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Sex, sermons and submission: Why I left the church

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  • Wisdom Kwakuvi 7 years ago

    Allotey Jacobs is a suspect for a proper investigation into mills death. The second person is the bodyguard of mills. Now giving Allotey's mills death must be investigated. From Allotey not mills wife knew of his sickness, h ...
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  • Samson 7 years ago

    What has your comment got to do with this article?

  • Kwame 7 years ago

    Some of the people bullied into paying Tithes even when they cant pay their bills are also women. And these women will defend their pastors to the death even though they are clearly in misery and once again the message of Tit ...
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  • Apostle Mawuetornam Dugbazah 7 years ago

    Kwame:

    Clearly, you are hallucinating with your conjecture. Where did you see anybody pay tithes without considering their bills? Give us the evidence please. Otherwise, keep quiet about tithing.

    Clearly, you DO NOT l ...
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  • Kwame 7 years ago

    Telling people to pay Tithes and go to paradise yet you build that paradise with their Tithes for yourself, wives, and kids right here on earth. You these azar pastors will all go and meet the true God one day.

  • Mawuetornam Dugbazah 7 years ago

    Hmmm. Another deceiver with no evidence. It's called gossip and it never benefits anybody. Why are men behaving so effeminately?

    Sincerely,
    Mawuetornam Dugbazah
    Gossips do not love truth.

  • Mr Bond 7 years ago

    The mystery writer is a disgraceful coward who could not provide his name and also could not name the church he or she quit.The mystery write did not give us the reason why he or she quit the church and could give information ...
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  • Hamza 7 years ago

    Mr bond, pls go back and read well, from what u are saying u didn't get a word of the writer which is a brilliant piece

  • Wisdom Kwakuvi 7 years ago

    When you left more came to the church. You leaving is your own problem.

  • Majeed 7 years ago

    Muhammad in the bible
    12/27/2014 - Religious - Article Ref: IC1310-5552
    By: Dr. Jamal A. Badawi
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    Those who follow the Apostle, the unlettered Prophet, Whom they find ...
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  • dadzie 7 years ago

    Really? Why are you Muslims always seeking relevance and confirmation from the bible? I have never seen a pastor preaching a sermon solely on Muhammad but in mosques and other places, you find imams and other clerics trying t ...
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  • Abdul 7 years ago

    For your information,the Quran Honours Mary as the women chosen above women of all the nations and their is a chapter dedicated to her in Quran called chapter 19, Mary and Jesus(Peace be on him) was the mightiest messengers o ...
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  • Gh Nie 7 years ago

    of course more came. where did it get u? only tithes, collection, monies upon monies just to enrich your pastor.
    God forgive us all our sins.
    Religion is the primary cause of all major problems in this world especially Afr ...
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  • JAH BLESS 7 years ago

    Thanks for your candid honesty on the bastardization of religion to suit various agendas deviating from the actual message of Jesus Christ.
    Domestic Violence is at uprecedented levels partly due to religious indoctrination. ...
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  • Africa Arise 7 years ago

    Simon – not Simon Peter

    Posted by Zia Shah

    By Sardar Anees Ahmad

    Abstract:

    Simon, according to the Gospels, was the foundation for the church and was given the title “Cephas” or “the rock” – “Peter ...
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  • NewDay 7 years ago

    Woman it's only ur education that has created arrogance in ur mind that's ur only problem.if ur really a true Christian go on and worship ur God &keep ur arrogance somewhere else.

  • Paa-kow 7 years ago

    Good article. More ink to your pen!

  • Fo Dela 7 years ago

    is this woman married or not? just a humble question.

  • sammeno 7 years ago

    Dela, what has your question got to do with this brilliant article?

  • VICTOR CARRILLACE OFINAM-ANTWI 7 years ago

    IF IT IS NOT A CRIME TO BUILD CASTLES IN THE AIR, IT MUST ALSO BE COMMENDABLE TO BE SINCERELY WRONG ABOUT BIBLICAL ISSUES. A MAN, AT A RIPE AGE, WHEN HE CONSIDERS HIMSELF WELL PREPARED, FINDS A WOMAN TO WIFE AND CARE FOR. THI ...
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  • Alberto 7 years ago

    You call this one sided article brilliant? What about the responsibility of the man in marriage or in the house. Why is it always the woman that have to move from her parents house to her husbands house?

