Dear GhanaWeb,

I rented a four-bedroom apartment for my girlfriend almost two years ago. The owner of the flat was relocating abroad and wanted someone who could pay rent for at least five years.

The rent was GH₵2,000 per month, and I paid for five years in advance. I was doing well financially at the time, and because I loved my girlfriend, I didn’t mind spending that much on her.

Last month, however, I ran into some problems, my house and cars were seized, and for some reason, I had to find a temporary place to stay.

I decided to move in with my girlfriend, into the flat I had rented for her, but she has made life extremely difficult for me since I arrived.

It’s become clear she probably never truly loved me. We haven’t even kissed since I moved in because I’m no longer spending money on her. She talks to me disrespectfully, shows no regard for me, cooks and eats alone, and tells me to prepare my own food if I’m hungry.

She even told me to leave soon so I don’t bring my “problems” into her life. It’s been barely a month since I moved in. Despite everything I’ve done for her, she won’t even offer me the smallest help.

Last week, she took my new phone worth over GH₵10,000 as collateral before lending me just GH₵500. My presence in the house clearly irritates her.

Sometimes, she goes out and locks me inside as if I don’t have a life of my own. When I called her to complain, she said she forgot I was inside and didn’t return until almost evening.

She sleeps in a separate room and spends all night on calls. I have no right to ask who she’s talking to.

This situation is painful because she’s the only woman I’ve truly loved and the one I hoped to marry. I trusted her completely, she knows many of my secrets and has even handled errands involving large sums of money for me.

I once believed she was my missing rib, but now it’s clear she isn’t. She complains about everything I do, insults me at every opportunity, and it feels like she was just waiting for me to fall. Otherwise, why such a sudden change in behavior?

She is even driving a car I gave her money to buy. I now wish I had kept everything in my name, but I let her own things freely because I trusted her and believed in our future together.

I’m still working on resolving my situation, and I pray I’m able to bounce back soon. The investigation should be concluded in a month or two, and since I’m not guilty of anything, I’m hopeful my properties will be released.

For now, though, I’m exhausted and have nowhere else to go. Most of my friends are married and have limited space, so I don’t want to inconvenience anyone.

I’m deeply unhappy and don’t know what to do. I sincerely need your guidance.

FG/EB


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