Dear GhanaWeb,

I am a 26‑year‑old woman currently living with my sister and her fiancé. My sister is the only family I have.

After completing school, I needed a place to stay during my national service, and she invited me to move in. I’ve been living with them for four months now.

I knew her fiancé before moving in. He is a good man. He used to be very wealthy, but I’m not sure what happened along the line.

When I moved in, I noticed my sister had been treating him poorly. She makes him cook, clean, and run errands for her. I felt bad for him and tried talking to her about the way she treats him, but she wouldn’t listen.

They used to be a lovely couple. My sister once showed him so much love and care. I don’t know what changed. Her fiancé barely goes anywhere; he is always home doing chores while my sister spends her time going out with other men.

When I confronted her about it, she told me that’s where she gets her money from. According to her, she pays the bills, feeds him, and clothes him, so he has no right to complain.

My sister often comes home late and sometimes doesn’t return at all. Whenever I come back from work, I talk to her fiancé and try to encourage him.

Eventually, he opened up about what happened to his business. He made a bad investment and lost everything. That was when my sister’s attitude towards him changed.

I felt so sad hearing his story. He has been going through a lot, yet he stays because he loves her. As we spent more time together, watching movies, eating, playing games, I realized I was growing feelings for him.

One night, while my sister was out, he invited me to watch a movie. We had snacks and wine, and we both got tipsy. One thing led to another, and we became intimate.

I know it was wrong, but I can’t deny that I enjoyed being with him. I find myself wanting him more, and I feel guilty for betraying my sister. But looking at how she treats him, I don’t believe she loves him anymore.

I also believe he has feelings for me. The way he looks at me and talks to me says a lot. I wish we could continue being together, but I’m scared my sister will find out. How do I tell her I’m in love with her fiancé?

I’m planning to tell him how I feel. I want to take my sister’s place in his life. Thankfully, his finances are improving again. I’m confused and need your advice.


FG/EB


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