Have you seen how our people are confused when trying to explain what an engagement means in the West and what our equivalent is? Haha! Following other peoples tradition is leading to argument in the marriage from the outset ... read full comment
Have you seen how our people are confused when trying to explain what an engagement means in the West and what our equivalent is? Haha! Following other peoples tradition is leading to argument in the marriage from the outset because of the birth of debt into the matrionial home!
You are very right to bring this subject up.
GHFUO, BE SERIOUS NOT PRIDEFUL! 10 years ago
I WOULD RATHER KEEP THE MONEY N SPEND IT WITH MY WOMAN ON THE HNEYMOON. DO A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE. GO TO CITY HALL N DO THE SIGNATURE. HAVE A SMALL CEREMONY WITH A PASTOR PRESENT TO BLESS THE VOWS. HAVE A DINNER AT A BIG REST ... read full comment
I WOULD RATHER KEEP THE MONEY N SPEND IT WITH MY WOMAN ON THE HNEYMOON. DO A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE. GO TO CITY HALL N DO THE SIGNATURE. HAVE A SMALL CEREMONY WITH A PASTOR PRESENT TO BLESS THE VOWS. HAVE A DINNER AT A BIG RESTAURANT. IF PPL WANT TO BRIG GIFTS OR MONEY. U CAN DO IT ALL AT THE RESTAURANT. AFTER THAT, SAY BYE BYE TO EVERYONE N GO ON YOUR 2 WEEK HONEYMOON. NO NEED TO WASTE MONEY. WHITE WEDDING IS COLONIAL. OUTDATED. JUST TO PUT PPL IN DEBT. HAVNT U REALISED THAT WEDDINGS N DIVORCES ESP. IN THE WEST IS VERY EXPENSIVE? THE BANKS ARE THE ONE PUSHING FOR THIS. THE MORE THEY KEEP YOU IN DEBT, THE RICHER THE BANKS GET.
CITIZEN ONE 10 years ago
Yes, and my question was going to be: Can you really survive without the influence of western culture? Which in my opinion is "Human Culture". Just because white people started it first or thought about it first, and have gon ... read full comment
Yes, and my question was going to be: Can you really survive without the influence of western culture? Which in my opinion is "Human Culture". Just because white people started it first or thought about it first, and have gone farther to refine it does not mean they own it.
Some of you half educated people make me sick to the stomach. We are still not completely civilized, and for the survival of the human race, we all as humans need to be fully civilized. We should be grateful to our white fellow humans for their accomplishments.
You must recognize that human nature is such that one will gravitate towards good, positive, beautiful, pleasant and warm environments. Every single one of you here, at worst over 75% of your lifestyles and existence is based on something foreign, but oh yes you have to have selective judgment over what you deem traditional. I am 120% black and Ghanaian, and quite frankly, I do not subscribe to any single Ghanaian or black American tradition. I find it all obnoxious and backward. You people should again recognize that if we as a people had anything better or competitive to offer, westerners will be doing as we do. Why is it that the African always like to lump the entire race together when they have personal issues? Westerners do a lot of crazy things, and the responsibility always lies on the individual. I have seen white people do ignorant things while in Ghana that I will never do (I will not elaborate). But guess what, I know a Ghanaian will make an ignorant statement such as "even a white man in Ghana does it, and you think you are better"...and so on and so forth. This article is ignorantly expressed, every Ghanaian or African at this point in time and century have their prerogatives, and we are no more tribal jungle dwellers with minute territories. Live and let die! I have known many Ghanaian who have gotten married their own way and style without all the traditional fanfare you have mentioned above, creating the dumb impression that every Ghanaian is more inclined to be married the village way. We have this innate habit of taking good things and distorting them horridly, and calling it a culture or tradition. Look at Accra today, a total mess compares to what the colonialists left us with. Should we not erase down Accra and begin a village setting with footpaths and huts? Street hawkers strolling down the middle of a busy motorway, and citizens patronizing them shamelessly. Do we need cars and motorways with this kind of attitude? Right smack in the middle of Westland Legon street asphalt, a woman is walking down the road laden with heaps of firewood and her head, and trailing her is a 7 or 8 year old daughter, equally laden with a huge chunk of a tree trunk. My heart froze for a moment. Going in the opposite direction, I could not follow up with my thoughts, but I wanted to stop, pick the log of the little girls head and fling it far off. Yes, it is illegal, and I feel compelled as a civic responsibility to intervene. These are the things you have to be worrying about Lady Marian Juliet, thank you!
