Dear GhanaWeb: I’m deeply in love with a man who hates me with a passion

Dear GhanaWeb,

Men are privileged to date two or more ladies in order to make the right choice so why should it be a big deal when ladies do the same?

I decided to adopt the “Act like a lady, think like a man” approach by Steve Harvey and date two men. I never engaged in any romantic stuff with any of the guys until I made my pick.

Dating two men is not an easy game to play. It’s like you are working a 24-hour shift devoid of rest.

They were both caring, so every time they called to check up on me. I sometimes get fed up and switch off my phone.

I got into a fight with one of the guys, and he said settling the issue over the phone wasn’t the best thing to do, so he was coming over to my place.

We were both talking when I heard a knock on my door. I wasn’t expecting anyone, so I was thinking, who could that be? I opened the door, and voila, Vincent was on his knees, proposing to me.

I subconsciously shouted as if I had seen a ghost, and that made Philip come out. He saw Vincent on his knees and asked what was going on.

I couldn’t lie to their faces so I told them the truth. Vincent was enraged and left without allowing me to explain myself.

Philip, on the other hand, waited for the full story and kept questioning my actions. The funny thing is that Vincent was the guy I had chosen to spend the rest of my life with, so that day, I wanted to end things with Philip.

Amid the disgrace, Philip calls all the time to check up on me, but Vincent hasn’t. My heart is with the person who hates me with a passion.

I do not know whether to continue to fight for Vincent or stay with Philip, who, despite whatever has happened, is still there for me.

What do I do?

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