If I may ask, it means she still does not have kids with this man? If what she has written to you is true then I think the man doesn't deserve this lady. She has waisted her time all these years. She must quickly divorce this ... read full comment
If I may ask, it means she still does not have kids with this man? If what she has written to you is true then I think the man doesn't deserve this lady. She has waisted her time all these years. She must quickly divorce this man and go get Mr. Right or else she will die young.
OZA 7 years ago
The only reason why this lady is still holding onto this marriage is because there is another woman. If she has the Biblical grounds to leave the husband, she can do so without any guilt for sinning. Easier said than done, I ... read full comment
The only reason why this lady is still holding onto this marriage is because there is another woman. If she has the Biblical grounds to leave the husband, she can do so without any guilt for sinning. Easier said than done, I know. Hmmmmmm.
Abban 7 years ago
The right person to ask advice from is Lordina as the president can't keep his zip close and chase every woman he sights on
The right person to ask advice from is Lordina as the president can't keep his zip close and chase every woman he sights on
Kanawu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 7 years ago
LIFE IS MORE IMPORTANT. THE GUY DOESN'T CARE ANYMORE. THE BEST YOU COULD DO IS TO SAVE YOUR LIFE. YOU JUST HAVE TO PRAY AND FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER MAN. DIVORCE HIM RIGHT IMMEDIATELY.
LIFE IS MORE IMPORTANT. THE GUY DOESN'T CARE ANYMORE. THE BEST YOU COULD DO IS TO SAVE YOUR LIFE. YOU JUST HAVE TO PRAY AND FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER MAN. DIVORCE HIM RIGHT IMMEDIATELY.
Opoku 7 years ago
People, I do not blame you for casting insults on this man. You have heard the woman's side of the story. I would advise that you take your time on this man, now turned satan. Read the story well people.
Cheating is in the ... read full comment
People, I do not blame you for casting insults on this man. You have heard the woman's side of the story. I would advise that you take your time on this man, now turned satan. Read the story well people.
Cheating is in the DNA of every man? Do the men sleep with dogs or bitches? They cheat with the same women. So in a sense, cheating is in the DNA of every woman too.People, wait till you get the man's side of the story. You will probably console home.
OBSERVATION IN THE STORY
This man left his job for the woman so she would keep her own job, leaving friends and, perhaps, seniority ranking behind, to start at the bottom at another firm.
Many women have the character of becoming dirty and dressing anyhow after marriage. Perhaps the man has now seen what was hidden under the wig.
Opoku 7 years ago
I mean to say, if you have heard the version of the man, you would probably console him for what he too is going through.
I mean to say, if you have heard the version of the man, you would probably console him for what he too is going through.
Mary -american frim the usa 7 years ago
IF A MAN TREAT YOU BAD JUST GET RID OF HIS ASS TROW HIS SHIT OUT OF THE HOME AND TELL HIM TO GET LOST WHY FEEL SORY FOR YOURSELF
IF A MAN TREAT YOU BAD JUST GET RID OF HIS ASS TROW HIS SHIT OUT OF THE HOME AND TELL HIM TO GET LOST WHY FEEL SORY FOR YOURSELF
adjwa 7 years ago
life gos on drop the loser get a new man and find new love because there is god above
life gos on drop the loser get a new man and find new love because there is god above
George 7 years ago
So sad to read this story. Dear sister, he is not going to change. Please advise your self to leave. You rightly said the bible allows this kinda divorce. U need to focus on yourself, look good, and the right man will c ... read full comment
So sad to read this story. Dear sister, he is not going to change. Please advise your self to leave. You rightly said the bible allows this kinda divorce. U need to focus on yourself, look good, and the right man will come. It seems to me that you're ashamed to leave cuz of the status you think u are in by virtue of been married but it's baseless to live your life based on what people think about you. Live your life for you and your God, not for others .
Yaa 7 years ago
"So sad to read this story" I agree with you, but what is holding this woman back is the status as you said. Some Ghanaians and especially the females are quick to rush into marriages without doing their homework, just want t ... read full comment
"So sad to read this story" I agree with you, but what is holding this woman back is the status as you said. Some Ghanaians and especially the females are quick to rush into marriages without doing their homework, just want to take someone's "father's name" and be "Mrs". There are no children in the two and half marriage and I'm sure there won't be a lot of properties arquired in the 2 1/2 marriage, what are you waiting for? He's not coming back and even if he comes back you will be more missable because you will spend the rest of your life together always checking on what, where, when and who he is with and to me my dear Efe it's not HEALTHY. My little advice is please run out of this marriage as fast as your legs can carry before you become more emotional reck than you are at the moment
nesy 7 years ago
Dear sis rmemba evryfn dat has a beginin has an end...society wl definitly mk mockery ba cos dey dnt knw wat u going tru...jx kip dem behind n move on ,b at ur best n bet u dey wl soon applaud u n from dr Ur dear husband ... read full comment
Dear sis rmemba evryfn dat has a beginin has an end...society wl definitly mk mockery ba cos dey dnt knw wat u going tru...jx kip dem behind n move on ,b at ur best n bet u dey wl soon applaud u n from dr Ur dear husband wl also realise ur worth in his life wen u r nt around him animore...jx gv it a brk
Grayson 7 years ago
Don't you think this man can kill you just to be free?
Don't you think this man can kill you just to be free?
patty 7 years ago
Thus man never lover loved you. See how he talked of hour boo at work. He was only interested in that and for 3 and something years, he had enough. He wants a new boo. You have every right to leave him cos Jesus said " excep ... read full comment
Thus man never lover loved you. See how he talked of hour boo at work. He was only interested in that and for 3 and something years, he had enough. He wants a new boo. You have every right to leave him cos Jesus said " except wit adultery or death" yet if you think you still love him you can be wit him and pray to God to change him. Dont not wear yourself out cos of this. Be strong; never let him notice a sign of pain in you. Try as much as possible to stay calm and organized. Stop thinking about him though it'd be hard. Once he notices you dont give a ho about him, you'll c what ll happen next.
Hollandey 7 years ago
Am sure he is wearing condoms with this new lady too.
Did he wear condoms when you were dating?
He is not serious with any of you. Are you really sure he initiated the wedding?
Am sure the writing was on the wall.
My ... read full comment
Am sure he is wearing condoms with this new lady too.
Did he wear condoms when you were dating?
He is not serious with any of you. Are you really sure he initiated the wedding?
Am sure the writing was on the wall.
My sister you are not confused
You know the answer
You know what to do. Only , you are hoping things will change to suit you.
Remember even if he comes back he will do it again.
Francis 7 years ago
Hmmmm what a sad story my sister foget him and move on with your life
Hmmmm what a sad story my sister foget him and move on with your life
Kwasi 7 years ago
Have patience my siister.Pray witout ceasing and take off your mind from him like you don't bother him anymore but make sure you play your role as a wife to him at home.God is definitely going to bring your not bact to again, ... read full comment
Have patience my siister.Pray witout ceasing and take off your mind from him like you don't bother him anymore but make sure you play your role as a wife to him at home.God is definitely going to bring your not bact to again, pray! pray! pray sister it shall be well.
Tenkorang Daniel Obeng 7 years ago
It very hard for you, Please keep on praying things will be better. it the devil work in a bad way. Keep hope Alive
It very hard for you, Please keep on praying things will be better. it the devil work in a bad way. Keep hope Alive
Ben 7 years ago
No lady deserves to be treated like trash, no matter how bad she is. God allows divorce in the case of infidelity. my sister please go ahead and divorce him. there's no need throwing your life away for a common man. When your ... read full comment
No lady deserves to be treated like trash, no matter how bad she is. God allows divorce in the case of infidelity. my sister please go ahead and divorce him. there's no need throwing your life away for a common man. When your first love is Christ, the love of common men won't bother u.
Basse 7 years ago
Dear Efe,if you have children take consolation in the children and keep praying.However if it is unbearable get a divorce. U will be justified to do so in law and the bible.And do not rush into any relationship yet. Hold up y ... read full comment
Dear Efe,if you have children take consolation in the children and keep praying.However if it is unbearable get a divorce. U will be justified to do so in law and the bible.And do not rush into any relationship yet. Hold up your head in dignity and don't pity yourself
Me 7 years ago
It's like asking "what do I do if I want to have a wee?
There are no kids involved and you can tell your man has fallen out of love with you. You just move on.
You people follow the bible to destroy yourself.
Move on lady.
It's like asking "what do I do if I want to have a wee?
There are no kids involved and you can tell your man has fallen out of love with you. You just move on.
You people follow the bible to destroy yourself.
