops, so how can you trust a stranger?

If some illiterate did that, I would understand it with questions, for an acclaimed legal practitioner? a PhD ? Sorry.

You may be someone Germans call 'Fachidiot' ie a Nerd
Kofi Ata, Cambridge, UK 9 years ago

Dr SAS, lots of questions came to my mind whilst reading the article and wanted to e-mail or call you to ask for answers. However, after reading some of the comments, I realised I am not alone with this Kwaku Ananse excuse of ...
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Dr SAS, lots of questions came to my mind whilst reading the article and wanted to e-mail or call you to ask for answers. However, after reading some of the comments, I realised I am not alone with this Kwaku Ananse excuse of either utter carelessness or some ulterior motive gone wrong.

You must come back and explain yourself because some of us are not buying this 'tolie'. Were the women black or white? How long have you been giving lift to strangers/women in your car? Were the women on high when you picked them since your recovered vehicle smelt of coke and weed?

For your information, it's call kerb crawling here in the UK and it's an offence.

Now to your theory and comparison with Sidiki Buare. Yours is typical of the Ghanaian self-inflicted indiscipline such as the Mahama led NDC government financial crisis that cannot and must not be compared with what happened to Sidiki. His was unfortunate. I have no sympathy for you because you brought it on yourself through indiscipline, carelessness or uncontrollable desire to satisfy your sexual appetite.

Your "human beast" theory is also comparable to "fama Nyame", which is partly the cause of corruption, indiscipline and lawlessness in Ghana. If you will not learn from this experience, then, do not propound any theory to justify your decision to continue to give lift to strangers. In fact, I do not give lift to strangers, neither will I accept one from strangers here in the UK. This is one of the sort of approaches to nation building in Ghana that have kept our dear nation to the state of under-development. Our leaders do not learn from past mistakes but keeping repeating the same thing and expect a different outcome. Next time, "I put it to you" that it would not only be your vehicle but you will be lucky if the women strip you naked and leave you in the cold and drive your car away.

Please come back and explain yourself. Have a good day and take it easy if I have been too harsh on you.
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

1. You should stop being childish Kofi.....I am a lawyer, and if I indeed want to sleep with prostitutes, I can make some calls...I would not be trolling the streets.

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1. You should stop being childish Kofi.....I am a lawyer, and if I indeed want to sleep with prostitutes, I can make some calls...I would not be trolling the streets.

2. Does it matter whether the women were black or white? Get over you racism and ethnocentrism.

3. If I were to come to this world twenty times, I would not change anything of what I am or what I do. So unlike many people, I have fulfilled every bit of my dreams and ambitions, and I have done that by behaving in a certain way. I am an extremely good person, and because of this fact, many people will view me as either naïve or stupid; but I cannot change what I think or what I do.

4. Have I been hurt by my kindness and generosity to others? Of course!! But the only reason why I am where I am is that I have not allowed the likes of these dirty-minded folks to change my generosity of spirit or my way of life. And my experiences and their outcomes are what I seek to share with my story. Focus on those.

4. As a criminal defense attorney, I have all kinds of clients who are on the wrong side of the law and morality, and I have no extraordinary expectation that these clients will not hurt me at some time or other. But there is nothing more revealing by the negative comments here: deadbeats revealing the depths of their deep-seated hatred. They should first ask themselves whatever I did against them at any time.
Mensa 9 years ago

Many people will have different views based on their life experiences. I myself try to give rides to complete strangers, especially my fellow Africans, when I realize there is a need.
I went to a grocery store to buy some fo ...
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Many people will have different views based on their life experiences. I myself try to give rides to complete strangers, especially my fellow Africans, when I realize there is a need.
I went to a grocery store to buy some food a couple of months ago and saw a very tall lady there, who I thought was new to our city, and I also suspected her to be Kenyan. I asked and she confirmed her Kenyan nationality. After checking out, she was carrying too many bags so I offered her a ride to her home which it turned out was not too far from mine. What you did was is called hospitality, and nobody can take that away from you. However, before you give rides to people next time, observe their demeanor before doing so.
Kwabena 9 years ago

I agree with you Mensa. You can give someone a lift with good evaluation.

