Everyone needs appreciation in relationships to feel his or her efforts are acknowledged and not taken for granted.

Appreciation makes you feel valued and important, special, cherished and loved. You are motivated to give more to your lover who in turn is empowered to give back to you more love and attention.

When both partners show appreciation to each other, great things happen. Your mood improves. Good times, good memories and joy become a common place in your relationship. Disappointments, tension and rage become less and less frequent.

You never make divorce or separation an option. A sense of gratitude is, therefore, one of the most effective ways of enriching your relationship. On the other hand, nothing good comes into your relationship without appreciation.

If you do not show appreciation to your lover, you are tempted to focus on your lover’s weaknesses and what goes wrong in your relationship. Small issues get blown up on your mind and the temptation to give up is strong.

Lack of appreciation is, therefore, the fastest way to kill your relationship. No doubt studies show many relationship fail for lack of appreciation.

How to show appreciation

Show appreciation by your kind words. Simple words such as ‘thank you,’ ‘I love you’, ‘you have been so good to me’ and ‘I am happy I found you’ have profound positive effect on our lovers.

Words have psychic energy . Your kind words bless your lover who in turn reacts more kindly to you. Verbalise your appreciation. Tell your friends and relatives how good your lover has been to you . He or she will hear it and do more for you.

Write very often to your lover to thank him or her for everything he or she does for you. Choose your words carefully and wisely but mean what you say. You may add some cartoons and romantic songs. By writing out your feelings, you inspire yourself and your lover.

Hug and touch often. These simple acts stimulate the production of chemicals that stimulate bonding.

Send gifts often. They are signs of love and goodwill. Let your gifts be regular. They do not have to be expensive. It is the idea that is important.

Celebrate your marriage. Go out often. Invite friends and relations for a meal or drink. Studies show that relationships celebrated often grow in health.

Appreciation, the heart warmer

Your relationship is the best agent in enriching your life. Take time and show your lover who makes your life richer how much you appreciate everything he or she does for you. Happy lovers always have a sense of appreciation.

Appreciation warms your heart to love. It warms your lover’s heart to be loved and to give you more love. Without it your heart will be too cold to love. Appreciation, therefore, warms your heart to give and receive love.

Everyday find something good that your lover does. If you see your lover as good, you will find many things he does as good.

Show appreciation to your lover for all the small and big things he or she does because it leads to other virtues which make you commit to each other.

You will be happier in your relationship just by showing appreciation.