Move on lady.
kenny 7 years ago
This is your side of the story, we need to hear the man too. He loved you from the beginning and what made him change? Can you honestly say that he did not give all the red lights that he may not be comfortable with some aspe ... read full comment
This is your side of the story, we need to hear the man too. He loved you from the beginning and what made him change? Can you honestly say that he did not give all the red lights that he may not be comfortable with some aspect of you before he cheated? Usually, men will not confidently cheat if you dont offer them the reason to. My honest advice is to recall all complains he made and evaluate them if you have complied to all. Do not frustrate your man and when I adapts to it, you turn to fix things.
BE WHAT HE WANTS AND HE WILL WANT YOU.
Steph 7 years ago
Thank you very much for that point. It seems that people here are not being too faur to the man and bringing morality into this issue. I'm a woman too, but let's face it here. After marriage, some ladies behave in ways that r ... read full comment
Thank you very much for that point. It seems that people here are not being too faur to the man and bringing morality into this issue. I'm a woman too, but let's face it here. After marriage, some ladies behave in ways that repel men. We may not realize it, but for a man who has made you his wife to make it obvious that he doesn't want you anymore, means there's a problem somewhere with us. Maybe there's something he craves that he doesn't get or something he doesn't like that we keep doing. Instead of wasting time crying and confronting his mistress, she should rather sit down and assess the marriage and herself, and if she thinks he's worth it, should try and save her marriage. If nothing she tries works, she should please bounce, because she will destroy herself.
Kwabena 7 years ago
I agree. Although I cannot think of a good enough reason for anybody to cheat on their spouse, some actions or inactions of the one may make the other feel entitled to it. And for a man, it may be particularly hard to keep ex ... read full comment
I agree. Although I cannot think of a good enough reason for anybody to cheat on their spouse, some actions or inactions of the one may make the other feel entitled to it. And for a man, it may be particularly hard to keep expressing dissatisfaction. It could be that the woman cannot keep pace with the man's appetite for sex, or that he does not get enough respect from her. It could even be that she does not appreciate the 'little' things he does in providing for the family or in helping around the house. After marriage, the woman may be tempted to show less respect especially if she contributes significantly in running the home or she feels superior in any way to the man because of work or intellect. In the end, he feels taken for granted. I do not think the man just gets up one morning and decides he won't be coming home after work. I believe it takes a lot of contemplation and effort, though by the time the decision is made, it would seem like he does not care about the marriage anymore. It is unfortunate, but the success of marriage has become bleaker with feminism. But who am I to say?
Seth Odoi 7 years ago
Adultery is the only antidote for divorce as prescribe by the Bible. Efe has the option to walk out of the marriage and re-start her life or continue to stay and face all the pains and the problems, hoping that things will be ... read full comment
Adultery is the only antidote for divorce as prescribe by the Bible. Efe has the option to walk out of the marriage and re-start her life or continue to stay and face all the pains and the problems, hoping that things will be fine. I will advise her to first seek for separation and give the husband ample time to change. If it does not work out, then she can ask for divorce. I believe there are good guys out there who can revamp her happiness
Mama seko 7 years ago
I think the woman should leave the marriage because no good man will sleep with a lady and be proud of it since there are no kids involved else You will kill yourself before your time.and pray all the time God bless you
I think the woman should leave the marriage because no good man will sleep with a lady and be proud of it since there are no kids involved else You will kill yourself before your time.and pray all the time God bless you
Sam 7 years ago
my sister, what are you waiting for? thank God that there are no children in the marriage. Divorce him! Trust me, you will get a better man than this "empty headed guy".He does not deserve your love! God is a faithful God. Hu ... read full comment
my sister, what are you waiting for? thank God that there are no children in the marriage. Divorce him! Trust me, you will get a better man than this "empty headed guy".He does not deserve your love! God is a faithful God. Human beings are simply wicked. My wife did the same thing to me.I catered for her from A to Z but when I went to overseas, she was sleeping with her coursemates, etc. but God is a good God. Now they are all having their punishments.For whatever a man sows, he reaps - Gal 6:7
Simon 7 years ago
Tell christ Devote urself to prayer.Pray saaaaa.Is there anything too hard for our God???? Go to him I mean pray.Go for prayer meetings and after a series of Prayer nd fast Sow a seed. I tell you the lady ull die nd ull g et ... read full comment
Tell christ Devote urself to prayer.Pray saaaaa.Is there anything too hard for our God???? Go to him I mean pray.Go for prayer meetings and after a series of Prayer nd fast Sow a seed. I tell you the lady ull die nd ull g et back ur Husbnd.Bt wen he comes dnt stp praying to keep him.
DE BOY 7 years ago
really sad reading the whole story...in my own opinion i prefer she seek a new leaf than to think anything else...and please never should she thought of shooting them....God will fight ur battle for you.
really sad reading the whole story...in my own opinion i prefer she seek a new leaf than to think anything else...and please never should she thought of shooting them....God will fight ur battle for you.
Akosua 7 years ago
As a divorcee I understand your pain and confusion. Living with/Being married to a man who you obviously still love who has fallen out of love with you must be unbearable to say the least. Fortunately you're a Christian. This ... read full comment
As a divorcee I understand your pain and confusion. Living with/Being married to a man who you obviously still love who has fallen out of love with you must be unbearable to say the least. Fortunately you're a Christian. This is the time to get closer to God. As you're still in love with him and your life is in no danger I would not advice you to divorce him. Take solace from the fact that although he claims the other woman is better than you he hasn't served you with divorce papers yet. Go deeper into your relationship with God. Reconnect to the trinity in a way that being with a man would never allow you. The Bible says "the arm of flesh will fail you" and "cursed is He whose faith is in man". You made the mistake we all make when we fall in love by making a human being a kind of god in your life. It is time to develop an intimate relationship with the true God. Believe me God knows best and will help you heal and become a better person from this bitter experience. If your husband finally comes back to you which I know he will because he is now seeing the other woman as a type of god because he is in love but it will go away with time (That's nature) you can take him back if you still want him. If he begins a divorce process I would advice you not to fight him because "the temptation will come but woe to him by whom the temptation comes"Matthew 18:7. I have discovered that when people are in a relationship they often lose what they had that made them special and unique. Rediscover yourself and better yourself while he is with his mistress so that when he does come back (And this could be after he actually divorces you!),you would be too good for him!
bright 7 years ago
u girls disturb God when looking for marriage but stops praying once u are married, u forget God when things go well n remember Him when things are bad. keep on praying
u girls disturb God when looking for marriage but stops praying once u are married, u forget God when things go well n remember Him when things are bad. keep on praying
Teacher 7 years ago
Before a married man fall in love with another woman ,meaning there's a problem at home ,Efe please go back to the drawing board .respect your husband love him more than before .tone down your voice anytime you want to chat ... read full comment
Before a married man fall in love with another woman ,meaning there's a problem at home ,Efe please go back to the drawing board .respect your husband love him more than before .tone down your voice anytime you want to chat with him .humble yourself .don't argue with him .also your appearance must be the best of a married woman .
Change your cooking methods . Efe please keep your private part very clean for him this is the hot point to grab your husband .please don't seek for divorce ..marriage is a journey to eternity stay away from bad friends with bad advice .pray together with your husband .God will see you through .
Good luck !
Yaa 7 years ago
Hmm he sounds like a dog! There may be no reason for him to behave this way - he may be just a very bad man!
Hmm he sounds like a dog! There may be no reason for him to behave this way - he may be just a very bad man!
abeiku 7 years ago
The lady should he behaviour, she is doing something to the which is not saying here. If you are married before you see the women parading themselves looking for marriage and after marriegae they forget their prayer camps. Th ... read full comment
The lady should he behaviour, she is doing something to the which is not saying here. If you are married before you see the women parading themselves looking for marriage and after marriegae they forget their prayer camps. That is how they are she is lying .
Maame 7 years ago
She should concentrate of her work and believe in God.
She should concentrate of her work and believe in God.
dickson 7 years ago
Can we also advise ourselves of how artificial our ladies dress in this era where everything from top to bottom is faked? Artificial boots, bum and hair etc.
Has the husband come to realisation of some of these?
And the bed ... read full comment
Can we also advise ourselves of how artificial our ladies dress in this era where everything from top to bottom is faked? Artificial boots, bum and hair etc.
Has the husband come to realisation of some of these?
And the bedmatics as well!!
Most men have fantasies in relationships and if there don't get them, they tend to look elsewhere.
Is she delivering the pre-marriage promises and dressing sexy as the pre-marriage era?
I really feel for Efe but she should do some homework herself to see if she has not 'totally deviated' from the pre-marriage era.
blushing eye 7 years ago
Hmm, Nana if you hate being one sided then don't let us talk about it because its coming from one end and we don't know what the other end also holds.
