Lifestyle: After the ‘sex’ what next?

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  • Kojo Manu 9 years ago

    I think your feature article appeared one-sided without apportioning any responsibility to the women. Yes, men are always on the hunt, but women are by far the "encourager" of the man's action. Here's an example. A lady I kno ...
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  • AFENA 9 years ago

    GENICURE! WU BEDI AFEELI FEELI

  • Willie 9 years ago

    Well said, Jojo

  • Eagle's Eyes 9 years ago

    Some ladies will show disrespect to the man, asking whether the man thinks it is bcos of all the things they buy for the her that is why the man is being inquisitive or showing jealousy? There was a lady I was dating until so ...
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  • azure 9 years ago

    tit for tat

  • Joe'D 9 years ago

    you hit the nail right on the head...couldn't agree more

  • Apraku 9 years ago

    Excuse me what about men who devote their time, energy and love for these women , who at the end leave these humble guys who meant sharing their loves with these goddamm women who doesn't know any shame running from one man t ...
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  • Sam 9 years ago

    Must every sex act with a lady result in marriage?

  • Omanhene 9 years ago

    Please men show some respect to women.

  • IG@quophi_gh 9 years ago

    on de more ceriox note...dude dis ur comment makes so much sense oo lol; naw girls hav no shame chaley! dey dont cease to disappoint; for the writer; idont know for her....why its always abt girls dese days anyways;

  • Inusa Mekuka 9 years ago

    Julia loved the man's money and not the man himself. Therefore, it was fair for the man also to aim for the cake and not love Julia. If a lady is dating a man and all she wants is money money, expensive this, expensive that, ...
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  • Code 2 9 years ago

    l believe the distance between the laday's home town and dubai can be thousands of miles away, if the man can afford to take to Dubai why can't he take her to her parent. if your parents take you to school and you decide to t ...
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  • Inusa Mekuka 9 years ago

    What about the women who dangle their 'cake' and deceive men to take their money and dump them? What about those who knowingly sleep with a married man hoping that he will dump his wife for her? If Julia gave in to the man th ...
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  • KKchii 9 years ago

    maybe Julia's p*ssy didnt 'taste sweet' enough. There are so many reasons why the man may have left the girl. sorry for her,but better luck next time. Wait till after marriage before allowing the next man to sleep with u.

  • pele 9 years ago

    Wo Gud piece after sex we now look at attitude lol

  • bongo 9 years ago

    AFTER SEX YOU MOVE TO THE NEXT CATCH..THATS ABOUT IT..THE SAME WAY WOMEN USE WHAT THEY HAVE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT.

  • Vicky 9 years ago

    You are being immature, learn how to be a man and try to grow up, cause i sense your lack of consciousness.
    I hope one day you will fall in love and realize how it feels like when someone walks out of your life.

  • NANA PROMISY 9 years ago

    This is the 2nd time I have seen this very important question. Any woman of substance need to ask this pertinent question. 97% of the time, guys just want to get into a girl's panties and that's the end.

  • Assa 9 years ago

    Good article keep it up

  • k, no problem, a 9 years ago

    There are so many reasons. So many that it is useless to recount or think that there is any answer to your question. But not that there are different men and there are different women.

  • king b 9 years ago

    Those of us who do thebright thing to,are cheatedby the women

  • junior k 9 years ago

    I share the same sentiment@king b

  • NANA PROMISY 9 years ago

    Asabea, welcome to the real world. The world isn't a fair place. It isn't at all. Tell your friend as painful as her experience has been, she should try and move on. It might happen to her again and again before she finally m ...
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  • NANA PROMISY 9 years ago

    I was surprised to HEAR what this lady friend had to say.

  • DON CALI 9 years ago

    If it happens to her again, then she's really stupid. I wouldn't blame any guy. What is it that makes a girl decide to open up her legs for a guy who has not even paid her bride price. Maybe she also wanted the sex badly a ...
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  • Payaa 9 years ago

    Great piece. This is a question I have asked myself several times. After sex what next?

  • Nina 9 years ago

    After sex, then comes the look out for attitude and wondering if the sex was even worth it?
    Of its worth it, then they would want to keep it.
    If not, then bye bye unfortunately.

  • Nina 9 years ago

    I don't always blame the men.
    Have you also asked your friend if she keeps her vijayjay clean too?
    What if the man meant well but after sex with her (which he might have endured despite the smell of Urine or odour coming ou ...
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  • AFENA 9 years ago

    GREASY ONES ARE THE SWEETEST. JUST HOLD YOUR NOSE AND GIVE IT TO HER IF YOU CANT VIBE HER TO SHOWER WITH YOU

  • NII 9 years ago

    The only price a man has to pay to get into your pants is A Bride Price. Anything else ( vacation, shows, cars etc) paid are extras. So if you open your legs before your Bride Price is paid, don't blame the men.I am a man, no ...
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  • KWAME Dubai 9 years ago

    After sex we check the attitude , n the inner beauty not only outer.