Do you still bath along the river banks?
Do you still use charcoal irons to straighten out your clothes, that is if you even need to?
Do you cook with firewood and a coal pot still?
Do you ever use a septic tank to ease yourself?
Do you actually wear shoes and sandals?
I could actually go on and on to debunk this myth about you Ghanaian traditionalists, but I will leave the rest to your imagination.
Joe Kojo 10 years ago
Citizen One, is that why you are out there cleaning whiteman's poopoo? No one will stop you continue doing that and do nothing for yourself. If you truely are a Ghanaian, there should be something to make you what you are. Th ... read full comment
Citizen One, is that why you are out there cleaning whiteman's poopoo? No one will stop you continue doing that and do nothing for yourself. If you truely are a Ghanaian, there should be something to make you what you are. There is nothing backward about the processes Marian highlighted. She has ably pointed out the unecessarily high cost in adopting a cultural practice which is non Ghanaian. Are you suggesting that it is good to continue paying these very high marragge bills? If yes then I will encourage you to continue cleaning whiteman's shit!!
LIZ 10 years ago
Stop your backward thinking. We are all not toilet cleaners here. Some of us are professionals with good paying jobs.
Stop your backward thinking. We are all not toilet cleaners here. Some of us are professionals with good paying jobs.
b awonye 10 years ago
I think what citizen one may be trying to say is that yes, hold in high esteem traditions but, move on, make changes to reflect the times regarding the obsolete parts of traditional practices within a traditional set up. That ... read full comment
I think what citizen one may be trying to say is that yes, hold in high esteem traditions but, move on, make changes to reflect the times regarding the obsolete parts of traditional practices within a traditional set up. That after all, before a certain time when there were no baths people bathed either in the sea, by streams or rivers, then they changed with the times where relevant and pertinent. With all races copying and learning form each other. so long as it is good practice others the whole world over are bound to follow suit. So the ball is in your court. This Christian song may suffice ‘’Yesterday is gone another day is here…..Dear Lord God Do something, beautiful in my life x 3,......etc . lovely. X3... I pray''
v v 10 years ago
well said,but i belive everytin must be within ur reach.if yu cant afford it,do it in a small way that will glorify God.
well said,but i belive everytin must be within ur reach.if yu cant afford it,do it in a small way that will glorify God.
yaw boateng 10 years ago
Excuse me,you're using knowledge but not wisdom. Marriage has nothing to do with civilization. Have you consider the first known marriage in the garden of eden? All these lavish western styles of marriage are for making money ... read full comment
Excuse me,you're using knowledge but not wisdom. Marriage has nothing to do with civilization. Have you consider the first known marriage in the garden of eden? All these lavish western styles of marriage are for making money business
b awonye 10 years ago
I think your simplified version is all in good taste. You have declared your intention(s), done the traditional, taken it further undertaking a civil ceremony, having the church bless the marriage and celebrating in a restaur ... read full comment
I think your simplified version is all in good taste. You have declared your intention(s), done the traditional, taken it further undertaking a civil ceremony, having the church bless the marriage and celebrating in a restaurant all in one go )and in one day+. Good on you. Save money!
Zenith 10 years ago
'...white weddings are not necessary; ... a waste of money.' You,re entitled to your view. And of course a point there.Not quite bad a write-up. Keep it up. I can see your great potential; but try to get your articles edited ... read full comment
'...white weddings are not necessary; ... a waste of money.' You,re entitled to your view. And of course a point there.Not quite bad a write-up. Keep it up. I can see your great potential; but try to get your articles edited to purge them of petty avoidable errors.
BRAVEBOY 10 years ago
This has always been my position and if a lady has seen the light, then we are heading towards the right direction and what we need is the churches who created the problem in the first place to have a change of heart.