Hmm, Nana if you hate being one sided then don't let us talk about it because its coming from one end and we don't know what the other end also holds.
blushing eye 7 years ago
one sided really marriage stories shouldn't be commented on with a close end mind. if you are not married just exercise some manner of civility.
one sided really marriage stories shouldn't be commented on with a close end mind. if you are not married just exercise some manner of civility.
obedindo 7 years ago
keep ur self neat and nice but withdraw ur services, l mean No contact for as long as 3 months, no sex , no food but be very attractive and enjoy life. As u do try to forget him, go out with friends and enjoy life, go to gym ... read full comment
keep ur self neat and nice but withdraw ur services, l mean No contact for as long as 3 months, no sex , no food but be very attractive and enjoy life. As u do try to forget him, go out with friends and enjoy life, go to gym, listen to music BUT NOT COOL MUSIC ABOUT THE PROBLEM, be humble and answer his questions but dont beg for his love cos that will send him back more, but cook him good food , you can learn different recipies from old women serve him the quantity which will turn him into Oliver, God has yoked together, no man shd pull apart.0509107706.
...... 7 years ago
thanks for the advice
thanks for the advice
Kikeli 7 years ago
Dangerous advice, it's impossible to refuse your husband sex for that long (3 months). He'll proudily divorce her mercilessly. Don't try that at all
Dangerous advice, it's impossible to refuse your husband sex for that long (3 months). He'll proudily divorce her mercilessly. Don't try that at all
kwadwo, ksi 7 years ago
Nana, I think Efe should also look for a boyfriend and let us see the reaction of her husband
Nana, I think Efe should also look for a boyfriend and let us see the reaction of her husband
Kikeli 7 years ago
Another bad advice
Another bad advice
AKUA 7 years ago
Bad advice
Bad advice
Cephas 7 years ago
Dear Nana, I want Efe to understand that her marriage has been mocked, betrayed and collapsed by her own man. Even if this man should come back with a repented heart, Efe will never trust him again. Anyman who does not respe ... read full comment
Dear Nana, I want Efe to understand that her marriage has been mocked, betrayed and collapsed by her own man. Even if this man should come back with a repented heart, Efe will never trust him again. Anyman who does not respect the rules of an institution is not fit to be there. So my Dear Efe forget about this man who hate you soo much and move on with yr life. Yr life is too precious to be messed by this man. He simply does not deserve u forget about him there are better men out there far far better than him.my Dear lady rise up cheer up. If possible simply relocate after untying the fake not. Your life will start all afresh. Be strong and move on. Good luck.
Mohammed 7 years ago
Terrible indeed.Time and tide waits for no man. The lady shld involve her family and the man's family in the issue.If after that nothing changes then it will be better to end the marriage and go om with her.If indeed what she ... read full comment
Terrible indeed.Time and tide waits for no man. The lady shld involve her family and the man's family in the issue.If after that nothing changes then it will be better to end the marriage and go om with her.If indeed what she is saying is true, the good lord will give her a better man.Next time however she should not rush into thinking that all that gliters is gold.We don't have perfect man anywhere but this particular guy can kill her emotionally if she keeps hanging on thinking he will change.
steve 7 years ago
Dear the best thing for u to do now is to try and focus on ur life and also don't confront him anymore kk
Dear the best thing for u to do now is to try and focus on ur life and also don't confront him anymore kk
Patricia A. 7 years ago
Hmm,my dear I have been through same thing ,was with the perfect guy I thought for 10 yrs ,had 2 handsome boys n within a twinkle of an eye,he was cheating n got the other woman pregnant.needless to say,i left with my boys ,t ... read full comment
Hmm,my dear I have been through same thing ,was with the perfect guy I thought for 10 yrs ,had 2 handsome boys n within a twinkle of an eye,he was cheating n got the other woman pregnant.needless to say,i left with my boys ,they got married n now have 2 kids of their own but it's hell for the 2 of them.my advise is,u r lucky u 2 don't have kids together so nothing is tying u down to him,move on swthrt. Pray n ask God to send u a man that will love u ,cherish u n will let u forget about him.it will be hard but try n forgive him so u can move on . he will get the real awaken after u r gone.Get yourself up,dust yourself n live life.life isn't fair but that's how it is .I wish u well.
Barbara 7 years ago
Dear sis. Leave this foolish man. Re brand your image and u will fine a better man. God help u.
Dear sis. Leave this foolish man. Re brand your image and u will fine a better man. God help u.
olic 7 years ago
please before u marry ask those who has already marry and have experience,ladies of today only marry bcos of money,and handsome and there rest but mind u,u will share your man with other women cos most men dont understand why ... read full comment
please before u marry ask those who has already marry and have experience,ladies of today only marry bcos of money,and handsome and there rest but mind u,u will share your man with other women cos most men dont understand why they should be faithful since their wife got marriage to them bcos of their money or handsomeness and the rest
goodman 7 years ago
I,m a man as well but that's not how a man should treat a woman.I can feel the pain,that hurt. He treats u like a piece of paper all because u are humble and loving wife. May the almighty God blesses u with your kindness in u ... read full comment
I,m a man as well but that's not how a man should treat a woman.I can feel the pain,that hurt. He treats u like a piece of paper all because u are humble and loving wife. May the almighty God blesses u with your kindness in ur marriage. Never give up in prayer, human can only gives you advise but cant help you to victory only can lead u to the victory. Dont kill urself and do not kill dem either live it for God .help him in prayer, he is spirit of lost. Remember every Good thing must pass through fire before it becomes perfect. Satan is behind this. Watch Emanuel tv (prophet tbjoshua ) there are similar cases like this. Satan is at work but dont let him win. If you stop this marriage satan wins, instead use this situation to pleases God the more. Your testimony is around the corner in Juses name AMEN.
Offline 7 years ago
Your stories is about your own self. You can't run away from it. If you have been maltreated, you can go and burn the sea. You deserve this. Ladies after marriage don't have respect for their husbands again. Go and learn how ... read full comment
Your stories is about your own self. You can't run away from it. If you have been maltreated, you can go and burn the sea. You deserve this. Ladies after marriage don't have respect for their husbands again. Go and learn how to respect your house.
lady 7 years ago
my dear the bible say love your neighbour as yourself not more than yourself , don't die for any man pls love life & yourself for life is too short
my dear the bible say love your neighbour as yourself not more than yourself , don't die for any man pls love life & yourself for life is too short
rose 7 years ago
These is a very sad one,but my sis u have to move on,u can't kill urself,it very difficult but u need to walk out,the man is up to something,leaving ur wife n staying with someone u are not married to, come on,ur husband is ... read full comment
These is a very sad one,but my sis u have to move on,u can't kill urself,it very difficult but u need to walk out,the man is up to something,leaving ur wife n staying with someone u are not married to, come on,ur husband is still a boy not a matured man,bcus matured men don't behave like that,if he says marrying u was a rush,I wonder what he was thinking by that time not to realize it.my sis walk out bcus he is already out.
P.O. Addai 7 years ago
Hi Nana,
Efe has not spoken to God according to her own narration. She talked to friends, parents, pastor and others and not God. If Efe will stop fretting and start "crying" unto God with tears and repentant heart n mind of ... read full comment
Hi Nana,
Efe has not spoken to God according to her own narration. She talked to friends, parents, pastor and others and not God. If Efe will stop fretting and start "crying" unto God with tears and repentant heart n mind of her own she will see the glory of God in her predicament. Only fasting n prayer can save her situation. At this point Efe needs God and not man.
collins 7 years ago
Great comment
Great comment
azure 7 years ago
plz leave the man with caution. He will definitely come back one day with a regret and lie yo a devil but don't believe him....
plz leave the man with caution. He will definitely come back one day with a regret and lie yo a devil but don't believe him....
Godis 7 years ago
Nana.
I sympathize with the woman. However we need to hear from the other side too. We need to know whether the woman has certain characters or behaviours that drive her husband, or the man has innocently cheated on her.
We ... read full comment
Nana.
I sympathize with the woman. However we need to hear from the other side too. We need to know whether the woman has certain characters or behaviours that drive her husband, or the man has innocently cheated on her.
We should not be quick to conclude the issue on what we have read from the woman's alone. It is pathetic anyway. I wish them a perfect solution.
Concern citizen 7 years ago
I do not blame this lady for staying in this destructive relationship for all these years. The title ' MRS' is so precious in our society, being a single lady is seen as a taboo when you cross 35years. Please ladies do not se ... read full comment
I do not blame this lady for staying in this destructive relationship for all these years. The title ' MRS' is so precious in our society, being a single lady is seen as a taboo when you cross 35years. Please ladies do not settle for any man cos your biological clock is ticking. Efe's husband did not change overnight, there were signs of his infidelity when they were dating but she probably ignored them. My dear Efe from all indications your have been badly affected my this relationship, leave him before you loss your mind. He is not worth it.
