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Columnist: Hardi, Ibrahim

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Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative,
handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person
everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was
also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he
usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he
seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So,
naturally, he had few. ''But,'' he told himself, ''that just shows how
stupid most people are''.

As he grew, his parents became concerned
about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they
should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with
his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. ''Whenever you
lose your temper,'' he told the boy, ''I want you to really let it out.
Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out
back. Hit that nail as hard as you can''.

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as
tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as
easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the
boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!).
Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding
his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence!
Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt
mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.

a sign of your success,'' his father responded,'' you get to PULL OUT
one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your
temper even once.''
Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly
that all the nails were gone.
At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and
take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he
said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what
happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing
hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will
always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry,
or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound
is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old
fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become
friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if
they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we
need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many
of those scars as we can.”

Long live the supreme court!!,long live Ghana!!!!.

Ibrahim Hardi,0208235615