Dear GhanaWeb,

I have been married for just a year, and I never imagined my life would take this turn.

Last night, I slept outside. Today, I am back at my parents’ house in Suhum, seven months pregnant and carrying a heart full of pain. My only “offense” is getting pregnant for the man who chose to marry me.

Nothing happened to trigger this. I did not disrespect him or provoke him in any way. Everything changed the moment my body began to change. He started telling me I looked uglier than he expected.

At first, I thought he was joking, something he would eventually stop saying, but it only got worse.

Since the beginning of my pregnancy, I have not known peace. Every day felt like a battle. He called me ugly, said my nose had become too big, complained about how I smelled, and constantly compared me to other women. I cried almost every night, holding on to the hope that things would get better after I gave birth.

But deep down, I feared the truth. He often said he regretted marrying me and that if he had known I would look like this, he would never have gone through with it.

We dated for four years before marriage, and not once did he make me feel this way. Back then, he constantly told me how beautiful I was and how lucky he felt to have me. I kept asking myself what changed.

He stopped touching me after the first month of pregnancy. He insulted me even in public, which made me withdraw completely. I stopped going out with him and stayed indoors as much as I could, trying to hide from the shame he made me feel.

Last month, he started asking me to leave and return to my parents’ house because, in his words, my face scared him. I refused. I contribute to the rent, and I believe I have every right to remain in my home. But he kept repeating it every single day, threatening to throw me out.

Yesterday, before leaving the house, he warned me not to be there when he returned. I stayed, hoping he would calm down. Instead, he came home late, insulted me for hours, and at around 1 a.m., he forced me out. Pregnant, alone, and confused, I had nowhere to go.

Now I am back at my parents’ house, but I have not been able to speak to anyone since I arrived. I don’t even know how to explain what has happened. How do I tell my family that my husband sent me away in the middle of the night simply because he believes pregnancy has made me too ugly to be his wife?

I feel broken, humiliated, and lost.

What would you do if you were in my position?


FG/EB


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