You ... read full comment
This has always been my position and if a lady has seen the light, then we are heading towards the right direction and what we need is the churches who created the problem in the first place to have a change of heart.
You did not touch on the Islamic marriage and I will urge you to study and do so next time. I am a christian but after a bit of life experiences, I thank God I am from Ghana and have a heart to tolerate other religions. I doubt if the Muslims have the two marriage process of us Christians.
Nana Panin 10 years ago
You are on point.
You are on point.
Christy 10 years ago
Hi Marian, thanks for your article. In my opinion I think that the legal issues involved in marriage make weddings or marriage under the ordinance "inevitable".
This is because if a couple do not register their marriage, ... read full comment
Hi Marian, thanks for your article. In my opinion I think that the legal issues involved in marriage make weddings or marriage under the ordinance "inevitable".
This is because if a couple do not register their marriage, it may have implications in the future. An example is when a partner or a spouse dies, the family members can demand the deceased's property or it may be shared under the discretion of the law . The other spouse will have no legal backing. Also Foreign Embassy's require proof of marriage (certificate) before visas are issued.
To help solve this issue, I think pastors,Ministers or Imams should either take the marriage certificate to the traditional marriage ceremony or find a way of incorporating the legal and blessings aspect of the weddings into the traditional marriage.
The government should make it easy for couple to be legally registered at the traditional marriage level.
I once witnessed a marriage where the traditional ceremony took place on a Saturday, and on the Sunday the couple came to church to thank God for a successful marriage. They were then made to sign their marriage certificate on that Sunday.
I think this was beautiful and should be learned by others. Simplicity is always beautiful.
Joe Kojo 10 years ago
Christy, registration and certification of marriages does not necessarily require you to have a whiteman's wedding. You can always go and register and certify any customary marriage. please find out from the Registra General.
Christy, registration and certification of marriages does not necessarily require you to have a whiteman's wedding. You can always go and register and certify any customary marriage. please find out from the Registra General.
Akosua 10 years ago
that's the point she is making.
that's the point she is making.
Agyeman 10 years ago
I'd rather have a "come we stay" type of wedding.No hassle,no vows and no unecceasry expenses yet its easier to dissolve.
I'd rather have a "come we stay" type of wedding.No hassle,no vows and no unecceasry expenses yet its easier to dissolve.
Nii SAM, Nigeria. 10 years ago
My friend you are a small child that is why you do not know the advantage of white wedding.
1. White Wedding is for Certification.
2. It is recognised in the Law Court.
3. Recognised in the whole world.
4. Qualify you to ... read full comment
My friend you are a small child that is why you do not know the advantage of white wedding.
1. White Wedding is for Certification.
2. It is recognised in the Law Court.
3. Recognised in the whole world.
4. Qualify you to get Visa to join your Husband Abroad. and lots more.
So my dear friend before writing such articles, consult well learned people to Educate you on the topic you want to publish. ThankS. SAM
Critical Thinking 10 years ago
In response to the comment above, it is clear that the learned commenter doesn't understand the difference between a white wedding and a marriage certificate. He says
1. White Wedding is for Certification. - A white wedding ... read full comment
In response to the comment above, it is clear that the learned commenter doesn't understand the difference between a white wedding and a marriage certificate. He says
1. White Wedding is for Certification. - A white wedding has nothing to do with certification. The certifying of the wedding is done by signing the marriage certificate. This can be done at any time, and can be done (and is done) for the 'traditional wedding' also.
2. It is recognised in the Law Court. - This is not true. The wedding is not recogised in a court of law. The marriage certificate is recognised.
3.Recognised in the whole world - Also not true
4. Qualify you to get Visa to join your Husband Abroad. and lots more - Also not true. You need the marriage certificate, not a white wedding for a visa.
The marriage certificate is the legal document that underpins a marriage. This certificate is not required of a traditional union, but it is advised to get one.
Akosua 10 years ago
Thanks for your comment, i was about to say the same thing. I think he should read the article before calling the lady a small child.
Thanks for your comment, i was about to say the same thing. I think he should read the article before calling the lady a small child.