I agree with you Mensa. You can give someone a lift with good evaluation.
Says Who 9 years ago

So because the strange woman you met at the grocery store did not hold a knife to your throat and hijack your vehicle, you believe you are a better judge of character.

How many times are people admonished not to interact w ...
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So because the strange woman you met at the grocery store did not hold a knife to your throat and hijack your vehicle, you believe you are a better judge of character.

How many times are people admonished not to interact with strangers due to safety concerns. You made the assumption that the woman was carrying to many bags. I would say it was normal to her. She was an adult and quite capable of making a judgement on her shopping.
cute shay 9 years ago

Some Africans do that tho, we are so opportunistic. I laughed when I read the lady was Kenyan, my Kenyan friends are the worst, lol. Why would you shop so much and you don't even have a car? I can pay for a cab if she's so br ...
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Some Africans do that tho, we are so opportunistic. I laughed when I read the lady was Kenyan, my Kenyan friends are the worst, lol. Why would you shop so much and you don't even have a car? I can pay for a cab if she's so broke. But I get what he's saying, you can look at a person, not all the time since appearances can be deceptive, and know they may be ok. It would be rare for an African woman to do that, not to say is impossible. I bet that woman always gets rides that way.
Kofi Ata, Cambridge, UK 9 years ago

Dr SAS, I asked you to take it easy if my comment was too harsh. I did not mean to offend you so my apology if you felt offended. The conspiracy theories on your article is not strange because you seem to be extremely kind f ...
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Dr SAS, I asked you to take it easy if my comment was too harsh. I did not mean to offend you so my apology if you felt offended. The conspiracy theories on your article is not strange because you seem to be extremely kind for your own good. I live by the principle of "love thy neighbour as thy self" and not more than thy neighbour. Perhaps, your profession and daily experiences might have some influence on you, whilst my security conscious from my PNDC days still makes me always park my car ready to drive off rather than reverse before driving off.

My question on race/ethnicity of the women was not meant to be offensive, racist or ethnocentrism. I am not that type, especially when I worked in race relations/equality and prosecuted individuals, employers and service providers for racial discrimination. Neither was my interpretation of your decision not to change your risky act of kindness as "fama nyame" an indication of your success or otherwise in life. Of course, being an Attorney in the US is an indication of your hard work and achievement in life. It's not achieved on silver platter but through hard work. I do respect you for that and do not think that I take you for granted.

I actually like your honesty in sharing some of your life experiences on Ghanaweb and I hope our comments and suspicions should not deter you from sharing them with readers. Yes, I agree with you that our conspiracy theories and accusations of picking up prostitutes is unfair and unfortunate but that is also what made the story interesting and exciting reading. Do not be hurt by such baseless accusations and suspicions. You are an honest and kind person. I guess your response should be to ask us to throw the first stone if we have never sinned (even if our suspicious minds guessed right). Do not be offended.
Kofi Ata, Cambridge, UK 9 years ago

Sorry, I forgot to add that the comments should not be seen only in the negative way because I also believe that some of us were concerned about your welfare and security. We regard you as an informed contributor to the forum ...
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Sorry, I forgot to add that the comments should not be seen only in the negative way because I also believe that some of us were concerned about your welfare and security. We regard you as an informed contributor to the forum and a fellow Ghanaian so we do not want any harm to befall on you. So please take our comments as part of our concern for you.
SARPONG 9 years ago

Dr SAS, some of us are genuinely giving you advice to be careful and not to change you.

I in particular I am happy it was only your truck and not your life. Why am I saying that? I have lived in Texas more than twenty year ...
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Dr SAS, some of us are genuinely giving you advice to be careful and not to change you.

I in particular I am happy it was only your truck and not your life. Why am I saying that? I have lived in Texas more than twenty years, mostly in Dallas/Ft Worth area and I know of at least three Ghanaians who have lost their lives for being careless about women here not counting about five Nigerians getting killed for picking the wrong women.

