It's really frustrating and embarrassing when you find out that the man or woman you are in a relationship with, whom you are studying for marriage, who say they love you so much and that you are the one and only, are in a relationship with another person; be it their ex or someone new.

They have asked you for time to take care of the other person so they can be with you because according to them, they love you and it is you they want.

Yet if after waiting and being patient, you find out they are still with the person, the question you ask yourself is “what do I do?” Knowing how much you love and care for them.

In some cases, it may not be a love relationship, but they could be keeping some friends or bad habits and are not ready to let go even though such behaviour threatens the peace of your relationship with them because you are not happy with it. The question you ask yourself is “what can I do?”

Well if you are in such a situation or familiar with this kind of statement, this message is for you. Don't make the mistake others make by telling the man or woman to choose between you and the other person. Such ultimatums sometimes allow your partner to hide the others or force your partner to stay with you although he or she is not happy.

When we love someone, we want to see them happy, so instead of telling him or her to choose between you two, let them go. Since they can't let go the other person or relationship, it means that is what makes them happy. You don't want to keep them with you against their happiness.

There is no competition in love. Let's learn from God our creator. Who loves us and has given us free will. He does not keep us hostage because He loves or created us. "I love everyone who loves me, and I will be found by all who honestly search" - Proverbs 8:17 (CEV).

God is best for us but He does not force Himself on us. He does not ask us to choose between Him or others because He knows who He is and He is the best for us.

Asking them to choose you over them is like keeping them in prison. There is no prison in love, its total freedom, so set them free. If you are the one who makes them happy, they know what to do. Some people are just a chapter in our lives. Our mistake is forcing the person to be the book instead of a chapter.

To those of you who know what you want but out of your self-interest, still lead others on, how will you feel if you are treated the same way? You need to know that, when someone gives you their love, heart, trust in the name of relationship, what they are telling you is that "I am safe with you". You are my safest place. What you can do is to appreciate them and protect what they have given you. Don't break their trust, don't break their heart, don't hurt them. Don't make them regret trusting you. Don't make them feel like the biggest fool on earth just because they trusted you.

This world is full of fake people, the richest thing you can have is a heart of loyalty. To be a true loyal friend.

In conclusion, "Everyone talks about how loyal and faithful he is, but just try to find someone who really is! Children are fortunate if they have a father who is honest and does what is right" - Proverbs 20:6-7 (GNT).

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