KWABENA OHEMENG,LONDON. 10 years ago
You rather do not know what you are talking about.You are one of those who believe that everything introduced by the whiteman is superior.Where
in the Bible is it said that marriages should be blessed in churches before it ... read full comment
You rather do not know what you are talking about.You are one of those who believe that everything introduced by the whiteman is superior.Where
in the Bible is it said that marriages should be blessed in churches before it is accepted by God?And who told you that customary marriages are not legally accepted and prevent you from getting a visa?All that you need to is to register your customary marriage and get a marriage certificate and you are alright.Customary marriages even last longer than your so-called white wedding certificated marriages.
Okomfo,London 10 years ago
Sam, you have exposed your ignorance to the world.You are a disgrace.
Sam, you have exposed your ignorance to the world.You are a disgrace.
yaw boateng 10 years ago
Oh please you have to rather do your research. The marriage certificate is not issue just bcos of your white wedding. The requirements of marriage certificate doesn't include the white wedding.
Oh please you have to rather do your research. The marriage certificate is not issue just bcos of your white wedding. The requirements of marriage certificate doesn't include the white wedding.
Nokwarekafo 10 years ago
My customary marriage , with affidavit of support from my family sa wittnesses was accepted at the American Embassy.
My customary marriage , with affidavit of support from my family sa wittnesses was accepted at the American Embassy.
nicman@atl 10 years ago
you did not stay with you grand parent. you mean borrow wear wedding has advantages
you did not stay with you grand parent. you mean borrow wear wedding has advantages
Nyameasem 10 years ago
Hi Marian,
Thanks for your noble thinking and contribution to the society.
The pastors of Ghana should take thought from your advice.
It is very painful seeing people with envelopes in the streets of Ghana searching for mo ... read full comment
Hi Marian,
Thanks for your noble thinking and contribution to the society.
The pastors of Ghana should take thought from your advice.
It is very painful seeing people with envelopes in the streets of Ghana searching for money/loans/others for this purpose.
We should ask ourselves what is marriage, is it a begging institution?
Now marriage trending to be different to me, sometimes difficult to comment.
Let those who have ears to listing.
KWABENA OHEMENG,LONDON. 10 years ago
Wite weddings are just 'show-offs' and have nothing to do with our culture.Moreover nowhere is it stipulated in the Bible that marriages should be blessed in the churches before it is accepted by God.It is part of the whitema ... read full comment
Wite weddings are just 'show-offs' and have nothing to do with our culture.Moreover nowhere is it stipulated in the Bible that marriages should be blessed in the churches before it is accepted by God.It is part of the whiteman's culture strongly embraced by the churches and some ghanaians who think that it is more superior than our customary marriage.
Joe Kojo 10 years ago
The question is, how many white men take their weddings to churches for blessing? How many of them even get married? It is well known that more than 70% of them cohabit without marrying.
The question is, how many white men take their weddings to churches for blessing? How many of them even get married? It is well known that more than 70% of them cohabit without marrying.
TROUBLE-MAKER 10 years ago
My brother wanted to marry his girlfriend and wants me to buy him a suit for the wedding.I told him if you could not afford to buy your own suit for the wedding it means you are not ready for the marriage.
The marriage didn` ... read full comment
My brother wanted to marry his girlfriend and wants me to buy him a suit for the wedding.I told him if you could not afford to buy your own suit for the wedding it means you are not ready for the marriage.
The marriage didn`t go on and few months down the road the lady was caught sleeping with another man and they broke up.
A Cousin duped me of Ten Million old cedis to help set up a chemist but used it for white wedding instead.
Some took up loans to finance the wedding and the pressure of repayment suddenly put enormous strain on the relationship resulting in divorce few months after the wedding.
Sister,thank you for coming out with this article.It might help few people to change their minds.
WELL DONE.
Okomfo,London 10 years ago
Thank you very much Marian.You've said it all.Those who consider the customary marriage an engagement are just ignorants who need better education on marriage.
