Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m a 27-year-old woman working in a construction company. When I joined the company three years ago, I met our general manager. He is a nice man. He is everything I want my man to be.

I didn’t know his marital status, but I just assumed he was a married man because how would a fine man like him be single? I didn’t show him any green flags, but I liked him from afar.

Gradually, I gained his full attention, and he always told me how smart I am. He got my number, and we began talking, but not as lovers. We mostly talked about work and he sometimes advised me to continue to be the good girl that I am.

We spoke for months, just one night, this man decided to tell me how he felt about me. He said he had feelings for me but he had been fighting it. He didn’t want me to misjudge him or think he wanted to take advantage of me and that’s why he couldn’t tell me then.

I also had feelings for him but I was fighting it too because he’s my boss and I thought he’s married. He told me he’s single, so I had nothing to worry about. I believed him and we started dating.

We’ve been dating for over a year now and everything seemed perfect. He showed me so much love and care. He spends on me as no man has ever done. We’re so much in love with each other but we had to take the relationship away from work.

No one in the office knows we’re together. He’s so open to me and we literally discuss everything. His friends and some of his family members know me. His friends are so nice to me and they always tell me how happy my man has been ever since we started dating.

Last week, I was in his house and while I was preparing for work, he had a call. I was charging my phone and his phone was close to mine. I saw the person call him three times. To my surprise, the caller is a colleague at work. I was surprised and asked myself why she would call him that early morning.

I didn’t even know he was cool with her because he doesn’t talk to her in the office. I left for work without asking him anything. When I got to work, I saw the lady. I intentionally sent her a file on WhatsApp, and I asked her to give me her phone to see how it appeared on it.

She gave me the phone, and I checked her call log. She and my man had been talking and I didn’t know. I checked her WhatsApp messages, and I saw a lot that had been going on between them. He’s dating her, too. I felt so foolish and deceived.

I went to my office, and I couldn’t hold back my tears. I cried so much that it was obvious I cried when you looked into my eyes. He later came to work and I confronted him. He swore he wasn’t cheating on me and he could never do that to me. He asked me to sit in his car so we could go home and talk.

When we got home, he tried to convince me that there’s nothing going on between him and the lady. He said he called to discuss a project he asked her to handle. He knew I was angry so he tried to calm me down. I asked about the messages I read, and he said the lady has been pushing for them to date, but he’s not interested.

He’s sorry he led the lady on, but he would fix it. He said he had not slept with her and she doesn’t know his house.

It’s been a week now,w but I still can’t get this out of my mind. I love this man deeply, but I want to heal. I want to forget the fact that he nearly cheated on me. What should I do to help me heal?

FG/EB


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