  • Abdul 7 years ago

    The question still remains, why are more women converting than men to Islam ?
    Perhaps they realize their Soul is worth the Factual Research.

    1. The Bible Convicts Women as the original
    Sinners, (ie. Eve picking from the ...
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  • Aziz the ex-muslim 7 years ago

    There is no any Ecclesiaticus 22 in the bible. The book of Ecclesiastes end on the 12TH chapter.
    On adultry(Matthew 5:31-32). The man who marries a divorced woman commits adultry and her ex-husband carries the blame as well ...
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  • Abdul 7 years ago

    I wonder which bible version you have... check KJV.
    There are people who are generic. They make generic responses and they expect generic answers.

    But I'll try and address your ignorance.... come with me
    The Holy Qur’ ...
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  • Aziz the ex-muslim 7 years ago

    Sorry to say I used the Shia version of the quran so look for one if you were quoting from the Sunni version because the other chapter of the quran ie. surat noor may not be contained in yours.
    Anyway the fact that you did ...
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  • Abdul 7 years ago

    Thanks for your comment. But, tell me something, why do you discriminate so much between Jesus, may peace be on him and the Holy Ghost.

    Must Christians seem to obsess over Jesus and ignore the Holy Ghost, why is that? Oh o ...
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  • P Djamgbe 7 years ago

    Wow Abdul, what a rsponse! Just to add a few more such examples: it is also only in the bible that a whole Prophet married 4 women from the same household - two biological sisters and their servants at the same time. It is in ...
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  • P Djamgbe 7 years ago

    Wow Abdul, what a rsponse! Just to add a few more such examples: it is also only in the bible that a whole prophet married 4 women from the same household - two biological sisters and their servants at the same time. It is al ...
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  • KWAPPS 7 years ago

    Has your evil prophet Mohammed finished abusing under-ten year olds like Aisha whom he later married? Or did he not say to the illiterate normads that shooting stars was God throwing fire at witches trying to get into heaven.

  • Yaw, USA 7 years ago

    At long last, women are now waking up to critique the ignorance of so-called bishops.

  • Nana ajoa..US 7 years ago

    What has her marital status got to do with her piece of intellectual write up Mr man?..
    We've the mind to think and be individual be it man or woman and not be linked to some bogus pretense called marriage sometimes. .Thank ...
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  • Yaw, USA 7 years ago

    This is a good article. Some husbands even take their wives pay checks in the name of submission. Slavery in the eyes of the church. Some women over exaggerate the role of a preacher man. They want every aspect of their lives ...
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  • still rastafari 7 years ago

    nice article..the church is getting worse

  • Concerned 7 years ago

    True but article wasn't balanced. It appears to excuse demonic women. Those pastors must be exposed but wrong doing women cannot be ignored because some men are doing wrong. Fact is both men and women have good and bad and it ...
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  • still rastafari 7 years ago

    church leaders must focus the word not..

  • Benito.. 7 years ago

    Please read your Bible..
    Thanks..

  • Kofi 7 years ago

    Great writing and factual to the core,
    please write more and en-lighting this lost generation, the bible and the word of god is being abused so much in our part of the world.

  • Samson 7 years ago

    Wow sister, what an opinion piece! Well done. In fact Christianity has become 'churchianity'. The true Christian teachings espoused by Jesus are completely lost on the church leaders of today. You are right, materialism has t ...
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  • Okara Davies 7 years ago

    Good riddance! Well written and well said. I wish the pastors could get a copy of Chimamanda Adichie's book: We should all be feminists." Free copies are online.