Thank you very much Marian.You've said it all.Those who consider the customary marriage an engagement are just ignorants who need better education on marriage.
v v 10 years ago
i think simplicity is the best.everybody has a preference.
i think simplicity is the best.everybody has a preference.
v v 10 years ago
Marian talk to the women who have made life soo difficult n unbearable for some of us young guys.excessive competition among the women,all they say is that'my friend did it this way n soo i must tread on same grounds'.
Marian talk to the women who have made life soo difficult n unbearable for some of us young guys.excessive competition among the women,all they say is that'my friend did it this way n soo i must tread on same grounds'.
Alhaji Karantao 10 years ago
White weddings are indeed unnecessary.The whites themselves are trying hard to avoid the expenses involved. The whites will be very happy to have our customary system. In fact they will refer to it as very civilized.
White weddings are indeed unnecessary.The whites themselves are trying hard to avoid the expenses involved. The whites will be very happy to have our customary system. In fact they will refer to it as very civilized.
Kex 10 years ago
What the whites do is their customary syetem, it is us who because of colonisation are confused. Please leave the whites alone, they marry by church or by state.
What the whites do is their customary syetem, it is us who because of colonisation are confused. Please leave the whites alone, they marry by church or by state.
kojo 10 years ago
kidos to the writer,Mariam. yes, it is a fact that the white wedding almost always comes with registration, but that does not make it any legal or valid than the other marriages, which of course could also be registered for s ... read full comment
kidos to the writer,Mariam. yes, it is a fact that the white wedding almost always comes with registration, but that does not make it any legal or valid than the other marriages, which of course could also be registered for security
kojo 10 years ago
the churches are the problem, all because they use the occasion to make money and pull crowd. i tell u what, majority of those flamboyant white weddings end up in break ups than any other simple marriage. find out from the co ... read full comment
the churches are the problem, all because they use the occasion to make money and pull crowd. i tell u what, majority of those flamboyant white weddings end up in break ups than any other simple marriage. find out from the courts
Abeeku Mensah 10 years ago
We are what we are in Africa and it shows. Look here, from Algeria to South Africa and from Gambia to Ethiopia there is nothing authentic African any longer. Our system of governance, the legal systems and our so-called forma ... read full comment
We are what we are in Africa and it shows. Look here, from Algeria to South Africa and from Gambia to Ethiopia there is nothing authentic African any longer. Our system of governance, the legal systems and our so-called formal wear are not of African origins. Can you explain why people wear three piece suits as the appropriate attire to work or to our parliament when we live in nations where the average annual temperatures are around 80 degree F? Did Ghana's parliament not sanction one of its own members for wearing a less than perfect Euro-centric attire? Do the justices on our court benches not wear their white wigs? Where do you think that came from on the African continent? There are things we need to learn from developed nations but learning and learning well from civilized cultures cannot be misconstrued as blindly copying any and all things without amending or modifying them to be a fit or augment the new culture and environment to ensure proper assimilation. Do you think Africa’s rich want to be at par with its middle class and the poor?
By engaging in these activities the rich and the pretenders in society surmise it takes them a notch above the rest. Why else do you think Ghana's rich can steal our collective money from government, have no shame and or conscience about their misdeeds and yet rob our noses in their outright thievery? We have created an amoral society where being judged to be rich, acquiring wealth by foul means is the “it” desire and no one gives a darn about people who earn their living the moral and righteous way? Why else do you think we have preachers who have chosen bible verses to explain away their stealing from their very mostly poor congregants as ordained by the Christian God but cannot accept the simple lesson of the Bible that a sin is a sin?
Grammar Police 10 years ago
For a KNUST student, your grammar is poor. Very poor. Marian, you need to work on your writing skills, or, better still, let someone proofread your work the next time before you get it published. In line with other people's c ... read full comment
For a KNUST student, your grammar is poor. Very poor. Marian, you need to work on your writing skills, or, better still, let someone proofread your work the next time before you get it published. In line with other people's calls, I say it's time for this site's owner to employ an editor!
yaw boateng 10 years ago
Its not our language. With the exception of Africans . All the develop countries speaks their language's when they meet their counterparts. Eg Germany,Nederland,Russia,south Korea among others. It's long over due to embrace w ... read full comment
Its not our language. With the exception of Africans . All the develop countries speaks their language's when they meet their counterparts. Eg Germany,Nederland,Russia,south Korea among others. It's long over due to embrace what God has given to us
Odopa.com 10 years ago
But you understood what has been written? How capable are you reading and writing in YOUR OWN LANGUAGE never mind someone else?
