Can males and females be friends without benefit?

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P.Y. 9 years ago

By Bill Rawlings

By Bill Rawlings
MAHAMA KILLED MILLS!!!!!! 9 years ago

MA-HAMMAH 3TW3 SANITARY PAD DID NOT WORK!!! HE NEEDS VICKY HAMMAH'S FRIENDSHIP IN ORDER TO BENEFIT!!! MA-HAMMAH IS AN ABSOLUTE WASTE!!!!!!

MA-HAMMAH 3TW3 SANITARY PAD DID NOT WORK!!! HE NEEDS VICKY HAMMAH'S FRIENDSHIP IN ORDER TO BENEFIT!!! MA-HAMMAH IS AN ABSOLUTE WASTE!!!!!!
Osbon 9 years ago

I been going out with my married female friend for over 16 years and very happy with her without ever fancy her. But people falsely claim to her former and current husbands that she is my girl friend. Education is the key.

I been going out with my married female friend for over 16 years and very happy with her without ever fancy her. But people falsely claim to her former and current husbands that she is my girl friend. Education is the key.
GG 9 years ago

GHANA MEN SEES WOMEN TO BE SEXY OBJECTS AND WITH THESE PRIMITIVES BRAINS; NEVER WILL IT BE POSSIBLE

GHANA MEN SEES WOMEN TO BE SEXY OBJECTS AND WITH THESE PRIMITIVES BRAINS; NEVER WILL IT BE POSSIBLE
MENSA 9 years ago

IT IS POSSIBLE ONLY IF ...PEOPLE IN GHANA START TO UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT WOMENS AS HUMEN BEING AND NOT AS PEACE OF MEAT,WHICH UNFORTENATLY
IS NOT THE CASE YET. WOMEN ABUSE MUST STOP TAE HOLD IN ALL GOVT OFFICES AND PLACES ...
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IT IS POSSIBLE ONLY IF ...PEOPLE IN GHANA START TO UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT WOMENS AS HUMEN BEING AND NOT AS PEACE OF MEAT,WHICH UNFORTENATLY
IS NOT THE CASE YET. WOMEN ABUSE MUST STOP TAE HOLD IN ALL GOVT OFFICES AND PLACES OF WORK . BEFORE WE AS A NATION BECOME CEVILISED LIKE THE WEST RATHER THEN FOLLOW 3RD WORLD COUNTRIES AND THE ARAB WORLD THAT HAVE LITTLE AND /OR NO RESPECT FOR ANY FEAMLE.
HAWA YAKUBU 9 years ago

I support your observation my men. They have no respect for women. They got them (WOMEN) on some kind of intimidation trap and it's difficult for now to shake it off. The gander issue is nothing but a paper trail. Ghana needs ...
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I support your observation my men. They have no respect for women. They got them (WOMEN) on some kind of intimidation trap and it's difficult for now to shake it off. The gander issue is nothing but a paper trail. Ghana needs a woman president to change things. CPP is the party that will put a woman in power very soon.
Princeattapy Ribeiro USA 9 years ago

can male and femail be friends

can male and femail be friends
HAWA YAKUBU 9 years ago

Yes!! it happens every day. I am not sure of the modern Ghanaians those of us who are old school do have plenty friends without sex involved.

Yes!! it happens every day. I am not sure of the modern Ghanaians those of us who are old school do have plenty friends without sex involved.
john 9 years ago

MALE AND FEMALE CAN BE FRIEND WITHOUT SEX ,I AM AM EXAMPLE

MALE AND FEMALE CAN BE FRIEND WITHOUT SEX ,I AM AM EXAMPLE
Fofo 9 years ago

I am one, I love my female friends they are crazy . If these ladies were the only on earth, l would not have married. We are bound with respect & protection. Women r not only for sex . Afia & Nana stay bless.

I am one, I love my female friends they are crazy . If these ladies were the only on earth, l would not have married. We are bound with respect & protection. Women r not only for sex . Afia & Nana stay bless.
ewe daladam 9 years ago

this happen in Europe Canada ,usa and other modern countrys but in Ghana
there is no free ride too many low lifers like to take advantage of womens and don't seem to consider them equle in anything.ghana have a long way ...
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this happen in Europe Canada ,usa and other modern countrys but in Ghana
there is no free ride too many low lifers like to take advantage of womens and don't seem to consider them equle in anything.ghana have a long way to go falks
Ghanaman 9 years ago

Yes, politicians, judges, managers, policemen, etc.