  • AMUZU ATIKPO 7 years ago

    Okara,

    Please provide the link. I've googled but could not get a free PDF copy. Thanks

  • Agyaaku 7 years ago

    You sound like you're the descendant of Adam's first wife, Lilith - read Genesis 1:27. According to the Midrash, this first woman, who was created equally from the earth, just like Adam, refused to submit to Adam; and even du ...
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  • Abra Kuma 7 years ago

    Kindred of My Spirit!
    You have stated facts as they are. Neither man nor woman who is sincere, honest, and true to self and to fellow human being can live by such one-sided religious dictates. The best and most humane edict ...
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  • Me 7 years ago

    Once you use the bible to argue your point you contradict yourself because the bible is full of contradictions and so many things that does not make sense. So we have so many crooks calling themselves men of Gods using the bi ...
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  • Apostle Mawuetornam Dugbazah 7 years ago

    Dear Feminist:

    It is clear from your writing that you have been dealt a few wrong hands by the "church" assembly you chose to agree with instead of the Word of God. Many of these "African churches" DO NOT teach sound churc ...
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  • Apostle Mawuetornam Dugbazah 7 years ago

    ...not everything that is wisdom is explicitly stated in scripture.

    You are obviously a feminist who HATES truth. The Bible did not need to tell you that a woman should know how to cook. A responsible ADULT must know how ...
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  • Prince Amoako 7 years ago

    Totally agree with Apostle. Despite her attempt at addressing sexism in the church, the article clearly sets out at sexism against men and showed the writer as a sexist feminist.The article did not address the valid issues ra ...
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  • Kofi-Houston 7 years ago

    The writer is not feminist. Rather she tells the truth. Am sure you are living in a true jungle with occasional access to Internet. You have to be ashamed of yourself.

  • Apostle Mawuetornam Dugbazah 7 years ago

    Kofi:

    Since you are an emotional reasoner, it is important to learn a very simple thing. Learn to read.

    This woman is a feminist as noted from her web site and past confession. Where were you when she was writing? Obvi ...
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  • sammeno 7 years ago

    You think so? What about you who seeks to use the Bible to enslave another person or deny her her right to freedom of BEING as created in the image of God?

  • Apostle Mawuetornam Dugbazah 7 years ago

    If you really read your Bible, you would know that the woman is a WOMBED-man and that the male was created in the LIKENESS of God. Both male and female are God's creation; one is the EXACT replica of the Almighty.

    Now, do ...
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  • kk 7 years ago

    It is sad the way people are deceived that just for the fact that they can do basic reasoning that is enough to challenge everything. Even though some preachers are doing their own things, using that as a yardstick to judges ...
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  • When it involves you? 7 years ago

    AND WHAT DID YOUR CULTURE TEACH?

  • ANABA TWO. E-mail:anabatwo@gmail.com 7 years ago

    Thank you very RIGHT I hope you have just see very tiny of TODAY'S DECEITFUL SO-CALLED BIG MEN OF GOD. The biggest LIE IS THAT NOWHERE ANY PERSON CANT QUESTION REAL PASTOR OR THESR THIEVES CALLED PASTOTS. Let me prove you, Go ...
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  • Isaac 7 years ago

    My dear, if two bosses live in the same office, what do you think will happen? Imagine two Presidents in Ghana.

    God created the world this way to give it balance. When you are attacked by an armed rubber, who will you ...
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  • Ekow 7 years ago

    I am a man but I really like this article, especially about the behaviour of our "men of God". Looking forward for another piece!

  • Ato 7 years ago

    Where in the Bible can we all read Monthly Dues, Kofi & Amma collection, Children & Adult Harvest and Tithe?

  • Prince Amoako 7 years ago

    Your article seeks to condemn sexism in the church but what it has done is show that you are a sexist. The church preaches on what the babvile says and not what feminists like yourself want christians to beleive.Its either yo ...
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  • reginald dodoo 7 years ago

    I agree with the lady who wrote this article In the 21 century some so called pastors and the so called men of god has created has so many so called churches inviting vulnerable men and women to take their hard earned money t ...
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  • Kofi-Houston 7 years ago

    Have always joked that these so called men of God their disgusting bank account alone will sentence them to hell during judgement day.

  • Kwasi Heaven 7 years ago

    You can not just point of a word from a man of God and start condemning as if there are no proper teachings in the bible. You are only searching for husband and will find none since you are looking for the one who will be coo ...
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  • Ama, London 7 years ago

    Where from this personal attack? Why do you hate the truth? We live in the days where women are forced to marry only guys who assist bishops in Accra. Opportunistic pastors who reap where they did not ......