But you understood what has been written? How capable are you reading and writing in YOUR OWN LANGUAGE never mind someone else?
Amevor Kesewodufia 10 years ago
Marian you are perfectly right. The problem with "white marriage" is that it is regarded as inferior, unchristian and "pagan",by urbanised Christians who lost touch with African culture and tradition. Because the white marria ... read full comment
Marian you are perfectly right. The problem with "white marriage" is that it is regarded as inferior, unchristian and "pagan",by urbanised Christians who lost touch with African culture and tradition. Because the white marriage was introcduced by the white missionaries Ghanaian Christians have failed to recognise their own culture cocening marriage.Until we begin to realise ourselves as a people of unique cultural identity, and to stop copying anything from the whites under the guise of Christianity, we will continue to burden ourselves with double marriages. Continue to propagate the idea of double marriage rites; you will see a change one day
Kex 10 years ago
Marian you ought to know most things in Ghana are completely illogical. My sister is getting married to an Englishman in England, and I have brought her attention to this same thing, that she keeps referring to the ceremony t ... read full comment
Marian you ought to know most things in Ghana are completely illogical. My sister is getting married to an Englishman in England, and I have brought her attention to this same thing, that she keeps referring to the ceremony to come as engagement whereas her fiance the Englishman and family referred to it as Marriage, having been told they out to do Akan traditional marriage for acceptance. Fancy that?
Kwaapps 10 years ago
This is what I have been trying in vain to drum into your thick skulls what the blackman is doing to himself. But thank god this girl has picked up on something taught in her lectures whereas her compatriots just saw it as ju ... read full comment
This is what I have been trying in vain to drum into your thick skulls what the blackman is doing to himself. But thank god this girl has picked up on something taught in her lectures whereas her compatriots just saw it as just another lecture.
Brainoo, you can even go one step further by giving up on the western names that has afflicted us like a biblical plague. Until every african child can easily recognise such simple deviations and make the necessary adjustments - as Brainoo has just made - we are doomed forever!
Adu Twum 10 years ago
Very Well put, they are not necessary
Very Well put, they are not necessary
Kwobia ( Toronto ) 10 years ago
Ghanains are unable to value their cultures.That's why they still value the white wedding.Same issue surrounding funerals in Ghana.
Ghanains are unable to value their cultures.That's why they still value the white wedding.Same issue surrounding funerals in Ghana.
nicman@atl 10 years ago
they cannot support anything they preach themselves. in ghana we marry two times , have three names, worship traditional gods and white man's god we are a confused people. to marry one woman in ghana alone is like building a ... read full comment
they cannot support anything they preach themselves. in ghana we marry two times , have three names, worship traditional gods and white man's god we are a confused people. to marry one woman in ghana alone is like building a two bedroom house. that shit is crap
Wofa Kodjo 10 years ago
Most our problems are coming from the pulpit and Christians today can be likened to the pharisees of old. Many preachers are in themselves confused and therefore do not or have little idea about what they teach. If a couple t ... read full comment
Most our problems are coming from the pulpit and Christians today can be likened to the pharisees of old. Many preachers are in themselves confused and therefore do not or have little idea about what they teach. If a couple that are traditionally married are seen as committing fornication (sin) because a "pastor" hasn't presided over it, what else should we expect. Yet that same pastor father's children before marrying the lady. Many of our beautiful traditions are being viewed as satanic. I was once punished in school for doing a traditional dance. The list goes on and on.
Yaw Owusu 10 years ago
I totally agree with your statement. I live in New York and our marriage is the customary type. We are happy and save the money for children's education.
I totally agree with your statement. I live in New York and our marriage is the customary type. We are happy and save the money for children's education.
b awonye 10 years ago
Truly a white wedding is what is known as the party, the razzmatazz, fanfare, etc. It is where all races, and traditions can join in.
