Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m a 29-year-old woman, I have two brothers and a sister. I’ve never been lucky with men and my mother always rang in my ears that I should get married so that my junior sister could also follow.

My little sister came to me one night and said to me that her fiancé proposed to her so she’s ready to plan her wedding.

Since I’m not married yet as a big sister, I’m the one delaying her marriage. I told her I haven’t found anyone yet so she could go ahead and get married.

After my younger sister married first, she stopped calling me “sister” using my first name instead. At the first family gathering after her wedding, I drove my car, and she came in her husband’s.

When my brothers spoke, I tried to say something, but mom said I should let the married woman speak first; she was referring to my little sister.

I quietly stood up and about to leave when I heard my mom saying I’m not the only one with a car now. I should ask my sister how she found a husband and that was the last time I visited.

Months later, I found a man who wanted to marry me. I was so excited, and I decided to introduce the man to my mother. When I got to my mother’s place, they got along so well so I decided to leave them talk so I could go to the kitchen and prepare something.

After I was done, I came out and realised my fiancé was no where to found. I asked my mother and she said he left. I was so surprised, why would he just leave like that? I called him but he didn’t answer my calls.

I went to his house and he instructed his gateman not to let me in. What have I done wrong? I went back to my mum to ask her what she told him and she said she didn’t tell him anything. They were just having a conversation and he decided to leave.

I just wanted to get married so my mother and siblings will stop looking down on me and now this? I had to avoid everyone and focus on myself. It’s clear my mother and my siblings don’t like me.

I stopped answering my mother’s calls and everyone else. Mom later accused me of being petty, brothers questioned my jealousy. My sister never reached out. I’m successful anyways, I have my own businesses I run and I really don’t need anything in this life.

Is it wrong to be an elder sister and not married on time? I can’t even brag of any relationship now and I’m tired. I’m tired of loneliness and it’s frustrating my life. What should I do now?

FG/EB

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