As you rightly said, you are a grown man and will do whatever you want, that is your prerogative Doc. but some of us believe you are an asset to the Ghanaian community and we need you to be around for a long time.

I am one person a lot of people call for a ride when they are having car problems, just be careful, that is my advice.
CORNEY 9 years ago

From what he wrote I can say that thse ladies were going to buy drugs and if she knows them as he the case is then that may not even be the first time and I can say if he is not careful one day he may get arrested together wi ...
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From what he wrote I can say that thse ladies were going to buy drugs and if she knows them as he the case is then that may not even be the first time and I can say if he is not careful one day he may get arrested together with them if he is not able to prove that he knew nothing about the presence of the drug in his car and if those people don't claim ownership of it.
These American girls will never hide anything from you when they are going to buy drugs,it is a well known fact,he needs to be careful.

Anyway I can now give a ride to anybody who wants to go buy marijuana in my state,lol
Says Who 9 years ago

For a Criminal Attorney, you seem to be making some very incriminating statements. You just admitted in response to Mr Ata's comment that you can make calls to solicit for sex.
Doc! Doc! Doc! I know Mr Ata and Sarpong are go ...
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For a Criminal Attorney, you seem to be making some very incriminating statements. You just admitted in response to Mr Ata's comment that you can make calls to solicit for sex.
Doc! Doc! Doc! I know Mr Ata and Sarpong are good inquisitors but surely your admission to their searching questions seems to make a curious situation worse.
cute shay 9 years ago

I know right, I'm like wth did he just say, well he may have his own black book. The more he tries so hard to arrogantly reply certain comments, the more awkward he sounds. If u were living in Texas and I needed a lawyer, I b ...
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I know right, I'm like wth did he just say, well he may have his own black book. The more he tries so hard to arrogantly reply certain comments, the more awkward he sounds. If u were living in Texas and I needed a lawyer, I bet he'd be the shortlisted one, whoop...I hope he wins a whole lotta cases with this mentality and outbursts. Calm down doctor lawyer, calm down, it seems most of the commentators respect you, and is funny how you can't see that, but you are striving for that saint title so bad, you stepping on them. Please, work on your arrogance a bit, 2010 hooadoopa luxury what? Please you know you got readers who may have 2015 hooladoopa luxury something too. I think Lamborghini is coming out with a phone soon, so go get you one. These people on here respect you so don't try to be the smarty pants here with your responses, be mad at those women? Subsume someone writes something you don't like and he's childish? Miss me with this, just learn from this already, you just need a dose of humility. Next time they'll strip you naked like someone said, then when the news reporter asks you that question, you may answer differently. I hope all the other "women" watched that interview and will try and get a ride from you. Well at least I know I have a saint I can call for a ride from when I'm in texas, if you turn me down, I'll come and write my own article, kai
Dr. SAS, Attorney at Law 9 years ago

You are speaking as a non-lawyer. I have not admitted to anything. But I can now admit that there is nothing wrong with calling a prostitute to satisfy one's orgiastic feelings. Personally, I don't believe that prostitutes an ...
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You are speaking as a non-lawyer. I have not admitted to anything. But I can now admit that there is nothing wrong with calling a prostitute to satisfy one's orgiastic feelings. Personally, I don't believe that prostitutes and drug junkies should be incarcerated; I believe they should be rehabilitated. This does not make me a patron of prostitution or drug traffickers. I am only a sympathizer and their astute defender!
You can assume that as a lawyer, I can always defend myself.
Joe 9 years ago

I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that this arrogant, and know-it-all guy was out soliciting for prostitutes when the incident happened

I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that this arrogant, and know-it-all guy was out soliciting for prostitutes when the incident happened
DusTY-FooT-pHiloSophER 9 years ago

From the responses I counted in here I can honestly say a lot rather showed their concerned towards your safety, despite the conspiracy theory in your narrative. Now, since all rivers don't go flowing back into the sea, but s ...
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From the responses I counted in here I can honestly say a lot rather showed their concerned towards your safety, despite the conspiracy theory in your narrative. Now, since all rivers don't go flowing back into the sea, but some mysteriously ends up in Kasoa market, courtesy my Mum. Therefore, I would like to join the "be careful out there" choir and wish you well and pray you stay safe the next time around due to the nature of your job.

