Dear GhanaWeb,

Growing up, I did something that led a pregnant woman to curse me, and I believe it is affecting my family today.

I had to leave my parents’ home and rent my own place because I was posted to a different area for my national service.

There was a woman in the house who, according to what I heard, had been married for many years without getting pregnant. Eventually, she conceived around the time I was living there. She was much older, about 40 to 50.

The pregnancy seemed to cause her a lot of discomfort and pain, and because of that, she was often lightly dressed or almost naked in the house.

Their room was next to mine, and after overhearing her husband complain about her walking around naked, I made a hole through my kitchen wall into their room so I could peep at her.

One day, she caught me. She did not make a scene but called me aside and spoke to me calmly. She said she had noticed what I was doing and advised me to stop because it is unhealthy.

She reminded me that she was a married woman and deserved respect. She also assured me she would not tell anyone, including her husband, because she did not want to ruin my reputation or cause issues in the house.

She asked me to seal the hole and never repeat it.

I sealed the hole, but three days later, I went back to peeping. This time, I made another hole at a higher level, but she noticed again.

She spoke to me once more, but the third time, she got angry and confronted me publicly.

Out of shame and anger, I insulted her in front of people. I said hurtful things, including calling her an old pregnant witch and making degrading comments about her body. I did this to make it seem like she was lying and that there was nothing about her I would admire.

She cried that day and said that if she was lying about my actions, then I would never have children and that my wife would suffer twice the pain she was going through.

I have been married for six years now without any children. Whenever my wife gets pregnant, she miscarries, always in the seventh month, and she goes through severe pain each time.

The repeated trauma has taken a toll on her physically and emotionally.

She has become frustrated and has told me she no longer wants to try for children because of what she keeps going through.

This situation is affecting me deeply as well. Each time it happens, my wife stays in the hospital for days. I spent all my savings and even took loans to cover medical expenses before she recovered.

I tried to look for the woman to beg for forgiveness, but I was told she had passed away and that her husband had moved out of the area. I do not know what to do anymore.

What can I do to free my family from this situation? I really need help.

FG/EB


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