Head Pastor of Love Crusaders Chapel, Ernest Acquah Wesley, has cautioned single ladies against compulsorily marrying men who financed their education, helped them learn a trade, or set them up.

Speaking during a discussion themed “Choosing the Right Partner,” the clergyman addressed what he described as a growing mindset where acts of support, such as funding a woman’s education, helping her learn a trade, or setting her up in business, are later used as leverage for marriage.

According to him, such expectations are misplaced, stressing that genuine relationships should not be built on obligation or emotional debt.

He explained that a man cannot offer help and later demand love or marriage in return, especially if his intentions were never made clear from the beginning.

In a video that has circulated widely on social media, Reverend Acquah Wesley advised men to be transparent about their intentions before extending any form of support to a woman.

He noted that clarity at the early stages helps both parties avoid misunderstandings and emotional complications later on.

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“Marriage is not compulsory. The fact that you sponsored her through Nursing Training College does not mean she must marry you. Before you support a lady, let her know your intentions. If you want to marry her in the long term, tell her. If she agrees, you can go on and do what you want. If not, you don’t proceed so that no one gets hurt in the end,” he said.

He further explained that men always have a choice in such situations. If a woman does not share the same romantic interest, he said, the man can decide whether or not to continue offering support, rather than proceeding with expectations that may never be fulfilled.

Addressing women, Rev Acquah Wesley also cautioned against misinterpreting gestures of kindness as binding commitments.

He emphasised that receiving help does not automatically translate into an obligation to accept a marriage proposal.

“To the ladies, too, no man owes you marriage. If someone comes to you with ‘the Lord said you are my partner’, that person is a liar. Be mindful when collecting freebies from people, so do not think you have to marry them because of their gifts,” Rev Ernest Acquah Wesley added.

“Marriage is not compulsory. The fact that you sent her to nursing training doesn’t mean it’s mandatory for her to marry you. Before you do something for a lady, make your intentions known. If she rejects them, don’t proceed further. Ladies, no man owes you marriage either.”

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