Yes, politicians, judges, managers, policemen, etc.
A Proud Voltarian(APV) 9 years ago

I don't support such a friendship. Its bogus .

I don't support such a friendship. Its bogus .
TerriblY Spe cifi. 9 years ago

It can possible, for example John mahama and Ruby Adu Gyamfi.

It can possible, for example John mahama and Ruby Adu Gyamfi.
Osei Yao 9 years ago

THIS IS A WASTE OF SPACE. YOU DO NOT EVEN COME CLOSE TO UNDERSTANDING FRIENDSHIP. OBSERVE MAN-DOG RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WILL BEGIN TO GLIMPSE WHAT FRIENDSHIP IS. UNTIL THEN DON'T WASTE SPACE HERE.

THIS IS A WASTE OF SPACE. YOU DO NOT EVEN COME CLOSE TO UNDERSTANDING FRIENDSHIP. OBSERVE MAN-DOG RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WILL BEGIN TO GLIMPSE WHAT FRIENDSHIP IS. UNTIL THEN DON'T WASTE SPACE HERE.
HAWA YAKUBU 9 years ago

Women in Ghana can't achieve their right unless their fight is linked up with men who walk with mammoth balls.

Women in Ghana can't achieve their right unless their fight is linked up with men who walk with mammoth balls.
Kosi 9 years ago

Avoid it if you can!

Avoid it if you can!
princewilly@ymail.com 9 years ago

In a crowded city at a busy bus stop, a beautiful young woman who was waiting for a bus was wearing a tight mini skirt. As the bus stopped and it was her turn to get on, she became aware that her skirt was too tight to allow ...
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In a crowded city at a busy bus stop, a beautiful young woman who was waiting for a bus was wearing a tight mini skirt. As the bus stopped and it was her turn to get on, she became aware that her skirt was too tight to allow her leg to come up to the height of the first step of the bus. Slightly embarrassed and with a quick smile to the bus driver, she reached behind her to unzip her skirt a little, thinking that this would give her enough slack to raise her leg. Again, she tried to make the step only to discover she still couldn't. So, a little more embarrassed, she once again reached behind her to unzip her skirt a little more, and for the second time attempted the step, and, once again, much to her dismay, she could not raise her leg. With a little smile to the driver, she again reached behind a third time to unzip a little more and again was unable to make the step. About this time, a large Texan who was standing behind her picked her up easily by the waist and placed her gently on the step of the bus. She went ballistic and turned to the would be Samaritan and yelled, "How dare you touch my body! I don't even know who you are!" The Texan smiled and drawled, "Well, ma'am, normally I would agree with you, but after you unzipped my fly three times, I kinda figured we was friends!"
Wofa Kwame 9 years ago

This is not an issue. I have so many girl friends for over 20 years some of them are married and we are still friends. I know their husbands and their husbands know me. They knew my wife and my wife new them. They become frie ...
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This is not an issue. I have so many girl friends for over 20 years some of them are married and we are still friends. I know their husbands and their husbands know me. They knew my wife and my wife new them. They become friends. Yes, you can have girl friends without sex. It has never been a problem for me. Be honest to yourself. Respect our women they are not sex objects. They must be loved.
Yaovi 9 years ago

Having a female for a friend is like having a chicken for a pet. Sooner or later you would eat it!

Having a female for a friend is like having a chicken for a pet. Sooner or later you would eat it!
Jingle bell 9 years ago

if you don't eat it, it/she will eat you up. you will be doing donkey job for the baboon

if you don't eat it, it/she will eat you up. you will be doing donkey job for the baboon
AMB 9 years ago

Yes of course. Thats possible. It requires discipline from both.

Yes of course. Thats possible. It requires discipline from both.
Maame 9 years ago

it requires discipline from both sides, its always possible

it requires discipline from both sides, its always possible
Nyansasem 9 years ago

We make friends from every angle; some because you see them as victims of all kinds; some because of they are beautiful and you will want to get to what is under the skirt; some because they are fellow group members; some bec ...
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We make friends from every angle; some because you see them as victims of all kinds; some because of they are beautiful and you will want to get to what is under the skirt; some because they are fellow group members; some because of their classes, etc...

