Dear GhanaWeb,

I am a 43-year-old married man who got involved with another woman, and now I am in serious trouble.

I met a lady in 2024 who told me she was interested in me. Although we live far apart in the same town, we started a relationship despite my being married.

From the beginning, she assured me she would remain in the background. She promised not to call or text unless I did first and said she would never do anything to put me in trouble.

For almost two years, she kept her word. She stayed in the background but was very supportive. She encouraged me to prosper and showered me with love and gifts. Gradually, I fell deeply in love with her. Over time, I began to prefer her to my wife. I would spend days at her place and use work as an excuse at home.

Whenever I visited her, she treated me like royalty. She cooked delicious meals, massaged me when I was tired, served me tea after meals, and ensured I rested properly. She gave me a sense of happiness and comfort I had never experienced before.

As a result, things changed between my wife and me. I started mistreating my wife because she was not treating me the way the other woman did. I felt she was lazy, and eventually, I lost interest in her. I barely asked her for intimacy or even ate her food.

The other woman was doing everything to make sure I was comfortable, and I found myself desiring only her. At some point, she suggested that we have a child together.

Initially, I had told her that we would only be friends with benefits until she decided she wanted children or marriage, at which point I would step aside. However, because of how attached we had become, I agreed to have a child with her. I believed her love for me was genuine and overwhelming.

She got pregnant, and at first, it was good news for both of us. However, as time went on, her behavior began to change. She started demanding that I be around more often. She began calling at odd hours and insisting that I sleep over at her place.

If things did not go her way, she verbally abused me. She even took my wife’s number from my phone and now threatens to call her and expose everything.

She is currently about 29 weeks pregnant, and the pressure keeps increasing. My wife never behaved this way when she was pregnant. Now I am filled with regret. I regret agreeing to have a child with her because, the way things are going, I either become her slave or confess everything to my wife and face the consequences.

I am drained physically, emotionally, and financially. Keeping this secret is destroying me. Deep down, I do not want my wife to find out because I do not want to hurt her.

Please, what do I do? How do I get out of this mess?


FG/EB


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