Dear GhanaWeb,

I got married last year. Before marriage, I was HIV negative and so was my husband. Just somewhere in December, my husband started seeing a young lady of about twenty-four years. He has saved her contact as Karen so I presumed that’s her name.

I cautioned him about the sort of messages he is exchanging with the lady but he got angry saying, I am reading meanings into the whole thing. He said the girl is a distant relative he met at one of his aunties wedding in December and a whole lot so I tolerated it.

Early February, I figured my husband was having an affair with the lady. I became so angry that I had to involve his mom. After a long disagreement and misunderstanding between us, he said he was letting go of the lady which I believed he did.

Around March, I realized I was pregnant so I visited the hospital and it was confirmed that I was three weeks pregnant. Just this past Monday I went to have some tests and guess what, I was confirmed HIV positive. I doubted the results so I visited another hospital and it showed the same results.

I called my husband to come have his own test that instant and , he has it. That was when I started weeping and begging him to tell me the truth because just before we got married in November last year, we were both negative. We went to check together. We even knew we will be negative so we didn’t panic.

My husband confessed to me that very moment that it could be the girl because they had an encounter on a few occasions plus, he didn’t use condoms but pulled out instead. He said she was the only lady he had been with since we got married.

Anyway, the girl has told him the truth that she already knew she was HIV positive that’s why she insisted he used a condom but he refused. I have left the marriage. I am done with him. His family is on my neck as if I did something wrong.

I’ve been depressed ever since and thinking of what to do with my life since HIV is not curable yet. I’m scared to discuss this with my parents or friends. I don’t want to be a laughing stock to my friends because everyone around me believed I had a perfect marriage.

His mother said we’re a couple and I vowed to stay with him through thick and thin so I should reconsider my decisions. Will going back to him undo the harm? Will it fix my life?

Just five months of marriage and you ruin my entire life. I will just poison him if they dare convince me to go back. I regret everything and I’m so much pain. Will I be judged as a bad wife? What should I do with my life now?

FG/EB



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