Lifestyle: Is sexual generosity a virtue?

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• NiiM3NiiM3 7 years ago

  Arguably, the most pleasurable human pastime and sincerely shrouded in great controversy IS GENEROUS SEX. As we move through the ages, the experiences changes. There are couples who have each other, but sexual activity have ...
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  Arguably, the most pleasurable human pastime and sincerely shrouded in great controversy IS GENEROUS SEX. As we move through the ages, the experiences changes. There are couples who have each other, but sexual activity have diminished and those who simply could not have enough. The debate is on as to who the giver is and who the receiver is. However, from time Society has assigned the female the role of the giver and for which she has to be courted and rewarded for her generosity. The younger generation, however, have their story about sex. When one woman is paid for sex and she also pays someone else for sex, the dynamics changes as to who is the giver and who is the receiver. However, it is safe to limit this write-up to sex within a committed relationship (couples).
  If the argument of sexual generosity is taken to extend beyond the boundaries of a committed relationship whilst still in a relationship – it becomes a very controversial one. This type of sexual generosity can cost the parties more than they bargain for and the charitable nature of sex will get lost completely. It, therefore, means it will be forever an underground practice which in itself takes away its charitable nature.
  The other aspect is where ill-health will transform one partner into an unappealing sexual partner but the other partner will be consenting to sex and even initiating it to enable the other partner who has lost sex appeal to reach climax. A man manifesting acute schizophrenic tendencies, suffering from some form of deforming ailment may lose his sex appeal and most likely the female spouse may not be drawn to him sexually. If, however, it is the woman – a man being challenged to be sexually generous will not have to struggle too much. This is just generalising knowing full well, there will be some minority who will go contrary to the norm.
  The true concept of sex is that there is disproportionate shift of desirability to the male species. The female species, however, have proved time and again that they have capabilities to take on several men in a given day hence may challenge the concept of men desiring sex more and even disprove it completely. When women are generous with sex in a relationship, men blossom. When men are generous with sex in a relationship, it could create all sorts of psychological problems including visits to counsellors, relatives and in extreme cases divorce. If arguably women could be more generous with sex, how frequent demands from them in committed relationships could lead to untold number of problems is not clear and perhaps will remain a mystery.
  However, on a given day and the set up is right and chemistry is on point – sexual intercourse which comes from freely giving of self brings untold happiness. Anything in the world could be promised and could be given for real generous sex. As couples grow, however, something will happen – something will certainly happen and nobody will know from whence comes the source. The proverbial mid-life crisis for men does not just happen, but it would and whatever could go wrong will. Sexual deprivation could spark fear in the male as being pushed into early impotency. True or false - several stories have been told. Sex takes humankind to the greatest level or ecstasy – meaning joy otherwise un-comparable to any form of joy.

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