Godson 7 years ago
???? very deep. I like
???? very deep. I like
ANONYMOUS 7 years ago
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE NO 1
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE NO 1
Hajia cool 7 years ago
Hmmm dis situation is killing.sour taste in ur mouth all de time, hair loss, weight loss and eczema on ur face. U simply look and feel dirty and terrible. If u r still working, just leave quietly. U will b alright after a whi ... read full comment
Hmmm dis situation is killing.sour taste in ur mouth all de time, hair loss, weight loss and eczema on ur face. U simply look and feel dirty and terrible. If u r still working, just leave quietly. U will b alright after a while. If u don't go, u cd die. He has disrespected u enough. As for de home wrecker, just watch, she will reap wat she has sown. Don't consult so many people cos dey will lie to u. Dey r not in ur shoes and will NEVER understand ur predicament. NOW, Go!!
Dee Jones 7 years ago
This is insane.Efe shouldn't die before she decides to leave the marriage. Oh ! some men. She should bell me if she puts her thinking cup on.0249728043
This is insane.Efe shouldn't die before she decides to leave the marriage. Oh ! some men. She should bell me if she puts her thinking cup on.0249728043
teacher 7 years ago
Tell Efe to move on without him.
But wait..why would the guy make her the centre of talk during their dating days at work. 'her boo '. awww love is indeed blind.
I believe the man never loved him.. He only wanted the boo ... read full comment
Tell Efe to move on without him.
But wait..why would the guy make her the centre of talk during their dating days at work. 'her boo '. awww love is indeed blind.
I believe the man never loved him.. He only wanted the boo. but wait,..This could only be true if the man never enjoyed the boo before the marriage.
Baba 7 years ago
God is just: to be able to judge this guy we need to know the story of the other side nothing happens without a reason my question is did he sacrifice his job for this relationship for this results? Allah is the best judge.
God is just: to be able to judge this guy we need to know the story of the other side nothing happens without a reason my question is did he sacrifice his job for this relationship for this results? Allah is the best judge.
seth k m 7 years ago
from the story I realise that she is a devoted christian if am right , so my question is stay in the marriage n harbour pains n go to hell or leave the marriage n find peace of heart n make it to heaven which is better , pls ... read full comment
from the story I realise that she is a devoted christian if am right , so my question is stay in the marriage n harbour pains n go to hell or leave the marriage n find peace of heart n make it to heaven which is better , pls leave the marriage n move on is not easy though but u have to
koby i have the facts 7 years ago
l will be praying with you ok...is not easy...all is a work of the evil..in all you did something wrong when you were dating by given in to sex before marriage...so read Pslams 32:1-5 then used this Pslams 7,10,11,13 to pray ... read full comment
l will be praying with you ok...is not easy...all is a work of the evil..in all you did something wrong when you were dating by given in to sex before marriage...so read Pslams 32:1-5 then used this Pslams 7,10,11,13 to pray always...give thanks to God. dont think that divoce is the answer...Your husband is lost now and you are then one to pay his price as Christ did for you to save him from death and you will be rewarded in the days when christ come back.
Rev. Bongo 7 years ago
I seriously doubt this is a true story. However if it is, then I will say the woman must immediately seek the help of someone stronger than her emotionally and do the following. 1. Separate from her husband. They should not b ... read full comment
I seriously doubt this is a true story. However if it is, then I will say the woman must immediately seek the help of someone stronger than her emotionally and do the following. 1. Separate from her husband. They should not be seeing each other anymore unless he wants his marriage. 2. She should start divorce proceedings after the twp families sit down together, and the husband consents that he does not want the marriage anymore. 3. She should thank God that this happened in hervmarriage earlier rather than later. 4. She should throw a party for herself when the divorce is finalized. Her Spirit needs one. 5. She should not become a lesbian because of this and also she should not decide to never marry again. 6. She will marry agai, and it will be glorious.
ekow frank 7 years ago
please advice this lady to let go. psalm 90 verse 4 say's thousand years to the Lord is like yesterday passed and gone'. let go. commit yours ways wholly to God and find something to occupy yourself. leave the two and allow G ... read full comment
please advice this lady to let go. psalm 90 verse 4 say's thousand years to the Lord is like yesterday passed and gone'. let go. commit yours ways wholly to God and find something to occupy yourself. leave the two and allow God to take over. vengeance is his. just let go, forget, heal yourself and thereafter, start all over. its not late.
adu 7 years ago
Leave him now.don't waste your time,he don't love you.
Leave him now.don't waste your time,he don't love you.
Peace 7 years ago
Nan Yaa, you are pretty,
Nan Yaa, you are pretty,
blinks 7 years ago
MADAM EFE,pls dont wait for a prophet or imam to tell u are waisting ur tym..am happy u said Bliblically,u can only divource ur husband when he cheats on u..dis one is ryt under ur nose.i wouldnt advice u to divorce buh the c ... read full comment
MADAM EFE,pls dont wait for a prophet or imam to tell u are waisting ur tym..am happy u said Bliblically,u can only divource ur husband when he cheats on u..dis one is ryt under ur nose.i wouldnt advice u to divorce buh the choice is urs..pls rememba one thing dah when ur ryt hand or eye drive u into sin,juxt CUT IT OFF...wish u all the lack sis
Albert 7 years ago
Sorry to hear that i am in the states it happened to me the best thing to do is find someone to talk to in the long run the feeling you have for him will start fading and you will leave him as soon as you leave him he will ... read full comment
Sorry to hear that i am in the states it happened to me the best thing to do is find someone to talk to in the long run the feeling you have for him will start fading and you will leave him as soon as you leave him he will starting having problems with his lover and she will leave him but he will trying to come back to you but,please don't take him.Thanks
Nii 7 years ago
The bible says that whatever God does is Good.So if wat you are in is not Good then its not of God.please let him go.Next time pray and fast to be sure of wat u are doing bfore u do it.Dont kill yourself or shoot them bcos G ... read full comment
The bible says that whatever God does is Good.So if wat you are in is not Good then its not of God.please let him go.Next time pray and fast to be sure of wat u are doing bfore u do it.Dont kill yourself or shoot them bcos God has a better plan for u.
Kwasi Ajin 7 years ago
My daughter commit yourself and your husband to Jesus and allow him take control of your marriage Don't leave him There's gonna be a miracle ok
My daughter commit yourself and your husband to Jesus and allow him take control of your marriage Don't leave him There's gonna be a miracle ok
kwabena Asante 7 years ago
Dear Efe,my advice will be stop complaining to your friends about your marriage.Rather identify your faults or maybe please change your behavior towards him and be observing. It takes time but he will change.Kw.
Dear Efe,my advice will be stop complaining to your friends about your marriage.Rather identify your faults or maybe please change your behavior towards him and be observing. It takes time but he will change.Kw.
George 7 years ago
some people think once married you are in their net therefore can treat you anyhow, change your attitude,respect him, let him be the man in the home, and also pray for God to change him and also pray for God to change you too ... read full comment
some people think once married you are in their net therefore can treat you anyhow, change your attitude,respect him, let him be the man in the home, and also pray for God to change him and also pray for God to change you too.
Cynthia 7 years ago
Correction please do not say cheating is in every mans DNA! Women are no different - society's norms have suppressed it but believe you me they are the same. Please don't make excuses for men!
Correction please do not say cheating is in every mans DNA! Women are no different - society's norms have suppressed it but believe you me they are the same. Please don't make excuses for men!
Kofi Dubai 7 years ago
Though your name sounds like you are a woman, but you are quiet frank on your point! Thanks for correcting that utopia!
Though your name sounds like you are a woman, but you are quiet frank on your point! Thanks for correcting that utopia!
Yaw 7 years ago
No don't let go of him now....but change your attitude by not letting him know u are worried if his behaviour !! Don't complain ...don't call him wen his not home ...make him know u don't care!! Let him think twice that ah is ... read full comment
No don't let go of him now....but change your attitude by not letting him know u are worried if his behaviour !! Don't complain ...don't call him wen his not home ...make him know u don't care!! Let him think twice that ah is like my wife dosnt care anymore about me and he may come running after u again !! If he dosnt then u have to let go
DHURUWAH 7 years ago
My dear, your man is only human. God may hate adultery but mankind is weak and can not resist temptation. Even Presbyterian pastors are asking for permission to divorce their wives because some young girls have rocked them. T ... read full comment
My dear, your man is only human. God may hate adultery but mankind is weak and can not resist temptation. Even Presbyterian pastors are asking for permission to divorce their wives because some young girls have rocked them. They now sing "Cleft of ages Rock for me" instead of "rock of ages cleft for me".
Rastafara"I" 7 years ago
I need to write to you too...