Anyway, below is something to cheer you up into the Christmas festivities that is poking at us just around the corner as well as the new year.

BBC Reporter; “Mr. Mugabe, you've been president for some 32 years now.

When are you going to say goodbye to the people of Zimbabwe?”

Robert Mugabe; “Bye to the people of Zimbabwe?"

BBC Reporter; Well, yes sir.

Mugabe; Well, where are they going?

Hahahahaha!
francis kwarteng 9 years ago

Dustyfootprofessor,

If I recall correctly, My Brother, I think President Mugabe also asked the BBC journalist how long the Queen has been in power and when she was going to resign from politics. This is by the way.

I d ...
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Dustyfootprofessor,

If I recall correctly, My Brother, I think President Mugabe also asked the BBC journalist how long the Queen has been in power and when she was going to resign from politics. This is by the way.

I don't remember the exact details.

Have a great week!
cute shay 9 years ago

Men from all walks of life troll for "stuff", don't even go there with I can make a call for it to happen excuse. When is a habit, it doesn't matter who you are. I have a friend who is a medical doctor who used to troll the s ...
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Men from all walks of life troll for "stuff", don't even go there with I can make a call for it to happen excuse. When is a habit, it doesn't matter who you are. I have a friend who is a medical doctor who used to troll the streets to get some, so anything is possible here. And I get the black or white thing to some extent as bias as it seems. There are criminals in every race, but watching the local news, you tend to see more blacks. And I know most Ghanaian men tend to want some cake from more black women than whites. Well I've achieved a bulk of my dreams since I've been in America, but I'm still aiming at being much more humble, there's always that one thing you can improve upon.
Zamboni 9 years ago

Samuel Adjei Sarfo acted childishly with no regard to safety. When you stop at gas station to get gas, the first thing you do is to turn your ignition off. By the way, who were these strangers? Were they prostitutes you pick ...
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Samuel Adjei Sarfo acted childishly with no regard to safety. When you stop at gas station to get gas, the first thing you do is to turn your ignition off. By the way, who were these strangers? Were they prostitutes you picked up for the night? Something does not add up. My kids even know that you don't ride to strangers.
Joe 9 years ago

Sarfo might have picked some prostitutes and ended up losing his car. The guy must come clean about how he knew those ladies, his story raises more questions than answers.

Sarfo might have picked some prostitutes and ended up losing his car. The guy must come clean about how he knew those ladies, his story raises more questions than answers.
Asem 9 years ago

Doc, you think you can take Ghanaians for a ride but I'm sure you are baffled by the pertinent questions been asked here. I always say illiterates in Ghana are 100x smarter and intelligent than educated people like this Doc. ...
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Doc, you think you can take Ghanaians for a ride but I'm sure you are baffled by the pertinent questions been asked here. I always say illiterates in Ghana are 100x smarter and intelligent than educated people like this Doc. Can you imagine our fore fathers making such a fool of themselves and proudly bringing it out into the public domain? Interesting indeed!
NOBODY 9 years ago

Don't forget to leave the key in your house door when leaving home. The thieves promise not to enter because they've seen the house key dangling before them. Should yours not be titled, "me, myself, and I"?

Don't forget to leave the key in your house door when leaving home. The thieves promise not to enter because they've seen the house key dangling before them. Should yours not be titled, "me, myself, and I"?
Says Who 9 years ago

In response to “Re: You have a right to remain silent” above, Since you want to go the non-lawyer route, let us take this as an academic exercise, then I can say that I stand corrected and I will amend my statement. So h ...
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In response to “Re: You have a right to remain silent” above, Since you want to go the non-lawyer route, let us take this as an academic exercise, then I can say that I stand corrected and I will amend my statement. So here goes:

You just “confessed” that you can solicit for sex.

For those not familiar with the difference between admission and confession, the former refers statements of fact made orally, written or implied in civil cases, a confession on the other hand refers to statements of fact made by a party on a case which can be prosecuted under criminal law.