  • Pantsdown 9 years ago

    Do the women also enjoy sex or it is often imposed on them? Even single women enjoy sex without wanting to marry the men. More and more women are also taking men out on holidays and vacation inorder to have good sex time. Yo ...
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  • tooooooooooo serious 9 years ago

    Hmmmm. Our ladies now parade themselves with beautifacts. They even prefer luxury than true happiness in the future hence marital lives.

  • .... 9 years ago

    Learn to promote stuff that will uplift society and the betterment of Ghanaians. Not these foolish articles with no substance!

  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Are not intelligent. This is real life case study. No matter how educated with degrees or spiritually developed, this episode of life can mess you up. It happens to even millionaires. Pay attention and get something out of it ...
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  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Mortal love is full of errors, not perfect, could be influence by outside forces, it is hard to give trust blindly to another, more so an opposite in nature. The Agape love can only comes from Savior willing to die for you. S ...
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  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Ben and Afua are involved. Saying things in fabrications.

  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Half horse as ancient mythology discribes, and a man with pussy or women by birth with penis. I think the same thing according to holy bible. The penis or pussy might not be original from the ovum. That is call beast spiritu ...
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  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Spiritual make ups. Ethics are truely human promotion constituting carnality as in human civilised logics, whiles scriptures are holy spirit inspired. For instance, in the old testament, Elijah had to kill all the "baal" wors ...
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  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Exactly to the kingdom of God ruling hierarchy with permanente Lord King, neither nezzars statue dream with living permanent King, What is it really. Babylon de whore, not measuring up to the kingdom of God is the Beast. Bein ...
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  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Not African, maybe, not dark skin. Did not want to eat idol food of ritual celebritions of babylon. God yahwah forbids them. SJC of salvation surpass that order.

  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    Always "THE Ws" all Virginians.

  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    466/46=GWB/DC=6.; 678/65=HBO/JB=5.6
    This is the simplex of it all after superimposing for integration in differentiation to borlean matrices in series.

  • SALVATION DELIGHTs. 9 years ago

    466/46=GWB/DC=6.; 678/65=HBO/JB=5.6
    This is the simplex of it all after superimposing for integration in differentiation to borlean matrices in series.

  • kay 9 years ago

    Good one.

  • GUINESS-TUKPA 9 years ago

    when u stretch somebody for something,after getting it,u will surely become useless,some will not even want to go there if the thing fall short of their expection.men naturally because of our sperm storage resevoir which natu ...
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  • Ndlovu 9 years ago

    ... because of our sperm storage reserviour which naturally is supposed to be emptied frequently to make room for production... is not based on science. Read around spermatogenesis to be informed.

  • Samuel Amoah 9 years ago

    Your story sounds so good, but have you look at it from the other side. Some ladies not all, take advantage of the man providing. Have you heard the word GOLD DIGGERS, no man want to be fooled.

  • Thomy 9 years ago

    Good piece, sometimes we tuned to forget about our communication abilities. This should set the pace people to learn how to communicate.Who knows in the cause of their dating Julia was using abusive languages that she did not ...
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  • Joel 9 years ago

    I think there r so many things that happen in relationship ,everybody have a share in what ever transpire, we shouldn't loose sight on the trouble the woman cause during or after sex. Anything is possible

  • Joshua 9 years ago

    It very sad and is not fair for men to do that to the ladies. But we should not forget one thing, when we go against the word of God and do what we think is right in our eyes, this is what happens. It is stated very clear in ...
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  • Stephen 9 years ago

    I go with joshua if we follow God's Word we will save ourselves from these things but if we want to be wise in our own eyes then this is just the beginning

  • NANA PROMISY 9 years ago

    Did you read the story yesterday that says Presby Reverends are seeking divorce to walk away from the vaginas they married to?

  • John Martin 9 years ago

    After sex life continues Nana Yaa

  • Frederick 9 years ago

    Thanks for your advice hope all men Will take this advice

  • Frederick 9 years ago

    Thanks for your advice hope all man will take this advice and women should also respect what they have

  • grace 9 years ago

    well noted. thanks.

  • Adutwum 9 years ago

    My answer is after sex nothing,why do women see every relationship as a potential marriage preparation.

