Wedding ceremonies always felt like a death sentence - Lydia Forson

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Don 8 years ago

U rite girl

U rite girl
3dem 8 years ago

God bless you for your honesty. the lies that people live is amazing. Tiwa savage has just learnt her lesson in being honest with herself and it came with a bang! On this one, I agree with you.

God bless you for your honesty. the lies that people live is amazing. Tiwa savage has just learnt her lesson in being honest with herself and it came with a bang! On this one, I agree with you.
Bbb 8 years ago

This babe can write and she's soooo talented,I'm waiting for you, you are too beautiful to be missed.I love you.

This babe can write and she's soooo talented,I'm waiting for you, you are too beautiful to be missed.I love you.
EAGLE EYE 8 years ago

DEFEATIST THINKING.HOW I WISH THIS LADY IS GIVEN AN INCITE TO TRUE LIFE.MY DEAR, READING SOCIAL INDUCED NOVELS WOULD GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR, AND NOT GOING TO ARM YOU ANY LIFE SENSE.
I WAS HAPPY TO SEE YOU GIVEN UR MU ...
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DEFEATIST THINKING.HOW I WISH THIS LADY IS GIVEN AN INCITE TO TRUE LIFE.MY DEAR, READING SOCIAL INDUCED NOVELS WOULD GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR, AND NOT GOING TO ARM YOU ANY LIFE SENSE.
I WAS HAPPY TO SEE YOU GIVEN UR MUM A TREAT .THAT WAS SO SPECIAL, HOWEVER, VE YOU ASK URSEF, WOULD YOU EVER VE THIS OPPORTUNITY IN UR LIFE TIME? WHEN YOU DON'T SEE ANY NEED IN MARRIAGE AND TO VE KIDS.YES, NOT ALL COUPLE CAN VE KIDS,AT LEAST THE OPPORTUNITY TO ADOPT IS THERE AND NOT SINGLES.HOW DO YOU FEEL, WHEN YOU WAKE UP FROM THAT GUY/LADY ED AFTER GETTING FUCKED AND YOU ARE TOLD,WHEN ARE U COMING AROUND NEXT?YOU ARE VERY NICE Y GHANAIAN STANDARD FOR NOW, SO GET MARRY TO AVOID FUTURE UNCERTAINTY AND ALSO MAKE YOUR MUM PROUD.I GUESS WHAT MUM WOULD VE WISHED FOR WAS TO VE HER GRANDCHILDREN PLAYING AROUND HER ON THAT SPECIAL DAY, YOU MESSED FOR HER THROUGH YOUR RUDENESS TO ACCEPT THE FACT THAT, THERE ARE RULES OF EVERY ENGAGEMENT AND NOT ALL WILL LIKE IT YET .......THINK THE FUTURE.
steph 8 years ago

Do you now realize her point? She doesn't want to get married just to please society, but rather to please herself. You are only repeating what she just condemned, loving life to please others.

Do you now realize her point? She doesn't want to get married just to please society, but rather to please herself. You are only repeating what she just condemned, loving life to please others.
Sarskoberta 8 years ago

I have keenly followed this lady with 'keen' interest. First, as an actress, the 'dumsor' comedian, the pseudo-political activist, a philosopher with an added interest in psychology.(a journalist of some sort)

What am read ...
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I have keenly followed this lady with 'keen' interest. First, as an actress, the 'dumsor' comedian, the pseudo-political activist, a philosopher with an added interest in psychology.(a journalist of some sort)

What am reading from her this time is an attempt at being a marriage expert, kind of a quack counselor.

Apparently, this lady, in short, I've come to believe has an insatiable love, a propensity for curiosity, attention and cheap popularity. This is perhaps, or probably to compensate for her short-comings via her large body size that most men suitors frowns at.Too mean. Self conceited which is currently preventing her from getting roles in the acting business.

She is now erroneously professing to be very 'large' in terms of academics, money and fame. So much that, she sees no need to sell her liberties to a man known as "husband" who perhaps, traditionally, have been tagged the head of the household-A recognition she doesn't want to recognize, observe and or contain.

She claims some 'rites of passage' have been inappropriately by way of tradition sold to her. She cannot deny the fact that, the child is always born good but empty. It is the society that corrupts the child. It is this same society that, from time immemorial has given young girls reaching womanhood the ultimatum to marry men they choose for them- love or no love, security or lack of.

Young women should marry as a way of following the societal norm as studiously and religiously as necessary.