When the friendship originated because of the person was a victim and you wanted to help her, you don't consider her beauty and therefore might even reject her advances after you had helped her. However, when that friendship originated because you saw her as a beautiful in your church, neighborhood or school, no matter how discipline you are, after years of friendship, when both of you are found in a "strange' situation, you may have a 'quickie' and promised not to do that again. But it would happen again anyway..

Based on these example, the question is vague or stupid because the friendship needs to be specific.

Maame- may I ask whether or not you have been extremely careful with one of your male friends? You may take the 5th.
Nathaniel Quophy Appiah Holy 9 years ago

males and females can be friends for a long time without having sex or romance only if they know Christ

males and females can be friends for a long time without having sex or romance only if they know Christ
Joshua 9 years ago

its actually a possibility.if you simply cant accept being just friends with someone, whats the point having the person as a friend. healthy friendship could make the person seem like family where the 'benefits' is actually r ...
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its actually a possibility.if you simply cant accept being just friends with someone, whats the point having the person as a friend. healthy friendship could make the person seem like family where the 'benefits' is actually rare if not unthinkable.
Astone 9 years ago

It is almost impossible looking at the altitude of our generation .We all know very well that even the first man in creation couldn't survive the temptation ,meaning, God wanted us to stay far from each other even when blood ...
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It is almost impossible looking at the altitude of our generation .We all know very well that even the first man in creation couldn't survive the temptation ,meaning, God wanted us to stay far from each other even when blood siblings gets puberty.
Ak 9 years ago

Yes I think males and females can be friends without any benefits, sometimes you just click with someone with same interests sharing problems and supporting each other with advise and companionship.

Yes I think males and females can be friends without any benefits, sometimes you just click with someone with same interests sharing problems and supporting each other with advise and companionship.
Boama 9 years ago

No diversion. It could land you in trouble.

No diversion. It could land you in trouble.
maame Yaa 9 years ago

No wonder Ghana is going no where in developments and economic growth.Ghanaians mind set: Kwabena Amoah me nenamu! Music,drinks and sex.That`s all.

No wonder Ghana is going no where in developments and economic growth.Ghanaians mind set: Kwabena Amoah me nenamu! Music,drinks and sex.That`s all.
Regina Owusu 9 years ago

men and women can be just friends depending on their motives

men and women can be just friends depending on their motives
Obenfo 9 years ago

If men are marrying men and women are marrying women, why can't men genuinely befriend women?

I know a lady who divorced her husband and the next strange thing that the man realized was, his former wife had moved on to ma ...
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If men are marrying men and women are marrying women, why can't men genuinely befriend women?

I know a lady who divorced her husband and the next strange thing that the man realized was, his former wife had moved on to marry her best friend, and the two women are now living together as a married couple; what a strange world we all are moving into?

If men and women will now compete with each other on same sex marriage, who then is going to be the winner? Fruit for thought!
Daavi 9 years ago

TRUE FRIENDSHIP CONSISTS NOT IN THE MULTITUDE OF FRIENDS, BUT IN THEIR WORTH AND VALUE

TRUE FRIENDSHIP CONSISTS NOT IN THE MULTITUDE OF FRIENDS, BUT IN THEIR WORTH AND VALUE
Kumah Edward 9 years ago

it's highly inposible in these days . Because , the world is now full of sex.

it's highly inposible in these days . Because , the world is now full of sex.
Albert D. Bruce -Tagoe 9 years ago

Yes, it's somehow possible cos I believe it boils down to the mindset of both individuals. When the two have made up their mind that the relationship is strictly mutual friendship and no strings attached then it's possible bu ...
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Yes, it's somehow possible cos I believe it boils down to the mindset of both individuals. When the two have made up their mind that the relationship is strictly mutual friendship and no strings attached then it's possible but if the understanding and mindset ain't there then pls "na lie, well well".
#itsallgood
Man 9 years ago

The ultimate aim of boy/girl relationships is always romance, But if both are able to control sexual suggestions from each other from the onset, the relationship can remain as a true friendship between the two sexes.
The sa ...
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The ultimate aim of boy/girl relationships is always romance, But if both are able to control sexual suggestions from each other from the onset, the relationship can remain as a true friendship between the two sexes.
The same is nearly true for man/woman relationships but at a lesser percentage. here I speak as a man. There can be true friendship between a man and a woman even they both have their individual spouses. If such relationship developed from the boy/girl platform, it becomes even more spectacular. It helps both marriages to see other sides of male/female relationships.
kenneth 9 years ago