I need to write to you too...
Kojo Dotse 7 years ago
Sometimes counter attack to defend yourself works wonders. drastic situations require drastic measures to correct it'self. why doesn't date someone seriously too and move on. the moment some men see someone else is interested ... read full comment
Sometimes counter attack to defend yourself works wonders. drastic situations require drastic measures to correct it'self. why doesn't date someone seriously too and move on. the moment some men see someone else is interested, they want their wife back. but Efe shouldnt buy his come back, jxt go for good n save your sanity. pray through all your journey asking permission forgiveness n direction as you go. we save a merciful God who understands us situation best. He didnt create any to suffer, we invite it ourselves n we must get out by the same way if need be.
at 5.00 p.m. 7 years ago
lt is crystal clear that ur husband is not prepare to have an issue with u hence wearing condom during sex, then why spending ur youthfulness period on such idoit. Pray to God so that death would strike him in earliest n afte ... read full comment
lt is crystal clear that ur husband is not prepare to have an issue with u hence wearing condom during sex, then why spending ur youthfulness period on such idoit. Pray to God so that death would strike him in earliest n after some months in widowhood you re_marry, ur husband is "dog" in human fresh.
General Anophilis 7 years ago
EFE DESERVES IT. WHEN IT WAS SWEET SHE NEVER COMPLAINED. SOME WOMEN ARE WICKED .THEY DECEIVE MEN & CHOP THEIR MONIES BUT LATER INSULT SAME MEN 4 BEING FOOLISH ETC.
SOME WOMEN WHO HAVE CHILDREN WITH THEIR PARTNERS KNOW THE RE ... read full comment
EFE DESERVES IT. WHEN IT WAS SWEET SHE NEVER COMPLAINED. SOME WOMEN ARE WICKED .THEY DECEIVE MEN & CHOP THEIR MONIES BUT LATER INSULT SAME MEN 4 BEING FOOLISH ETC.
SOME WOMEN WHO HAVE CHILDREN WITH THEIR PARTNERS KNOW THE REAL BIOLOGICAL FATHERS NOT THE MEN THEY ARE MARRIED 2.
WOMEN ARE MORE WICKED THAN MEN.
ONE WOMAN CAN CHEAT ON FIVE GUYS AT THE SAME TIME. SHE SHOULD TAKE IT LIKE THAT. NO SYMPATHY FROM ANY ONE.
Robert 7 years ago
You have not had issues with him , please leave this marraige.
You have not had issues with him , please leave this marraige.
Goodluck 7 years ago
Efe, Life has two sides. Good and Bad. What your going thru is the Bad side. But you can remedy the situation. No condition and situation is permanent. Just identify the steps to get your husband back. It all depends on you. ... read full comment
Efe, Life has two sides. Good and Bad. What your going thru is the Bad side. But you can remedy the situation. No condition and situation is permanent. Just identify the steps to get your husband back. It all depends on you. But I will make a few suggestion.
1) Commit the whole saga to God to intervene. This you can do by praying and fasting and assistance from a man of God.Remember not every body who carries the bible or in a cassock is a man of God.
2)Don't complain to friends of your predicaments
3)Cut of any sexual relation with him
4) Live good and enjoy life and let your beauty comes out. You will look ugly if you bother yourself with this issue. There you will be defeated.
5)May sure you keep your home and environment clean.
6) May I ask, do you know how to cook. Most ladies of late lack this in life. That could be a good grounds for such behaviours.
Azuure 7 years ago
First of all you are not a married couselor. The solution is simply she shold go speak to professional married counselors. ANd not address to you a social commentator.
First of all you are not a married couselor. The solution is simply she shold go speak to professional married counselors. ANd not address to you a social commentator.
Nana Yaa 7 years ago
My little platform is to help women and men get credible advice from professionals.. I don't give the advice, I have marriage counselors I work with dear. Tnx
My little platform is to help women and men get credible advice from professionals.. I don't give the advice, I have marriage counselors I work with dear. Tnx
eddy 7 years ago
my advice is that be patient give ur life by being prayerful and put too mush on your self. my sister try to keep some company around you. dont listen to those saying leave your marriage but tell them for better for worse n k ... read full comment
my advice is that be patient give ur life by being prayerful and put too mush on your self. my sister try to keep some company around you. dont listen to those saying leave your marriage but tell them for better for worse n know that this is the worse part of your marriage life. stay blessed.
Nana Ama Kum 7 years ago
Hmmm !!!, what do I say, I have been and still in the same situation for about fifteen plus years. Been to the hell gate of my life, not able to tell anyone because I think people would not believe my story, so just kept to ... read full comment
Hmmm !!!, what do I say, I have been and still in the same situation for about fifteen plus years. Been to the hell gate of my life, not able to tell anyone because I think people would not believe my story, so just kept to myself. About five years ago let his brother and mother know what is going on. He was mad for letting them know, that pushed him away from me even more. We're currently living abroad, and I don't know where he is living. We have four grown up kids back home, he didn't contribute to their high school and university .Two of them have already graduated and the baby last in level 200. It was really, really hard then for me but I did surrounder everything to God, and my dear Lord is trustworthy. He was serious man of God and there was sometime assistant pastor. I particularly don't like divorce but if he initiated, I will not beg him to stop.I'm at peace that surpassing all understanding by God's amazing grace.I will tell my dear sister tosurrounder all her worry to God and listen carefully to her instinct and fellow. May Almighty God who helped me and still do the same for her in Jesus' name I pray.
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qwamy 7 years ago
Dear Efe,
The silent prayer of an embittered wife is as sharp as a double-edged sword. Never stop praying. Speak to Good more than you speak to man. Pray over your spouse especially when he sleep at home. Just leave everyt ... read full comment
Dear Efe,
The silent prayer of an embittered wife is as sharp as a double-edged sword. Never stop praying. Speak to Good more than you speak to man. Pray over your spouse especially when he sleep at home. Just leave everything to God.
It's really painful but you will late realise that every decision you take now will yield a result you expect.
This is difficult but it works magic: THANK GOD IN YOUR DARKEST HOUR.
Derrick 7 years ago
4gv him for he is not aware of the consequences yet.
4gv him for he is not aware of the consequences yet.
Kwesi 7 years ago
She Should watch war room, she should just respect the man , love him and pray for him and leave the rest to God, God will work on him.
She Should watch war room, she should just respect the man , love him and pray for him and leave the rest to God, God will work on him.
Bless! 7 years ago
First Efe may have made initial mistakes. She probably did not study him well before the marriage. Second could it be that Efe has changed the way she did things after the maariage, such that whatever attracted her to him is ... read full comment
First Efe may have made initial mistakes. She probably did not study him well before the marriage. Second could it be that Efe has changed the way she did things after the maariage, such that whatever attracted her to him is no longer there? Sometimes we take things for granted once we are married as we think the deal has been done so there is no need to continue as before. My advice will be for you Nana Yaah to find a way of hearing from the man too. Every story has two sides or even more. When you hear his side it may be possible to identify factors that have made him go stay with another woman. Then you begin to help your client address them. Explore all avenues to reconcile them but if all fails Efe should seek divorce as a last resort on the grounds of the marriage having broken down beyond reconciliation. For all you know there could be a man out there who has gone through same with his wife and is also now looking for a new partner. When one door is closed another is open. But she should stay safe and not do anything stupid. Shooting them or killing herself is no solution. Should you need legal services in the (unlikely) event of divorce proceedings just revert. For free.
EZEKIEL 7 years ago
WHO told you..God hates adultery ?? When did God revealed that to YOU ??
Every FOOL has heard the voice of God in recent times !
WHO told you..God hates adultery ?? When did God revealed that to YOU ??
Every FOOL has heard the voice of God in recent times !
NENE KOFI GYANGUAH 7 years ago
DIVORCE IS THE SOLUTION HERE
OR U WILL END UP COMMITTING CRIME
DIVORCE IS THE SOLUTION HERE
OR U WILL END UP COMMITTING CRIME
kwesi 7 years ago
i am also a cheat as well but what made me that was my wife was always complaining of being tired and refusing to cook for me after hard days job. the most important thing about men are 1. how u talk to them when they are at ... read full comment
i am also a cheat as well but what made me that was my wife was always complaining of being tired and refusing to cook for me after hard days job. the most important thing about men are 1. how u talk to them when they are at home
2. ur attitude towards them when they are at fault
3.ur choice of words when u re angry
if your response to these questions sound arrogant then ur man is going to look for joy some where. i hate what i am doing but its difficult to stop since my wife is always putting up childish behaviour
kudjoe 7 years ago
Jaz relax n take it that you have not yet married.He will reach his limit and come back to you.Do not rush in going for a divorce. Try and overcome it though difficult to do but do it and stop talking to people about it.Even ... read full comment
Jaz relax n take it that you have not yet married.He will reach his limit and come back to you.Do not rush in going for a divorce. Try and overcome it though difficult to do but do it and stop talking to people about it.Even if you should leave him now do know the kind you are going to meet now? Sis,once again try to relax and no more talking about it to others.Just ignore them.