What Lydia refuses to be conversant with is that, there is no such thing as the right-man or the right woman when it comes to marriage. Marrying a poor man/woman, marrying an ugly person, marrying from outside one's tribe bears no significance in marital life. It is very incumbent on any soul of the world, I mean, everybody, including Sister Lydia Forson to marry at some point in life. Refusal or failure to do so is an abomination, as well asa contrary to the principles and teachings of the Bible. A travesty in the religious vain."Obi nkyer3 akwadaa Nyame"-One is tempted to pick that feel as we undergo thru a sum total of human growth and experiences.
Lydia cannot deny this.

I often hear of women who believes God is the provider of appropriate partners. "Awade3,owuo ne awoO, Onyame na Ode ma" (That's a white blanket lie)

However, with tonnes of crises in marriages that ends in distasteful divorces consummated in churches overseen by the God almighty. How credible could that be. Lydia also ignores the fact that personality as defined by society is the perception it beholds on every individual.
Lydia as I know her is a smart person, intelligent, very beautiful and poised to succeed in life. However, taking a man out of her equation,out of the normal compartment of nature, eg. protecting procreation as pertains in the bible makes her vulnerable, as well as susceptible to her life as a human being. At the end of the day, onme has become nobody.
"Obaa biara animuonyam y3 aware3 ne awoO"
Beats Me.
EAGLE EYE 8 years ago

HAHAHA,
YOU FRIEND GIFTY ANTI USED TO HAVE THE SAME MENTALITY ON MARRIAGE CULTURE AND OUR FAMILY UNIT.HOWEVER, SHE WAS CLEVER TO LEAVE THE DOOR OPEN WHILST SHE WAS SECRETLY SEARCHING AND LISTENING TO HER GUESTS ON THE SHOW T ...
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HAHAHA,
YOU FRIEND GIFTY ANTI USED TO HAVE THE SAME MENTALITY ON MARRIAGE CULTURE AND OUR FAMILY UNIT.HOWEVER, SHE WAS CLEVER TO LEAVE THE DOOR OPEN WHILST SHE WAS SECRETLY SEARCHING AND LISTENING TO HER GUESTS ON THE SHOW TO PICK IDEAS TO MAKE A HAPPY HOME.NOW WE ALL CAN ATTEST THE FACT THAT SHE'S GLOWING IN LOVE AND HAPPY.NO NO ,DON'T TELL ME IS A SHOW OFF, COS SOME OF US CAN READ THE LINES.DON'T LET ANY ONE FOOL YOU.SHINE UR EYES, YOU VE LESS THAN 5 YEARS TO GET URSEF A MAN WHO WILL LOVE YOU , AND HELP YOU LIVE UR LIFE TO THE FULL.
K.D 8 years ago

Hey fatty,i guess panic have set in ryt?If so go get yourself a man and "born give am".

Hey fatty,i guess panic have set in ryt?If so go get yourself a man and "born give am".
Akwesi 8 years ago

Woman pls give us a break.

Woman pls give us a break.
TOTO 8 years ago

YOU ARE WHITE COLOR WHORE IN GHANA. YOU SELLING YOUR WIDE AND WATERY PUSSSSY TO MPS AND MINISTERS YET YOU HAVE THE NERVES TO TALK ABOUT MARRIGE. GET MARRIED NOW BECAUSE YOU ARE AN OVERGROWN PIG NOW.. YES, IT IS DIFFICULT FOR ...
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YOU ARE WHITE COLOR WHORE IN GHANA. YOU SELLING YOUR WIDE AND WATERY PUSSSSY TO MPS AND MINISTERS YET YOU HAVE THE NERVES TO TALK ABOUT MARRIGE. GET MARRIED NOW BECAUSE YOU ARE AN OVERGROWN PIG NOW.. YES, IT IS DIFFICULT FOR A FAT WOMAN LIKE YOU TO GET A NICE AN, BUT THERE ARE SOME MEN WHO PREFFER FAAAT WOMEN LIKE YOU.
MADAM PIG YOU ARE GETTING TOO OLD AND YOU ARE GETTING TOO OVER WEIGHT. GET MARRIED.
klo 8 years ago

leave her alone, life is one touch

leave her alone, life is one touch
obj 8 years ago

know dat every lady hv exp date. at De time ur face start shrinking and u cnt no more show up on TV and u hv no one to hv fun wth nt child ,frnd nor family is der u relize de importance of marriage. kno dat loneliness kills. ...
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know dat every lady hv exp date. at De time ur face start shrinking and u cnt no more show up on TV and u hv no one to hv fun wth nt child ,frnd nor family is der u relize de importance of marriage. kno dat loneliness kills. ladies mke ur decisions n don't follow her deceitions.
outlaw 8 years ago