The traditional one is a full one called engagement, perhaps due to the ring being pres ... read full comment
Truly a white wedding is what is known as the party, the razzmatazz, fanfare, etc. It is where all races, and traditions can join in.
The traditional one is a full one called engagement, perhaps due to the ring being presented for the first time. A ring with a break in it; is an engagement ring.
Perhaps afterwards if the man were to present another ring without a break in it a full circle ring, it may then be termed as a full marriage.
I think it should be good after the traditional engagement a year on to do these: follow-up your intentions to carry on with the marriage by presenting;
(1) A full circle ring,
(2) With added pomp representing the full circle ring at church to have it
blessed- thus giving the church community an opportunity to celebrate with you and your two new families;
(3) Giving an opportunity for the civil community (further than the church, family, and friends- i.e. the local authorities, the courts, and the Town councils in short, the citizens of the country and other UN affiliated countries) to recognise your union.) it is a process my dear. Understandably involves money. Thanks for raising the matter.
Kind regards.
Have you seen how our people are confused when trying to explain what an engagement means in the West and what our equivalent is? Haha! Following other peoples tradition is leading to argument in the marriage from the outset ...
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I WOULD RATHER KEEP THE MONEY N SPEND IT WITH MY WOMAN ON THE HNEYMOON. DO A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE. GO TO CITY HALL N DO THE SIGNATURE. HAVE A SMALL CEREMONY WITH A PASTOR PRESENT TO BLESS THE VOWS. HAVE A DINNER AT A BIG REST ...
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Yes, and my question was going to be: Can you really survive without the influence of western culture? Which in my opinion is "Human Culture". Just because white people started it first or thought about it first, and have gon ...
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Citizen One, is that why you are out there cleaning whiteman's poopoo? No one will stop you continue doing that and do nothing for yourself. If you truely are a Ghanaian, there should be something to make you what you are. Th ...
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Stop your backward thinking. We are all not toilet cleaners here. Some of us are professionals with good paying jobs.
I think what citizen one may be trying to say is that yes, hold in high esteem traditions but, move on, make changes to reflect the times regarding the obsolete parts of traditional practices within a traditional set up. That ...
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well said,but i belive everytin must be within ur reach.if yu cant afford it,do it in a small way that will glorify God.
Excuse me,you're using knowledge but not wisdom. Marriage has nothing to do with civilization. Have you consider the first known marriage in the garden of eden? All these lavish western styles of marriage are for making money ...
read full comment
I think your simplified version is all in good taste. You have declared your intention(s), done the traditional, taken it further undertaking a civil ceremony, having the church bless the marriage and celebrating in a restaur ...
read full comment
'...white weddings are not necessary; ... a waste of money.' You,re entitled to your view. And of course a point there.Not quite bad a write-up. Keep it up. I can see your great potential; but try to get your articles edited ...
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This has always been my position and if a lady has seen the light, then we are heading towards the right direction and what we need is the churches who created the problem in the first place to have a change of heart.
You ...
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You are on point.
Hi Marian, thanks for your article. In my opinion I think that the legal issues involved in marriage make weddings or marriage under the ordinance "inevitable".
This is because if a couple do not register their marriage, ...
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Christy, registration and certification of marriages does not necessarily require you to have a whiteman's wedding. You can always go and register and certify any customary marriage. please find out from the Registra General.
that's the point she is making.
I'd rather have a "come we stay" type of wedding.No hassle,no vows and no unecceasry expenses yet its easier to dissolve.
My friend you are a small child that is why you do not know the advantage of white wedding.
1. White Wedding is for Certification.
2. It is recognised in the Law Court.
3. Recognised in the whole world.
4. Qualify you to ...
read full comment
In response to the comment above, it is clear that the learned commenter doesn't understand the difference between a white wedding and a marriage certificate. He says
1. White Wedding is for Certification. - A white wedding ...
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Thanks for your comment, i was about to say the same thing. I think he should read the article before calling the lady a small child.
You rather do not know what you are talking about.You are one of those who believe that everything introduced by the whiteman is superior.Where
in the Bible is it said that marriages should be blessed in churches before it ...