B papa 7 years ago
My dear sister,keep your fingers crossed and concentrate on your life cos marriage will not take us to heaven but rather, righteousness.Im saying this bcos u may do something bad to yourself for thinking about that man and ... read full comment
My dear sister,keep your fingers crossed and concentrate on your life cos marriage will not take us to heaven but rather, righteousness.Im saying this bcos u may do something bad to yourself for thinking about that man and that will end u up in hell whiles he enjoys with the so called lover.Rather pray instead and victory will be your portion.
kwame 7 years ago
this is really a sad story. when a cheating husband tends to tends to be arrogant, it is really sad. However, there is a local adage that " wo soro aware gyae a, won nya aware pa" forgive me cos am not too good in the languag ... read full comment
this is really a sad story. when a cheating husband tends to tends to be arrogant, it is really sad. However, there is a local adage that " wo soro aware gyae a, won nya aware pa" forgive me cos am not too good in the language but I think my point is clear. At times if we have something good, we don't cherish it until we loose it. it is time for you to live for christ and trust him. allow him to go with his infidelity. If one door closes, another one opens but at times, we ponder too much on the closed door such that we don't even see to newly open one. trust in God and live by his word and you would be fine. have the courage and stay strong cos everything would be fine. all the best.
Hilda Osei 7 years ago
Nana kindly tell her to leave quickly as it can cause her own demise, I equally faced the same challenge and am Happy now with my girls around me. Marry d Holy Spirit and he'll direct u to the rightful man
Nana kindly tell her to leave quickly as it can cause her own demise, I equally faced the same challenge and am Happy now with my girls around me. Marry d Holy Spirit and he'll direct u to the rightful man
Kyei 7 years ago
She needs just one word.!" DIVORCE" him quickly n I ll service u freely b4 u get a rightful person.
She needs just one word.!" DIVORCE" him quickly n I ll service u freely b4 u get a rightful person.
Akosua K 7 years ago
Some women, paaa!!! If you are afraid of divorcing, then you will never have a good marriage. Is he God? Some of you women have made these 'husbands' as your gods and worshipping them. Thank goodness you have no child with hi ... read full comment
Some women, paaa!!! If you are afraid of divorcing, then you will never have a good marriage. Is he God? Some of you women have made these 'husbands' as your gods and worshipping them. Thank goodness you have no child with him so why don't you move on with your life. It's not easy with divorcing but you must move on. Stop hiding behind the scriptures that God hates divorce' that is cowardly. Every life is precious so don't let anyone degrade yours. Respect your life and move on. You still want to sit there and wait till he comes for you again? Well it's up to you. No one can help you if you don't help yourself.
Kyei 7 years ago
She shd Bite his" penis" off big time n call for Fire service alert ..haha...loh!
She shd Bite his" penis" off big time n call for Fire service alert ..haha...loh!
Kojo London 7 years ago
My only advice to Efe is to pray and ask God to intervene in her situation because it is only Him who has the solution to such problems. Of late, satan's attack is bent on marriages. Satan doesn't care whether you are a Pope, ... read full comment
My only advice to Efe is to pray and ask God to intervene in her situation because it is only Him who has the solution to such problems. Of late, satan's attack is bent on marriages. Satan doesn't care whether you are a Pope, Bishop. Hisjob is to destroy everything God has instituted. Efe please pray for no threat can change anything.
Agyeman Kofi 7 years ago
Very sad indeed.Men are still men
I don't know how God created us
,but the bottom line is we're still men.
My dear Efe,accept the fact that he's
a man,and that he's bound to such
life stuffs.Well,I wish you could wait fo ... read full comment
Very sad indeed.Men are still men
I don't know how God created us
,but the bottom line is we're still men.
My dear Efe,accept the fact that he's
a man,and that he's bound to such
life stuffs.Well,I wish you could wait for sometimes and see what the lord have for you.I can see you're a Christian woman, and you're willing to make your marriage
a successful one,don't do anything that'll make you become impenitent, do your best as a married woman, never forget that. Accompany this with fervent prayers and I hope you'll surely have your man back.Something is not just right, take it to the Lordbin prayer.Good luck dear.
Godsway 7 years ago
What are you waiting for? Get out of this nightmare you call marriage. My sister, you have lost him, seek divorce and move on. God will reward you one day with a loving and faithful man. My sister, l'm a man, but, I think div ... read full comment
What are you waiting for? Get out of this nightmare you call marriage. My sister, you have lost him, seek divorce and move on. God will reward you one day with a loving and faithful man. My sister, l'm a man, but, I think divorce is what you need. Let no counsellor deceive you.
Amatus 7 years ago
You are waiting for him to change and come back to you? What if he doesn't? My sister, the rules of the game are simple and straight and the good book have specified the conditions under which you dump your marriage and you k ... read full comment
You are waiting for him to change and come back to you? What if he doesn't? My sister, the rules of the game are simple and straight and the good book have specified the conditions under which you dump your marriage and you know it too well; so what are you waiting for? to die for him to live? I guess your mother is getting disappointed in you my know. marrying him was not a mistake but the worse mistake you are making right now is by continuing to live with that animal of a husband. Please, God is giving you immediate salvation, you can choose to remain in this so call marriage and die, that would be your fault.
Ruth 7 years ago
pls sis run for ur life OK he is a beast do u won't to die pls dear leave OK God will speak for u oneday n u will see dat idiot will come n apologize trust me bt take heart everytin will be OK God is in control
pls sis run for ur life OK he is a beast do u won't to die pls dear leave OK God will speak for u oneday n u will see dat idiot will come n apologize trust me bt take heart everytin will be OK God is in control
PASTOR EMMA 7 years ago
hmm,very sad story.but your last sentence shows you are not a strong and a faithful Christian. thou shall not commit murder please.most Christians have sex with their beloveds before marriage and later go to God to bless the ... read full comment
hmm,very sad story.but your last sentence shows you are not a strong and a faithful Christian. thou shall not commit murder please.most Christians have sex with their beloveds before marriage and later go to God to bless the marriage, no no no ,is s sin .My sister go to God and ask him for forgiveness, have faith in God and pray ,cry unto God,he will bring your husband back ,thez nothing too hard for him
Ahiatielias@gmale.com 7 years ago
To me what I can say about this is to let the lady know that if she is really in love with this man and she insist to have this Man as her husband then the best way out is for her to live the house and go and be with her par ... read full comment
To me what I can say about this is to let the lady know that if she is really in love with this man and she insist to have this Man as her husband then the best way out is for her to live the house and go and be with her parents or rent apartment and be there ,and pray to God I bet your he will come back for you ,there is a saying that if the battle is getting header the victory is at hand, don't worry he is for you if you put my words into action,bet don't pick his call tell the time that he find you.
Eben Aikins 7 years ago
And to add to my first comment, I will say to you Dear sister that, respect him and submit to him as your husband. Perform all your duties to him as your husband. Don't indulge in arguments with him. Just love him and submit ... read full comment
And to add to my first comment, I will say to you Dear sister that, respect him and submit to him as your husband. Perform all your duties to him as your husband. Don't indulge in arguments with him. Just love him and submit to him as your husband, as you continue to pray. It may sound so simple, but the truth is that, that's the solution. Sometimes you may not "feel" to love or submit or respect him. Sometimes it may even seem that things are getting worse. But don't give up. Keep praying. Keep at it. Your testimonies are in your hands. Remember I said in my first comment that don't complain. Give thanks to The Lord, pray for your husband, show him love and submit to him as your husband. The result is that he will come back very soon. If you do these things I've shared with you, you will see results. He cannot "not come back." That's the reality. God bless you.
Max, USA 7 years ago
She has done the right thing by trying to save the marriage, but from the look of things this marriage will not work and so I will advice Efe to move on. She is even lucky that they have no child together so Efe's chances get ... read full comment
She has done the right thing by trying to save the marriage, but from the look of things this marriage will not work and so I will advice Efe to move on. She is even lucky that they have no child together so Efe's chances getting a good husband is still great. But as for the man, the new girl will show him "pepper" after Efe leaves, and he will regret but it will be too late for him.
Zina ASiedu 7 years ago
Hmmmmm Nana the only way to save this marriage is by prayers. Make God the third party, the councillor, cry to him indoors. Get up at dawn n pray
My sister there's nothing to hard or difficult with HIM. It's very difficult ... read full comment
Hmmmmm Nana the only way to save this marriage is by prayers. Make God the third party, the councillor, cry to him indoors. Get up at dawn n pray
My sister there's nothing to hard or difficult with HIM. It's very difficult but trusting people won't solve it,in short, 'pray okay' May God grant you the strength.