Since prostitution and drug offences are unlawful under criminal law, any admission of complicity will therefore be considered as a confession rather than an admission.

The suggestion that you can make a call for prostitutes was not a suggestion made by Mr Ata or anybody else on this forum. It was voluntary statement made by you in response to Mr Ata’s comment “Were you kerb-crawling” above and I quote:
“ if I indeed want to sleep with prostitutes, I can make some calls…”

To make a call you have to know a number or some numbers that will get you through to the destination that you want. For most people, I believe the ability to make a call to a prostitute will be the same as making a call to the president - most just wouldn’t know how. You get my picture.

Since you are a lawyer may I remind you that the manner in which a statement is made can be very telling. However since this is only an academic exercise I may digress a bit for our readers.

When personalities are mentioned in a statement, the manner in which they are referred to can be crucial in a case. You referred to the carjackers as “two ladies” and “strangers”. Under further questioning you claimed that they were not complete strangers because you knew them and picked them from their home. That was an admission that you were acquainted with them. In other words persons with whom you are familiar but not socially. Again acquaintance will suggest people with whom you have been in contact before on a number of occasions.

Furthermore following the carjack from the two strange women with a maniacal grin/smile on their faces as they took off in your SUV, there was no suggestion from you that you either visited the home where you picked them or suggested to the police where they could be found. Instead you turned yourself into the auxiliary wing of the Austin Highway Patrol combing one of the largest cities for your vehicle.
You had the police on APB looking for the perpetrators and your vehicle and you had a tracker which made it easy for the tracking company to pin-point the location of your vehicle and alert the police.

So my question is: Why were you so eager to get to these two women before the Austin police got to them. You get what I am driving at?

Since this is an academic exercise, I am not going to make any assumptions otherwise I would put it to you that- On that fateful day in Austin, you duly picked up two women with whom you were acquainted. You then drove towards a location and for a purpose which you did not want anyone to know.

However one of your acquaintances knowing this fact, double-crossed you by taking your sport utility vehicle, leaving you with no option but to contact the police and your insurance company. In spite of the media interest and the involvement of the state police and the tracking company, you were keen to get to the women before the police got to them.

Now, when a notable criminal lawyer wants to get to a couple of felons with whom he is acquainted before the police do there is only one conclusion that can be drawn. Someone is hiding a fact.

How is that for a novice.
Okaijah COWBOY 9 years ago

boredom and cold bed with excited feelings forced this man to ride through town for prostitutes;how can you leave your ignition keys and belongings with unknown faces on board.? a regretable night for this man.

boredom and cold bed with excited feelings forced this man to ride through town for prostitutes;how can you leave your ignition keys and belongings with unknown faces on board.? a regretable night for this man.
Nii Anyetei Blofonyo 9 years ago

You wanted free pussies, you lost your dignity. Yeah, go ahead and pick up prostitutes and leave the engine running, who cares, fool.

You wanted free pussies, you lost your dignity. Yeah, go ahead and pick up prostitutes and leave the engine running, who cares, fool.
Teacher 9 years ago

And this is meant for Ghanaians living in Ghana to read? Ouch!!!

And this is meant for Ghanaians living in Ghana to read? Ouch!!!
Koo Nimo 9 years ago

Inspirational story teller. I am inpired!

Inspirational story teller. I am inpired!
Nero 9 years ago

Come on, man! I stopped reading your article after the second sentence of the 4th paragraph. You were already at a gas station when your dumb self was supposedly stupefied by the 2 prostitutes you had acquired. So why would y ...
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Come on, man! I stopped reading your article after the second sentence of the 4th paragraph. You were already at a gas station when your dumb self was supposedly stupefied by the 2 prostitutes you had acquired. So why would you walk your sorry ass to a second gas station, a mile away to make a call? Furthermore, I didn't know the city of Austin could be so cold for you to leave the heater on for a quick purchase. By the way, were you buying drinks for the 2 hags also?
niibi 9 years ago

Thank you for sharing your story. Lots of insight.

Thank you for sharing your story. Lots of insight.

Sidiku Buare, Myself and the Car Thieves

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