Dear GhanaWeb,

Lately, my girlfriend has been acting a little closed off sexually.

She denies me, even though I am positive she views porn.

So I got some wrist cuffs and a pornographic movie to watch together to liven things up.

She refused to watch with me because, as she stated, she didn't want to see me fantasizing about other women.

It seems reasonable, I think. If she has a problem with her self-esteem, I can't tell.

Although I am aware of her sexual energy, I am unsure how to access it. What can I do to encourage her to share her dreams and turn me on?

I value your time and want to thank you for what you do.

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