Dear GhanaWeb,

I never imagined my marriage would turn into something like this. Today, I live in a home where I feel like a stranger, battling pain, confusion, and depression every single day.

My wife and I have been married for eight years, but for the past five years, our home has been anything but peaceful. She has developed what I can only describe as a deep addiction to pornography.

At first, I thought it was just a phase, something temporary that would pass. I believed we would eventually return to being the normal, happy couple we once were. But I was wrong.

This is no longer just about watching. It has gone far beyond that. She constantly wants these things acted out in real life, and the demands have become overwhelming. She expects intimacy multiple times a day, sometimes up to five times, and I am only human. I simply cannot keep up.

The situation has taken a serious toll on me. I can’t sleep, I can’t think clearly, and I am emotionally drained. The most painful part is that she is openly cheating on me. Her justification is that I am not satisfying her the way she wants, when she wants it.

At some point, she introduced aphrodisiacs to push me beyond my limits. I went along with it in an attempt to save my marriage, but it nearly cost me my life.

I suffered a heart attack last year, and after being honest with my doctor, I was strongly advised to stop. Since then, things have only worsened.

Now, she brings other men into our home or goes out to meet them. I have caught her more than 15 times within the past year alone.

Each time, she either blames me or dismisses my concerns entirely. She tells me it is “just sex” and insists I should not be bothered because, according to her, I am the one she truly loves.

What makes this situation even more complicated is the power dynamic in our marriage. Her father is a wealthy businessman, and I used to work for him when we met. She pursued me, convinced her father to approve of our relationship, and we eventually got married.

Back then, she was calm, respectful, and everything I thought I wanted in a partner. Things changed after she gave birth to our child. She became a completely different person.

Financially, I feel small in this marriage. I earn about GH₵6,000 a month, yet we live in a $2,000 monthly apartment, an expense I cannot even cover halfway. The cars we drive belong to her.

Almost everything we have is tied to her wealth. She has never directly said money is the reason for her actions, but I cannot ignore the imbalance.

She does not cook or handle household chores; we have a house help. She is not disrespectful in the traditional sense, but her actions are tearing me apart. She has also made it clear that she does not want another child because she wants to maintain her body.

I have tried everything I can think of to save this marriage. I have endured, adjusted, and even sacrificed my health. But now, I feel like I am losing myself completely. I am depressed, mentally exhausted, and emotionally broken.

I still think about our child. I still think about the vows we made. But I do not know how much longer I can continue living like this.

Please, what do I do?

FG/EB

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