  • WISDOM 9 years ago

    A nice article good for the ladies to study.Most of now-adays ladies are too materialistic that they fail to study the baits of the present men hence they fall victims.How many women will accept poor men as suitors?

  • Afrika Bravo 9 years ago

    Is simple as ABC just becos Africa women follow money .day don't know the meaning love. They also don't know what is good for them. I new one woman in Germany.they got Marriage in Ghana , and after some month later the took h ...
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  • fiiguy 9 years ago

    Some women are cheats and liars.they smell money and they r like woow this is the world...God is surely dealing with them while some men are also receiving the ire punishment as such.

  • OWEN NEW-YORK. 9 years ago

    AS THE SAYING GOES,WANT WANT NO GET,GET GET NO WANT. BETTER STILL,THOSE WITH CAPS HAVE NO HEADS. THOSE WITH HEADS TOO HAVE NO CAPS. THE FIRST DAY I MET MY GIRLFRIEND WE MADE LOVE OR HAD SEX. HER ENGINE WAS GOOD,HER CHARACTER ...
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  • zakk 9 years ago

    INTELLIGENT NII AGAIN! THANK YOU.

  • Kwabena Danso,Gbawe-Accra 9 years ago

    That's the type of treatment some of you women must go through.Your experience is just about 1% of that of men's experience.Don't men sponsor women in schools and even take them as wives to the western world as wives?What do ...
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  • Christopher 9 years ago

    Do you know the number of women out there using sex to get what the want from men?
    Talk to men and write another story to reveal how women go out of the ordinary ways to use men and dump them. It's a two edge sword. You must ...
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  • prodigy-k red 9 years ago

    Your story look very real and I wonder how long they ve been in the relationship before the man is or was pouring all those material things on her and she was receiving them with joy.Caution never start new relationship by se ...
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  • Andrews Melbourne. 9 years ago

    After 'sex' what next? After the sex,that's where you realised the stretch marks, busy hair like a forest where all the wild animals are kept. I guess the writer being hypocritical wouldn't go to the same restaurant the secon ...
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  • Emefa Anyidoho 9 years ago

    Asabea, thanks for asking for this question and I think it is an important question. As the commented by someone, it is one-sided piece. Nevertheless, you asked a great question.
    First, there is a man and there is love. Wom ...
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  • slim 9 years ago

    she was taking all the gifts but was not thinking of what next after gifts. well in a wild animal kingdom the hunter becomes the hunted.

  • cyllarh 9 years ago

    Nice piece there tho.....a friend has a similar experience.Please the guys out there, if u re not matured enough to make her feel cared for emotionally, don't get into her pants....and ladies please sEx is not a glue....it cu ...
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  • Samuel Kudjoe 9 years ago

    Is not all about sex. A man with dreams want a lady with vision. If a lady accept proposal of man cos of riches is a mistake not real love. Ladies must blame themselves 50%. Greedy jealous envy is putting our ladies in Al thi ...
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  • Joe'D 9 years ago

    Question: Do you see the president campaigning and making promises after he wins the election?

    The world is in perfect harmony - for every ying there's a yang. The way men treat women is a direct consequence of how women t ...
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  • Kuffuor 9 years ago

    You are damn right men!

  • Amen 9 years ago

    By far the most sensible and objective response I have read on GhanaWeb. All angles covered.

  • PATRICK 9 years ago

    YOU ARE AN EXCELLENT ANALYST

  • newton 9 years ago

    life continues

  • Yaw 9 years ago

    this is a lay story. it lacks objectivity and fairness? full of prejudice?!

  • Priscilla Nana Adu 9 years ago

    Well done dear for sharing. yes does guys dnt have respect for themselves and they should also remember that when you throu a ball at a wall it will surely come back to you, someone will also do same to your sister or future ...
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  • Agyemang 9 years ago

    I didn't actually want to comment on this article, but I felt I should rather say something. This change of mind stem from the fact that some one say ladies should endeavor to keep their legs folded until marriage. yes nice a ...
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  • Me 9 years ago

    After sex it is time to look for the next different sex.
    I am a man and to tell the writer that the best thing in this World is having sex the first time with a new beautiful lady.
    It is our animal instinct.
    It is a new tr ...
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  • Bongo 9 years ago

    After sex, then reality sets in for many ladies. They get to find out if the man only wanted them for sex or for life. A lady must find out for herself if a guy wants her just for sex or really wants her for a wife. If you op ...
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  • Yaa 9 years ago

    Very good article yet you find unrepentant Ghana men talking gibrish. Most African men do not respect women yet they can to the world through women.It seems like a demon that needs to be cast out from some.It's a very big sha ...
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  • Bernie 9 years ago

