Dear GhanaWeb,

I have committed something I am deeply ashamed of as a woman. If anyone ever did this to me, I know I would be devastated.

I have never been married, although I wish I were by now. Sometimes I feel my life choices are what pushed me into this situation.

I have slept with several men in my family, not my siblings, but the husbands of my sisters and aunties. In total, there are five of them.

I have always admired married men, but these particular men were especially admirable. The way they loved and cared for my aunties and sisters made me desire them even more.

So I approached them and made myself available until each of them eventually slept with me. None of them knows about the others; each believes he is the only one. I started this at age 27, and I am now 34.

I do not have a man of my own. For the past seven years, I have rotated myself among these five men.

I have been pregnant six times and aborted all the pregnancies. Each time, I blamed all of them and collected money from each one. After every abortion, we simply went back to our relationship.

I am in love with all five of them, and I am struggling to let go so I can allow another man to date and marry me.

One of my aunties’ husbands is 53, another is 49, and the third is 48. My sisters’ husbands are in their 30s.

I don’t like what I am doing, but I feel emotionally attached to them. I also feel it is too late to stop because of my age. I feel stuck with the husbands of my own family members.

It also worries me that five different men are indirectly taking turns with me without knowing it. If even one of them finds out, the shame would be unbearable.

I want to have a child too. I know this sounds foolish, but I need advice on what to do. Is it normal to love five men at the same time? Or is something spiritual happening to me? I need help, please.


FG/EB


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