If I may ask, it means she still does not have kids with this man? If what she has written to you is true then I think the man doesn't deserve this lady. She has waisted her time all these years. She must quickly divorce this ...
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The only reason why this lady is still holding onto this marriage is because there is another woman. If she has the Biblical grounds to leave the husband, she can do so without any guilt for sinning. Easier said than done, I ...
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The right person to ask advice from is Lordina as the president can't keep his zip close and chase every woman he sights on
LIFE IS MORE IMPORTANT. THE GUY DOESN'T CARE ANYMORE. THE BEST YOU COULD DO IS TO SAVE YOUR LIFE. YOU JUST HAVE TO PRAY AND FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER MAN. DIVORCE HIM RIGHT IMMEDIATELY.
People, I do not blame you for casting insults on this man. You have heard the woman's side of the story. I would advise that you take your time on this man, now turned satan. Read the story well people.
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I mean to say, if you have heard the version of the man, you would probably console him for what he too is going through.
IF A MAN TREAT YOU BAD JUST GET RID OF HIS ASS TROW HIS SHIT OUT OF THE HOME AND TELL HIM TO GET LOST WHY FEEL SORY FOR YOURSELF
life gos on drop the loser get a new man and find new love because there is god above
So sad to read this story. Dear sister, he is not going to change. Please advise your self to leave. You rightly said the bible allows this kinda divorce. U need to focus on yourself, look good, and the right man will c ...
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"So sad to read this story" I agree with you, but what is holding this woman back is the status as you said. Some Ghanaians and especially the females are quick to rush into marriages without doing their homework, just want t ...
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Dear sis rmemba evryfn dat has a beginin has an end...society wl definitly mk mockery ba cos dey dnt knw wat u going tru...jx kip dem behind n move on ,b at ur best n bet u dey wl soon applaud u n from dr Ur dear husband ...
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Don't you think this man can kill you just to be free?
Thus man never lover loved you. See how he talked of hour boo at work. He was only interested in that and for 3 and something years, he had enough. He wants a new boo. You have every right to leave him cos Jesus said " excep ...
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Am sure he is wearing condoms with this new lady too.
Did he wear condoms when you were dating?
He is not serious with any of you. Are you really sure he initiated the wedding?
Am sure the writing was on the wall.
My ...
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Hmmmm what a sad story my sister foget him and move on with your life
Have patience my siister.Pray witout ceasing and take off your mind from him like you don't bother him anymore but make sure you play your role as a wife to him at home.God is definitely going to bring your not bact to again, ...
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It very hard for you, Please keep on praying things will be better. it the devil work in a bad way. Keep hope Alive
No lady deserves to be treated like trash, no matter how bad she is. God allows divorce in the case of infidelity. my sister please go ahead and divorce him. there's no need throwing your life away for a common man. When your ...
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Dear Efe,if you have children take consolation in the children and keep praying.However if it is unbearable get a divorce. U will be justified to do so in law and the bible.And do not rush into any relationship yet. Hold up y ...
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It's like asking "what do I do if I want to have a wee?
There are no kids involved and you can tell your man has fallen out of love with you. You just move on.
You people follow the bible to destroy yourself.
Move on lady.
This is your side of the story, we need to hear the man too. He loved you from the beginning and what made him change? Can you honestly say that he did not give all the red lights that he may not be comfortable with some aspe ...
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Thank you very much for that point. It seems that people here are not being too faur to the man and bringing morality into this issue. I'm a woman too, but let's face it here. After marriage, some ladies behave in ways that r ...
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I agree. Although I cannot think of a good enough reason for anybody to cheat on their spouse, some actions or inactions of the one may make the other feel entitled to it. And for a man, it may be particularly hard to keep ex ...
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Adultery is the only antidote for divorce as prescribe by the Bible. Efe has the option to walk out of the marriage and re-start her life or continue to stay and face all the pains and the problems, hoping that things will be ...
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I think the woman should leave the marriage because no good man will sleep with a lady and be proud of it since there are no kids involved else You will kill yourself before your time.and pray all the time God bless you
my sister, what are you waiting for? thank God that there are no children in the marriage. Divorce him! Trust me, you will get a better man than this "empty headed guy".He does not deserve your love! God is a faithful God. Hu ...
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Tell christ Devote urself to prayer.Pray saaaaa.Is there anything too hard for our God???? Go to him I mean pray.Go for prayer meetings and after a series of Prayer nd fast Sow a seed. I tell you the lady ull die nd ull g et ...
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really sad reading the whole story...in my own opinion i prefer she seek a new leaf than to think anything else...and please never should she thought of shooting them....God will fight ur battle for you.
As a divorcee I understand your pain and confusion. Living with/Being married to a man who you obviously still love who has fallen out of love with you must be unbearable to say the least. Fortunately you're a Christian. This ...
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u girls disturb God when looking for marriage but stops praying once u are married, u forget God when things go well n remember Him when things are bad. keep on praying
Before a married man fall in love with another woman ,meaning there's a problem at home ,Efe please go back to the drawing board .respect your husband love him more than before .tone down your voice anytime you want to chat ...
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Hmm he sounds like a dog! There may be no reason for him to behave this way - he may be just a very bad man!
The lady should he behaviour, she is doing something to the which is not saying here. If you are married before you see the women parading themselves looking for marriage and after marriegae they forget their prayer camps. Th ...
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She should concentrate of her work and believe in God.
Can we also advise ourselves of how artificial our ladies dress in this era where everything from top to bottom is faked? Artificial boots, bum and hair etc.
Has the husband come to realisation of some of these?
And the bed ...
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Hmm, Nana if you hate being one sided then don't let us talk about it because its coming from one end and we don't know what the other end also holds.
one sided really marriage stories shouldn't be commented on with a close end mind. if you are not married just exercise some manner of civility.
keep ur self neat and nice but withdraw ur services, l mean No contact for as long as 3 months, no sex , no food but be very attractive and enjoy life. As u do try to forget him, go out with friends and enjoy life, go to gym ...
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thanks for the advice
Dangerous advice, it's impossible to refuse your husband sex for that long (3 months). He'll proudily divorce her mercilessly. Don't try that at all
Nana, I think Efe should also look for a boyfriend and let us see the reaction of her husband
Another bad advice
Bad advice
Dear Nana, I want Efe to understand that her marriage has been mocked, betrayed and collapsed by her own man. Even if this man should come back with a repented heart, Efe will never trust him again. Anyman who does not respe ...
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Terrible indeed.Time and tide waits for no man. The lady shld involve her family and the man's family in the issue.If after that nothing changes then it will be better to end the marriage and go om with her.If indeed what she ...
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Dear the best thing for u to do now is to try and focus on ur life and also don't confront him anymore kk
Hmm,my dear I have been through same thing ,was with the perfect guy I thought for 10 yrs ,had 2 handsome boys n within a twinkle of an eye,he was cheating n got the other woman pregnant.needless to say,i left with my boys ,t ...
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Dear sis. Leave this foolish man. Re brand your image and u will fine a better man. God help u.
please before u marry ask those who has already marry and have experience,ladies of today only marry bcos of money,and handsome and there rest but mind u,u will share your man with other women cos most men dont understand why ...
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I,m a man as well but that's not how a man should treat a woman.I can feel the pain,that hurt. He treats u like a piece of paper all because u are humble and loving wife. May the almighty God blesses u with your kindness in u ...
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Your stories is about your own self. You can't run away from it. If you have been maltreated, you can go and burn the sea. You deserve this. Ladies after marriage don't have respect for their husbands again. Go and learn how ...
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my dear the bible say love your neighbour as yourself not more than yourself , don't die for any man pls love life & yourself for life is too short
These is a very sad one,but my sis u have to move on,u can't kill urself,it very difficult but u need to walk out,the man is up to something,leaving ur wife n staying with someone u are not married to, come on,ur husband is ...
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Hi Nana,
Efe has not spoken to God according to her own narration. She talked to friends, parents, pastor and others and not God. If Efe will stop fretting and start "crying" unto God with tears and repentant heart n mind of ...
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Great comment
plz leave the man with caution. He will definitely come back one day with a regret and lie yo a devil but don't believe him....
Nana.
I sympathize with the woman. However we need to hear from the other side too. We need to know whether the woman has certain characters or behaviours that drive her husband, or the man has innocently cheated on her.
We ...
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I do not blame this lady for staying in this destructive relationship for all these years. The title ' MRS' is so precious in our society, being a single lady is seen as a taboo when you cross 35years. Please ladies do not se ...