  • Kwasi Heaven 7 years ago

    Men of God : they are men worshipping God so don't expect them to be always right , I guess you go to church to worship them and have now realised they are men and not God.

  • Kofi-Houston 7 years ago

    Nice piece! I believe in women empowerment. I believe world without religion would be peaceful.

  • Bobby 7 years ago

    This article is very good. I am a man but share a lot of your thoughts. You are very courageous to have been able to write this. And I like the simplicity of use of language in this piece. You may relax at home on Sundays and ...
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  • oion and garlic 7 years ago

    I love your insight, argument, presentation (with satisfactory evidence for the space and piece), intelligently funny anecdotes: I love you for writing this VERY NECESSARY piece, how you wrote it, and sharing it here. It is f ...
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  • Church-n-Falsehoods 7 years ago

    Martin Luther, go ahead and tack your 95 theses on the door of the church at Wittenberg!

  • Isaac 7 years ago

    You left so what!! Your article is meanlingness. Reaf ur bible well . NOVICE WRITER!

  • Araba, London 7 years ago

    You don't stop serving bishops instead of God.It is silly to think that when you are loyal to a bishop it means you are pleasing God. It means that bishop would not have founded his own church. Mad men.

  • Isaac 7 years ago

    This is not a brilliant article to any real christian. NO SENSE IN IT

  • Eben, Canada 7 years ago

    Because you are psychotic. Loyalty loyalty and they are putting you under slavery.

  • dadzie 7 years ago

    This article isn't really written from a calm and collected writer. It's a response from anger. You mention church but confuse yourself as a Christian. You can't leave church and still be a Christian because the body of Chris ...
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  • Eben, Canada 7 years ago

    and what is written in your bible? That you must not think critically when you are being abused.Bishops instructing people's daughter under the pretext of sermon to marry certain men because they are committed to their selfis ...
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  • KKK 7 years ago

    If this writer has ever believed in the Scriptures/Bible, he/she should read 'Phillipeans 2:12' and think again. His opinions of other people will be no excuse for foresaking Salvation.

  • 3dem 7 years ago

    Nyamewaa, how dare you, didn't you read in the bible that when God created them, he put Adam in the sitting room and gave him the T.V. remote and daily graphic; and then put Eve in the kitchen?

  • Abra Kuma 7 years ago

    Edem, you are too, too funny-ooo!

    Woe is any adult who cannot cook - s/he shall go hungry many a day in his/her life time until s/he learns the basics; likewise, woe is any driver who cannot change a tyre; s/he shall be s ...
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  • jcamcam 7 years ago

    Ahahahahahaha....brilliant ! Just brilliant!

  • Oscar 7 years ago

    PREACH THE GOSPEL OF CHRIST JESUS AND NOT TRADITIONS,PRECERPTS AND COMMANDMENTS OF MEN.

  • Sarpong 7 years ago

    Thanks and God bless you. But don't leave the church.

  • Isaac 7 years ago

    I don't think you allowed the Holy Spirit to minister to you as an individual, I'll plead with you to seek the Holy Spirit who shall lead you into all truth . finally seek your salvation.

  • Eben, Canada 7 years ago

    Holy spirit does not come in.Personal ego of some pastors.

  • Sasraku 7 years ago

    Many who attend Church, even if occasionally, think they are in the Church. I'm afraid, based on many of the things you've shared, that you were not in the Church to begin with. You enter the Church through a genuine experie ...
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  • K Mensah 7 years ago

    Someone should educate me. Are men biologically different from women? If yes, does this difference influence the roles of men and women in marriage ? I believe God created this difference for a purpose. It amazes me that so ...
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  • Joeman 7 years ago

    You're a defined man, not just in the write up , but your critical presentation of the lopsided Christian virtues driven purely by greed. Monetization and falsehood poored on to the innocent believers is quite worrying and un ...
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  • Joeman 7 years ago

    Does holy spirit ordain some blessed few feed and deceive the masses ? Leaving church is different from leaving God . Go and read the good Samaritan in Bible and begin to redefine your perception about whom a disciple or Chri ...
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  • Hot 7 years ago