I agree with a lot of things with uve said here but the thing is u can never fully find yourself cos with any relationship u find yourself in will b new. It doesnt matter how much u think you know yourself cos relationships i ...
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I agree with a lot of things with uve said here but the thing is u can never fully find yourself cos with any relationship u find yourself in will b new. It doesnt matter how much u think you know yourself cos relationships is the only thing in this world that hasnt got a formular. Its all about comprimising and trying to stay true to yourself
ahenkan 8 years ago

Thanks sister

Thanks sister
terror 8 years ago

useless article ....grow up wai.

useless article ....grow up wai.
Christus Legatus 8 years ago

My Dear Lydia, your lamentations are truly genuine I dare say that they are not new. The wise man Solomon expressed similar feelings in the book of Ecclesiastes but this happened after he had lost his way in life i.e. abandon ...
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My Dear Lydia, your lamentations are truly genuine I dare say that they are not new. The wise man Solomon expressed similar feelings in the book of Ecclesiastes but this happened after he had lost his way in life i.e. abandoned God to live life his own way. I am married and I can tell you that my experience of marriage is a far cry from what you've described. Challenges? Yes, we have both faced a lot, yet, we keep overcoming. All because, we have chosen to do it the Creator's way and not our way or society's way. The creator in His own wisdom and out of His abundant love for us did not leave us to wallow in the sea of despair while navigating through life. He has revealed His ways to us and has also shown us what to do to achieve or maintain a purposeful, successful and happy life. If only we will obey, we will experience all that He has already ordained for us. We cannot plant lemons and expect to harvest oranges. If things are not going according to God's promised plans, we need to take a long pause, re-examine ourselves and ways to see if we are still on the right track or not. Doing that will greatly help us a lot. In addition, for us to enjoy all the pleasures of marriage (and even life in general), we need to grow or advance into maturity. Kids make rash decisions and no wonder they are susceptible to problems. Sacrificing certain previous selfish needs for another person we love is not a death sentence as you call it; it is called love, selflessness and devotion. But such virtues are not common among kids; only matured people can express them because they take conscious effort. It is therefore not surprising that marriage is not for "kids", it is for the matured. I conclude with this verse from scripture "when I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man [or woman], I put the ways of childhood behind me (1 Cor. 13:11). I share this out of love for you all. God bless.
yabani 8 years ago

Tanx mahn

Tanx mahn
Martin 8 years ago

Marry and stop the concert kwasiiaa baa .obolo.aduane nkoaaa.

Marry and stop the concert kwasiiaa baa .obolo.aduane nkoaaa.
Joegeg 8 years ago

There is no perfect marriage or even what can be termed a perfect life. We strive to correct the wrongs/mistakes in our marriages/life and the end result when we don't give up is mostly the happiness you're looking for. Accep ...
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There is no perfect marriage or even what can be termed a perfect life. We strive to correct the wrongs/mistakes in our marriages/life and the end result when we don't give up is mostly the happiness you're looking for. Accept it or not the clock is ticking for your womb and the days are near when you will want one of your own around you but will not find one. This is the reality of life. You can't have it all.
Matata 8 years ago

didn't u learn summary in sch?

didn't u learn summary in sch?
yawuss 8 years ago

youg lady, you know your problem? lack of submissiveness and pride, that is what is killing young couples today.

youg lady, you know your problem? lack of submissiveness and pride, that is what is killing young couples today.
nana 8 years ago

Well we can't be in this world or live this life and be stiff or rigid in our ideas or philosophies. It's true that we have to be true to ourselves but it is more fulfilling to be able to allow ourselves some flexibility in a ...
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Well we can't be in this world or live this life and be stiff or rigid in our ideas or philosophies. It's true that we have to be true to ourselves but it is more fulfilling to be able to allow ourselves some flexibility in accommodating each other. There is also nothing wrong in teaching each other what we like or prefer especially in kissing or how we want to be treated passionately. A lot of relationships suffer because both parties are not willing to learn or be taught. If a guy is not touching you in the proper places that you as a lady know excites, what is the abomination in guiding him? Like the saying goes "if you don't comment when you're getting a haircut, they just barber you anyhow"
akira 8 years ago

I like your last sentence.

