Dear GhanaWeb,

I'm a 28-year-old woman and I’ve been married for four years. Last year, there was a time when I started falling sick and my mom came to our house to check how I was doing. We live in a single room self-contained.

The problem is, my mom has become too close to my husband, in a way that now she comes each and every month and sometimes she spends two weeks here.

To be honest, I don't like how she behaves towards my husband. When she comes around, I get irritated and annoyed because she always want to spend time with my husband.

During the time I was sick, she once got in the bathroom whiles my husband was there. She pretended as if though it was a coincidence. We have just one washroom we all use. I was bedridden then, I couldn’t speak or walk.

She spent over 30 minutes in the washroom with my husband and I heard moaning sounds. I was just wondering why my husband would do that with my own mother. Ever since that happened, I pretended as if I knew nothing and never said anything.

I stayed in bed for close to two months and I realised my mother wasn’t coming around because she wanted to take care of me. It looked like she was happy with me being sick and not able to do anything.

Now, when she comes, she just laughs with my husband like I'm not around. One morning, I woke up and realised I could walk but was still weak. I managed to get to the hall and I saw my husband and my mom sitting together.

They sat in the living room, talking, laughing until 01:00 A.M. one night, I woke up at 02:00 A.M and realised my husband was not in bed. I went out to check if they were still in the sitting room, but I saw my husband coming out of the bathroom while my mom was taking a bath.

I didn’t say a word to any of them. I concluded that my husband is cheating on me with my mother because my mom was once caught cheating on my dad with his boss and he filed for divorce.

I don't know how to confront her so that she can stop coming around since I’m fine now. She’s my mother and I don’t want to sound disrespectful to her. I’m contemplating whether to divorce my husband or not.

Is this enough reason to divorce a man? Is it okay if I ask my mother to leave? What should I do now?

FG/EB


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