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Sam, you have exposed your ignorance to the world.You are a disgrace.
Oh please you have to rather do your research. The marriage certificate is not issue just bcos of your white wedding. The requirements of marriage certificate doesn't include the white wedding.
My customary marriage , with affidavit of support from my family sa wittnesses was accepted at the American Embassy.
you did not stay with you grand parent. you mean borrow wear wedding has advantages
Hi Marian,
Thanks for your noble thinking and contribution to the society.
The pastors of Ghana should take thought from your advice.
It is very painful seeing people with envelopes in the streets of Ghana searching for mo ...
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Wite weddings are just 'show-offs' and have nothing to do with our culture.Moreover nowhere is it stipulated in the Bible that marriages should be blessed in the churches before it is accepted by God.It is part of the whitema ...
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The question is, how many white men take their weddings to churches for blessing? How many of them even get married? It is well known that more than 70% of them cohabit without marrying.
My brother wanted to marry his girlfriend and wants me to buy him a suit for the wedding.I told him if you could not afford to buy your own suit for the wedding it means you are not ready for the marriage.
The marriage didn` ...
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Thank you very much Marian.You've said it all.Those who consider the customary marriage an engagement are just ignorants who need better education on marriage.
i think simplicity is the best.everybody has a preference.
Marian talk to the women who have made life soo difficult n unbearable for some of us young guys.excessive competition among the women,all they say is that'my friend did it this way n soo i must tread on same grounds'.
White weddings are indeed unnecessary.The whites themselves are trying hard to avoid the expenses involved. The whites will be very happy to have our customary system. In fact they will refer to it as very civilized.
What the whites do is their customary syetem, it is us who because of colonisation are confused. Please leave the whites alone, they marry by church or by state.
kidos to the writer,Mariam. yes, it is a fact that the white wedding almost always comes with registration, but that does not make it any legal or valid than the other marriages, which of course could also be registered for s ...
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the churches are the problem, all because they use the occasion to make money and pull crowd. i tell u what, majority of those flamboyant white weddings end up in break ups than any other simple marriage. find out from the co ...
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We are what we are in Africa and it shows. Look here, from Algeria to South Africa and from Gambia to Ethiopia there is nothing authentic African any longer. Our system of governance, the legal systems and our so-called forma ...
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For a KNUST student, your grammar is poor. Very poor. Marian, you need to work on your writing skills, or, better still, let someone proofread your work the next time before you get it published. In line with other people's c ...
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Its not our language. With the exception of Africans . All the develop countries speaks their language's when they meet their counterparts. Eg Germany,Nederland,Russia,south Korea among others. It's long over due to embrace w ...
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But you understood what has been written? How capable are you reading and writing in YOUR OWN LANGUAGE never mind someone else?
Marian you are perfectly right. The problem with "white marriage" is that it is regarded as inferior, unchristian and "pagan",by urbanised Christians who lost touch with African culture and tradition. Because the white marria ...
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Marian you ought to know most things in Ghana are completely illogical. My sister is getting married to an Englishman in England, and I have brought her attention to this same thing, that she keeps referring to the ceremony t ...
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This is what I have been trying in vain to drum into your thick skulls what the blackman is doing to himself. But thank god this girl has picked up on something taught in her lectures whereas her compatriots just saw it as ju ...
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Very Well put, they are not necessary
Ghanains are unable to value their cultures.That's why they still value the white wedding.Same issue surrounding funerals in Ghana.
they cannot support anything they preach themselves. in ghana we marry two times , have three names, worship traditional gods and white man's god we are a confused people. to marry one woman in ghana alone is like building a ...
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Most our problems are coming from the pulpit and Christians today can be likened to the pharisees of old. Many preachers are in themselves confused and therefore do not or have little idea about what they teach. If a couple t ...
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I totally agree with your statement. I live in New York and our marriage is the customary type. We are happy and save the money for children's education.
Truly a white wedding is what is known as the party, the razzmatazz, fanfare, etc. It is where all races, and traditions can join in.
The traditional one is a full one called engagement, perhaps due to the ring being pres ...
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