Dear GhanaWeb,

My husband and I have been married for ten years now. We have three kids, the elderly one is ten years old.

As to where we are now in this marriage, I have no idea how much my husband earns, where he banks, or anything about his savings.

Even the little things I know of, he doesn’t use his kids or me as next of kin. He always uses his younger sister, who’s also married with kids.

I’ve asked him why he does that and he responded that his sister is his blood. I don’t understand why he trusts his sister to inherit him and take care of his kids better than me.

I take care of this family with my entire heart. I invest every penny I make into this family. I don’t even have anything to my name despite the fact that I work because he barely gives me enough money for this house.

He would say I’m working so I should use my money. If I’m to buy something, he would intentionally give me half of the amount and say I should add the rest because I’m working.

Aside that, he’s always taking money from me. He’s always asking for a loan from me, but he never pays me back. He made me pay the children’s fees in school most of the time. Initially, I didn’t see anything wrong with that since the children are also mine but I’ve realised he’s taking me for granted.

I know nothing about his finances so I keep wondering what will happen to us when he’s no more. He said he trusts his sister to come through for us. He expects me to beg his sister for money when he’s no more.

Moreover, his sister had always been giving us attitude. She claimed I’m wasting her brother’s money so she doesn’t want to associate herself with me. I used to call her and even visit them because I thought we were a family but looking at the way she behaves, it was like I was worrying her.

I even told my husband about it and he said his sister is like that so I shouldn’t take it personally. He actually knows how she is, yet he’s doing this. He won’t let me save my money either. He’s always taking it from me.

I don’t know what he has going on with his sister, but sometimes I’m worried. Despite everything, I just don’t feel okay about this man. I don’t even know if this marriage is worth it anymore. What do I do?


FG/EB


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