Friendship between males and females is one of the best unions ever like you rightly said.The crux of the issue is whether these two groups can have friendship without any strings attached.i sincerely believe people enter int ...
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Friendship between males and females is one of the best unions ever like you rightly said.The crux of the issue is whether these two groups can have friendship without any strings attached.i sincerely believe people enter into friendship for various reasons.men and women can have friendship on a mutual level easily.coming from a gender background i think it is a perfect union since God even created the institution of marriage.One cannot accept a life partner without first going through friendship.
MB, Germany 9 years ago

Not my cup of tea. Always know the limit and will never allow female friendship based on no strings if I am attracted. It will mostly not work, so I won't do because it could be a recipe for disaster. Try it and it works nice ...
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Not my cup of tea. Always know the limit and will never allow female friendship based on no strings if I am attracted. It will mostly not work, so I won't do because it could be a recipe for disaster. Try it and it works nicely from the onset but develops into multiple disasters i.e. split marriages, obstruction on end, double standards , gossip from observers and ill advice due to vested but unseen interests- too complicated baggage to take on besides children and daily concerns- JUST CUT IT OUT. Men, who over-indulge in female friendships, either often get into unnecessary troubles or cause unwanted problem.
Having said this, there must be express desire to be clear, open and unattached to the WHOLE WORLD. Unfortunately, the nature of women in general is they are intelligent, mostly covet in essence and economical in what information they like to share with the world. If adult males of the opposite sex should be friends, to what extent and what boundaries will they agree to observe? My own guess is about 90% of married men and women who indulge in this mode of friendship will suffer divorce in one way or the other. If I genuinely have a female friend and go on to marry, I will prefer my female friend to bond with my wife for the sake of clarity. Unfortunately, you will realise that many a time but not in all cases, female friends will never want to get on with your wife. There is always the odd knot to untie with women and most often, it’s only a matter of time they become unreasonable unless you have to SURRENDER.
I really like my female friends and will genuinely like to be off note but it’s so tricky. So genuinely let your wife to take over the friendship and vice versa. NOT SAFE to take this into marriage, have children and still maintain such divisionism. I do not think there is anything modern about this unclear sort of relationships as divorce in the western world is rampant for this very reason. AVOID IT IF YOU CAN and I know that the fair, wise and serious woman will get out of these KNOTS
ABUKARI Y ABDULAI YENDI 9 years ago

yes, it can be if at the first stage you both male female make clear to yourselves then it wil frieñds wighout you thinking about

yes, it can be if at the first stage you both male female make clear to yourselves then it wil frieñds wighout you thinking about
Nash 9 years ago

It can happen,
I hv alot of dem like dat.

It can happen,
I hv alot of dem like dat.
3tw3 de3 saa na 3te3 9 years ago

Infact, 3tw3 y3 d3 ampa. try me and see if it will suffice!

Infact, 3tw3 y3 d3 ampa. try me and see if it will suffice!
incharge 9 years ago

Is possible that a male and female can just be friends without romance.myself for instance i have a lot of close female friends that I share my problems with them and they also do same.

Is possible that a male and female can just be friends without romance.myself for instance i have a lot of close female friends that I share my problems with them and they also do same.
Soothsayer 9 years ago

When she begins to ask for little gifts, coins, pads, outings how can you continue to provide them when you know someone else is screwing her? Difficult to be a drum carrier.

When she begins to ask for little gifts, coins, pads, outings how can you continue to provide them when you know someone else is screwing her? Difficult to be a drum carrier.
George Dwomoh! 9 years ago

Having a female as best friend is like having a chick as a pet, u will 'eat' it someday.

Having a female as best friend is like having a chick as a pet, u will 'eat' it someday.
Gyan Johnson 9 years ago

This can be possible,cos ive also been friend with a lady for three years ,and even go to the extend of sleeping in the same room for one year without any sex,this can only happend with the mind.

This can be possible,cos ive also been friend with a lady for three years ,and even go to the extend of sleeping in the same room for one year without any sex,this can only happend with the mind.
Sarfo Gabriel 9 years ago

Absolutely NOOO,,,,males and females are something else oooooh

Absolutely NOOO,,,,males and females are something else oooooh

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