I like your last sentence.
Douglas 8 years ago

yes that"s her perception

yes that"s her perception
STONE 8 years ago

this is useless....u just want attention...very soon, u will be sent to auction and if no one buys u..then u will be sent to the junkyard.

this is useless....u just want attention...very soon, u will be sent to auction and if no one buys u..then u will be sent to the junkyard.
consent citizen 8 years ago

Stop talking about marriage all the time .No one is forcing you to get in to it.do you even have a man at all.Even Gifty is married.why did she not just date the man but went ahead to wed.don't wait when you are 60years befo ...
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Stop talking about marriage all the time .No one is forcing you to get in to it.do you even have a man at all.Even Gifty is married.why did she not just date the man but went ahead to wed.don't wait when you are 60years before you come out to say you have met the right man.marriage is not for everyone but stop coming out all the time to say it .it makes you look depressed and frustrated for marriage
Akosua 8 years ago

You're right marriage like all things that involve human beings is flawed but that does not take anything away from marriage itself. You could die crossing the road and some have died doing so but that does not take anything ...
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You're right marriage like all things that involve human beings is flawed but that does not take anything away from marriage itself. You could die crossing the road and some have died doing so but that does not take anything away from the utility of roads itself. Yes the conditions on the roads could be improved and a pedestrian is better off wearing reflective gear but one could still be knocked down all the same. I really doubt if you know yourself that well. Because if you did you would already know what kind of man or marriage would best suit you and would be in it by now.Our journey in this life is a learning curve that steeps at the point you surrender your life to Christ and let Him take control of it for you because girl, if you try to do it all by yourself you can be rest assured that whatever decision you make by yourself will lead you to a futile end.
Owukua 8 years ago

Great attempt at a winding write up.
Interesting way of expressing yourself.
You just deviated big time from your discomfort with weddings to settle on your thoughts about the institution of marriage. What exactly is it tha ...
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Great attempt at a winding write up.
Interesting way of expressing yourself.
You just deviated big time from your discomfort with weddings to settle on your thoughts about the institution of marriage. What exactly is it that you want to communicate? Are you getting desperate? Get a life! Your parents should be ashamed of you
Seasoned 8 years ago

Who the hell do you think you are? Life will get you married or single. U've seen nothing yet. Slow down! Being single doesn't guarantee u true happiness. U don't have the key to tomorrow. Stop cursing your self. Satan got yo ...
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Who the hell do you think you are? Life will get you married or single. U've seen nothing yet. Slow down! Being single doesn't guarantee u true happiness. U don't have the key to tomorrow. Stop cursing your self. Satan got you where he wants u! U go to restaurant and come out with lectures, u go to weddings and come out with lectures. Who died and made u a queen? Watch out!
Gm 8 years ago

she wants to slim down before she gets married so pls leave alone. That will be 60 years time. Useless talk.

she wants to slim down before she gets married so pls leave alone. That will be 60 years time. Useless talk.
Obama 8 years ago

Senseless analogy. Stupid thinking. A weak low self esteem idiot.

Senseless analogy. Stupid thinking. A weak low self esteem idiot.
joe 8 years ago

Your worldview...so i have no problem with it...nice read anyway....Nothing guarantees happiness in this world...we are all chasing after the wind....Beyond a certain threshold more money or anything doest make you more happi ...
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Your worldview...so i have no problem with it...nice read anyway....Nothing guarantees happiness in this world...we are all chasing after the wind....Beyond a certain threshold more money or anything doest make you more happier.
joe 8 years ago

You remember the first time you got anything that you had always wanted to have?..after the some time the joy fades away...and you want the next new thing....The key to life in my opinion is contentment...

You remember the first time you got anything that you had always wanted to have?..after the some time the joy fades away...and you want the next new thing....The key to life in my opinion is contentment...
Boateng. 8 years ago

Copy cut culture i see all around you.You are in typical Nigerian costume which shows how fake you can be.Your make-up is all fake and your attitude is not "toughtness" to Ghanaians.
You are neither the most educated or pret ...
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Copy cut culture i see all around you.You are in typical Nigerian costume which shows how fake you can be.Your make-up is all fake and your attitude is not "toughtness" to Ghanaians.
You are neither the most educated or prettiest woman in Ghana to make noise in our ears.You are a self acclaimed celebrity Lydia and your pride leads you nowhere.Over the years we've seen lots of ideal women in Ghana who are humble and respectful.You ain't shit dummy but a whore.You featured in only one movie with Chris Ato which brought you into limelight ie "Scorned" and you claim to be there yet?Tweakai! Vamus!
Don't throw dust into the eyes of potential marriage couples asshole!
Ogyam 8 years ago

"Death Sentence"!!! What words to choose! This damsel is funny to the bone! I don't blame you but movie producers who brought you out of darkness.When some women education,they loose their mental faculty and behave madly.Your ...
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"Death Sentence"!!! What words to choose! This damsel is funny to the bone! I don't blame you but movie producers who brought you out of darkness.When some women education,they loose their mental faculty and behave madly.Your dad and mum came together to plan and got you where you are ok?
Westernization is having negative impact on your thinking i guess.Damn fool!

Wedding ceremonies always felt like a death sentence - Lydia Forson

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