    The writer is definitely a woman.You are very ignorant and proud and so,I wouldn't waste too much time responding.You wanted to raise your hand in church to ask the Pastor where it says a woman should submit to a man in the B ...
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  • 3dem 7 years ago

    "The man is the head of the woman" that was a curse in the garden of Eden. If Jesus Christ has come to die to break those curses then why are we still claiming them? or is it because it favours men. When we keep preaching thi ...
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  • sammeno 7 years ago

    Edem, you may also asked them what they think Paul meant when he stated that "In Christ, there is neither male nor female".

  • Hot 7 years ago

    3dem thanks for your response.I just needed to correct you quickly.The church must be careful not to allow world knowledge to distort what the Bible teaches.The Bible asks the man to love his wife and the wife to submit.This ...
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  • Peter G. 7 years ago

    Sister, you have done well in speaking out. The reason why these so called men of God seem to be thriving is because the true men of God are not standing up to confront the false with the truth. Find yourself a true bible bel ...
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  • gh 7 years ago

    Nnyamewaa why are you abusing the word of God! Women can never be equal to men. The man is the head of the house. The Bible says curse be upon anyone who add or remove any word from the Bible. If you have left the Church go ...
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  • Wang 7 years ago

    The writer has a point, no two ways about that. But Usain Bolt runs 100m in 9.58 seconds, in actual fact less than 10 seconds. Can the writer tell me any woman both dead or alive who can do better or equal or come close? Ther ...
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  • Mcbee 7 years ago

    Hmmm sometimes its better to be quiet....i dnt know how far dis writer have learn the bible.Easy to critisize do u noe hw to even start a church....Plz writer start your church ok and preach what d word of God tells you.

  • Malcom x 7 years ago

    My dear sister, I share your sentiment but note that the path uv chosen wld not make u any happier. Don't let your enlightenment be your downfall. I'm busy professional n wld not have time to respond to your article now.

  • Christ Love 7 years ago

    in as much as some of your words may be true, I believe what you're having is inferiority complex, you seems to be connecting dots that do not exist.
    You are taking statements out of their context and somehow find a way to ...
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  • KDM 7 years ago

    TryIslam

  • Dessie 7 years ago

    There are rules to worship God(The Ten Commandments )in which every Christian follow;And also rules in our societal which we live and if you disobey the rules and the laws,punishment there to faces but God rules and laws exce ...
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  • BJ 7 years ago

    Read 1st Corinthians 14:33-40
    1st Timothy 11-15

  • K. Lartey 7 years ago

    What a wonderful piece.

  • me 7 years ago

    Don't leave the church. Find the right chuch.

  • jcamcam 7 years ago

    Such an amazing writer. I just love u.

  • Me 7 years ago

    What truth is she telling? Go to any of these so called "churches" and you will find that the majority of the congregants are women who go there to satisfy their greed for material things and to look for patners.Don't look fu ...
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  • lelee 7 years ago

    Darkness and light cant meet darkness must go.

  • Tsatsebi 7 years ago

    My Dear Sister, I applaud you for the thought-provoking and beautiful essay. I wish all men and women in Ghana and Africa would read this and see the light. We need women like you in our homes. God bless you.

  • OPNINPA 7 years ago

    You call yourself a christian because of fear. You are made to believe leaving abandoning christianity means you are abandoning God. Not so. Christianity exiled God to goodness knows where and they are expecting him to come ...
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  • AMY BLAKE 7 years ago

    A good one there! Well thought-out, well-written, well-argued and easy on the eye.

  • Kelly 7 years ago

    Hello there. Looking at ministers with eyes of suspicion and hatred will always make you overemphasize their pitfalls. Have you made mistakes? Dyu make mistakes?

    I thought u were also going to provide scriptural reference ...
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  • adu 7 years ago

    Foolish well not understanding?it???but patients

  • Alberto 7 years ago

    Stupid article. You claim some women broke the rules and went to war. What rule did they break? Certain things are for men and certain things are for women. You cannot never change that with all your education and Beijing non ...
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