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???? very deep. I like
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE NO 1
Hmmm dis situation is killing.sour taste in ur mouth all de time, hair loss, weight loss and eczema on ur face. U simply look and feel dirty and terrible. If u r still working, just leave quietly. U will b alright after a whi ...
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This is insane.Efe shouldn't die before she decides to leave the marriage. Oh ! some men. She should bell me if she puts her thinking cup on.0249728043
Tell Efe to move on without him.
But wait..why would the guy make her the centre of talk during their dating days at work. 'her boo '. awww love is indeed blind.
I believe the man never loved him.. He only wanted the boo ...
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God is just: to be able to judge this guy we need to know the story of the other side nothing happens without a reason my question is did he sacrifice his job for this relationship for this results? Allah is the best judge.
from the story I realise that she is a devoted christian if am right , so my question is stay in the marriage n harbour pains n go to hell or leave the marriage n find peace of heart n make it to heaven which is better , pls ...
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l will be praying with you ok...is not easy...all is a work of the evil..in all you did something wrong when you were dating by given in to sex before marriage...so read Pslams 32:1-5 then used this Pslams 7,10,11,13 to pray ...
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I seriously doubt this is a true story. However if it is, then I will say the woman must immediately seek the help of someone stronger than her emotionally and do the following. 1. Separate from her husband. They should not b ...
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please advice this lady to let go. psalm 90 verse 4 say's thousand years to the Lord is like yesterday passed and gone'. let go. commit yours ways wholly to God and find something to occupy yourself. leave the two and allow G ...
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Leave him now.don't waste your time,he don't love you.
Nan Yaa, you are pretty,
MADAM EFE,pls dont wait for a prophet or imam to tell u are waisting ur tym..am happy u said Bliblically,u can only divource ur husband when he cheats on u..dis one is ryt under ur nose.i wouldnt advice u to divorce buh the c ...
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Sorry to hear that i am in the states it happened to me the best thing to do is find someone to talk to in the long run the feeling you have for him will start fading and you will leave him as soon as you leave him he will ...
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The bible says that whatever God does is Good.So if wat you are in is not Good then its not of God.please let him go.Next time pray and fast to be sure of wat u are doing bfore u do it.Dont kill yourself or shoot them bcos G ...
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My daughter commit yourself and your husband to Jesus and allow him take control of your marriage Don't leave him There's gonna be a miracle ok
Dear Efe,my advice will be stop complaining to your friends about your marriage.Rather identify your faults or maybe please change your behavior towards him and be observing. It takes time but he will change.Kw.
some people think once married you are in their net therefore can treat you anyhow, change your attitude,respect him, let him be the man in the home, and also pray for God to change him and also pray for God to change you too ...
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Correction please do not say cheating is in every mans DNA! Women are no different - society's norms have suppressed it but believe you me they are the same. Please don't make excuses for men!
Though your name sounds like you are a woman, but you are quiet frank on your point! Thanks for correcting that utopia!
No don't let go of him now....but change your attitude by not letting him know u are worried if his behaviour !! Don't complain ...don't call him wen his not home ...make him know u don't care!! Let him think twice that ah is ...
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My dear, your man is only human. God may hate adultery but mankind is weak and can not resist temptation. Even Presbyterian pastors are asking for permission to divorce their wives because some young girls have rocked them. T ...
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I need to write to you too...
Sometimes counter attack to defend yourself works wonders. drastic situations require drastic measures to correct it'self. why doesn't date someone seriously too and move on. the moment some men see someone else is interested ...
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lt is crystal clear that ur husband is not prepare to have an issue with u hence wearing condom during sex, then why spending ur youthfulness period on such idoit. Pray to God so that death would strike him in earliest n afte ...
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EFE DESERVES IT. WHEN IT WAS SWEET SHE NEVER COMPLAINED. SOME WOMEN ARE WICKED .THEY DECEIVE MEN & CHOP THEIR MONIES BUT LATER INSULT SAME MEN 4 BEING FOOLISH ETC.
SOME WOMEN WHO HAVE CHILDREN WITH THEIR PARTNERS KNOW THE RE ...
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You have not had issues with him , please leave this marraige.
Efe, Life has two sides. Good and Bad. What your going thru is the Bad side. But you can remedy the situation. No condition and situation is permanent. Just identify the steps to get your husband back. It all depends on you. ...
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First of all you are not a married couselor. The solution is simply she shold go speak to professional married counselors. ANd not address to you a social commentator.
My little platform is to help women and men get credible advice from professionals.. I don't give the advice, I have marriage counselors I work with dear. Tnx
my advice is that be patient give ur life by being prayerful and put too mush on your self. my sister try to keep some company around you. dont listen to those saying leave your marriage but tell them for better for worse n k ...
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Hmmm !!!, what do I say, I have been and still in the same situation for about fifteen plus years. Been to the hell gate of my life, not able to tell anyone because I think people would not believe my story, so just kept to ...
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Dear Efe,
The silent prayer of an embittered wife is as sharp as a double-edged sword. Never stop praying. Speak to Good more than you speak to man. Pray over your spouse especially when he sleep at home. Just leave everyt ...
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4gv him for he is not aware of the consequences yet.
She Should watch war room, she should just respect the man , love him and pray for him and leave the rest to God, God will work on him.
First Efe may have made initial mistakes. She probably did not study him well before the marriage. Second could it be that Efe has changed the way she did things after the maariage, such that whatever attracted her to him is ...
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WHO told you..God hates adultery ?? When did God revealed that to YOU ??
Every FOOL has heard the voice of God in recent times !
DIVORCE IS THE SOLUTION HERE
OR U WILL END UP COMMITTING CRIME
i am also a cheat as well but what made me that was my wife was always complaining of being tired and refusing to cook for me after hard days job. the most important thing about men are 1. how u talk to them when they are at ...
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Jaz relax n take it that you have not yet married.He will reach his limit and come back to you.Do not rush in going for a divorce. Try and overcome it though difficult to do but do it and stop talking to people about it.Even ...
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My dear sister,keep your fingers crossed and concentrate on your life cos marriage will not take us to heaven but rather, righteousness.Im saying this bcos u may do something bad to yourself for thinking about that man and ...
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this is really a sad story. when a cheating husband tends to tends to be arrogant, it is really sad. However, there is a local adage that " wo soro aware gyae a, won nya aware pa" forgive me cos am not too good in the languag ...
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Nana kindly tell her to leave quickly as it can cause her own demise, I equally faced the same challenge and am Happy now with my girls around me. Marry d Holy Spirit and he'll direct u to the rightful man
She needs just one word.!" DIVORCE" him quickly n I ll service u freely b4 u get a rightful person.
Some women, paaa!!! If you are afraid of divorcing, then you will never have a good marriage. Is he God? Some of you women have made these 'husbands' as your gods and worshipping them. Thank goodness you have no child with hi ...
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She shd Bite his" penis" off big time n call for Fire service alert ..haha...loh!
My only advice to Efe is to pray and ask God to intervene in her situation because it is only Him who has the solution to such problems. Of late, satan's attack is bent on marriages. Satan doesn't care whether you are a Pope, ...
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Very sad indeed.Men are still men
I don't know how God created us
,but the bottom line is we're still men.
My dear Efe,accept the fact that he's
a man,and that he's bound to such
life stuffs.Well,I wish you could wait fo ...
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What are you waiting for? Get out of this nightmare you call marriage. My sister, you have lost him, seek divorce and move on. God will reward you one day with a loving and faithful man. My sister, l'm a man, but, I think div ...
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You are waiting for him to change and come back to you? What if he doesn't? My sister, the rules of the game are simple and straight and the good book have specified the conditions under which you dump your marriage and you k ...
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pls sis run for ur life OK he is a beast do u won't to die pls dear leave OK God will speak for u oneday n u will see dat idiot will come n apologize trust me bt take heart everytin will be OK God is in control
hmm,very sad story.but your last sentence shows you are not a strong and a faithful Christian. thou shall not commit murder please.most Christians have sex with their beloveds before marriage and later go to God to bless the ...
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To me what I can say about this is to let the lady know that if she is really in love with this man and she insist to have this Man as her husband then the best way out is for her to live the house and go and be with her par ...
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And to add to my first comment, I will say to you Dear sister that, respect him and submit to him as your husband. Perform all your duties to him as your husband. Don't indulge in arguments with him. Just love him and submit ...
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She has done the right thing by trying to save the marriage, but from the look of things this marriage will not work and so I will advice Efe to move on. She is even lucky that they have no child together so Efe's chances get ...
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Hmmmmm Nana the only way to save this marriage is by prayers. Make God the third party, the councillor, cry to him indoors. Get up at dawn n pray
My sister there's nothing to hard or difficult with HIM. It's very difficult ...
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