By now, you’ve probably run into a few people who seem to always get the guy or girl they want by the end of the night.

They manage to walk into a crowded bar and almost effortlessly seal the hookup or date they desire. Often, these sexual gods and goddesses aren’t the most physically attractive people at the bar, but something about them gets everyone they meet worked up. If you long to have the sexual prowess these people carry, then you may want to keep these tips in mind.

1. Be confident

Remember the last time you went out to the bars with your friends, and there was that quiet person sitting on a barstool by themselves the whole night? No, of course you don’t. Keeping to yourself is the number one way to be overlooked when seeking a fun date. Being outgoing may be difficult for the shy, but if you want people to pay attention to you, then you have to approach them with confidence. This doesn’t mean talking about yourself constantly or being a loudmouth just to get attention. Instead…

2. Be friendly

There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness, and the difference often lies within your attitude. Jerks may sometimes get the girl, but if you want to be the kind of person who everyone wants, then a smile and a compliment are key. Just be sure that your friendliness doesn’t come off as overeager anxiety, instead try to…

3. Be relaxed

It can be easy to get worked up in a social environment, but not many people get turned on by someone who is high-strung. This quality ties back in to the issue of confidence. If you want to truly present yourself as confident, then you need to show everyone that you can be relaxed, yet engaging when interacting with new lovers (and friends). Just make sure you are truly relaxed and not putting up a front, because it’s essential to…

4. Be honest

It may be tempting to make up wild stories in order to impress everyone, but if you really want to nab a new partner, you’ll need to be honest about yourself. Allowing people to get intimate with you on a personal level, even before you turn down the lights and unwrap your pleasure condoms, will help them realize you are the real deal. Just don’t open up too much to all those strangers, because you have to…

5. Be smart

We’re not just talking about having some intelligent talking points up your sleeve, though that is also useful. Truly sexy people know the best kind of sex is safe sex. And if you really want to be one of those folks who gets down and dirty on the regular, then you can’t let sexually transmitted infections get in the way of your game. Play it safe and smart – use protection every time you have sex.