    You feature article is centered on just one lady yet you have generalised the position of men. i can guarantee you that if i guy walks to a lady with all honesty and simply tell her that he fancies her and would want her to b ...
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  • Nana Yaw 9 years ago

    oh Nana Yaa, so you mean to tell us that you've never heard of a lady snatching her own friend's man before? there are as many women out there who just want sex with certain guys just for the fun of it. always tempting guys. ...
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  • Neu 9 years ago

    I think you yourself have been maltreatdd b4 coz the energy with which you are writing this article is too obvious. Maybe you are the Julia in the story. You ladies look down on the less endowed men in the society. And you ju ...
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  • Kwabena 9 years ago

    Thank you for your interesting write up.
    Speaking from the point of view of the Bible, I will say that it is a sin to sleep with a man who has not taken your hand in marriage and paid a dowry.
    By having premarital sex, you ...
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  • Grace gyapong 9 years ago

    I like the message keep it up

  • Dan 9 years ago

    please advice the ladies to also have some self esteem and dignity. They must also not be gullible and foolish to think that they can enjoy all the luxuries of some men and not pay for it. In any case they offer themselves fr ...
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  • Jerry 9 years ago

    well said dear, but most at times the ladies, from the beginning they show us some "marryable " behaviour and later disrespect us after knowing our selves,but that doesn't grantee men to spend Gargantua sum of mony just to fu ...
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  • Akosua 9 years ago

    Good piece,I don't blame de men too much because sometimes they r tempted by de women to do so

  • Tony (mcllaw@yahoo.co.uk) 9 years ago

    Sometimes I feel bad for women. The innocent ones rather become victims of rough play. It's so sad.
    Nana Yaa Asabea, please let's get in touch and I'll explain certain things to u. Perhaps it might be of help.
    Thank you.

  • fiifi ocran 9 years ago

    A wonderful piece of write up but full of emotion. I wish you treat it as a research topic.

  • Addah Richard 9 years ago

    Hmmmm,the point is that men are actually attracted by sight,I mean what they see. Every beautiful lady will have men falling at her feet but if she has no character these men won't stay for long. As a lady your outward appear ...
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  • king solomon 9 years ago

    let me tell you something nana yaa asabea or what the call you. believe me julia ur friend wha happend to her is karma, what goes around comes around. maybe she broke the heart of a veri nice God fearing guy. ask her to tell ...
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  • Nana Yaw 9 years ago

    Have u asked yourself why ur friend gave up the cherry in Dubai? Three weeks in Dubai is a lot of money. Do u know how many 'not-so-rich men' your friend has bounced? And now somebody showers her with gifts n Dubai trips n sh ...
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  • Micheal 9 years ago

    After reading your article I have this to say,the woman are a carried about the buhaha of spendings from Men should have themselves to blame bcos Sex is a two way thing.And it basically the woman who makes it possible when sh ...
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  • Abu Mujaahid 9 years ago

    Men and women are made from flesh and bone. The reality is if you don't know your Creator, you won't know yourself. After she got played then she want to pray? Most of the women need to learn to dress modestly and stop gold d ...
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  • kossiwa 9 years ago

    Baby of course. After the sex baby is next and the life continue without happyness for the both.

  • King 9 years ago

    Some Men are crazy ???? stupid

  • KEK 9 years ago

    KARMA has no menu, you get served what you deserve.

  • BARON 9 years ago

    abi when you ladies count too much on your beauty you do seems too proud and any guy who approach you should sweat before he could be your friend, No one is saying you should be cheap by accepting any guys proposal but most b ...
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  • Vasty baby girl 9 years ago

    PLEASE LADIES LET'S GET MARRIED BEFORE SEX BECAUSE THIS HAS BECOME RAMPANT NOW A DAYS WHICH IS NOT GOOD. FUCK AND LEAVE IS NOW TOOOOO MUCH WE ARE SELLING OUR PRIORITIES.

  • BARON 9 years ago

    Every body is condemning the action of the guy yes I didn't also support that as well but, here is the question, if this guy had waited for all these while and after marriage he sleep with her only to fine out she was not his ...
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  • abednego 9 years ago

    we will chew after sex

  • per sevierance 9 years ago

    All that glitters not gold my dear lady, I think ur friend gave herself out because of the riches and not ready to suffer

  • Lalas 9 years ago

    Goodness, some women are too greedy

  • mozee 9 years ago

    Why didn't the postpone the gifts till after marriage? Sometimes I don't understand women at all. Will you go to the market and buy something I don't need. You spend in what u need so if the man spends on u n gets ur thing in ...
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