Dear GhanaWeb,
My boyfriend has four close friends. They are a group of five, and they’ve rented an apartment together. They own two cars between them and are all involved in forex trading.
I started dating my boyfriend last year, so it’s been over a year now. Since then, all four of his friends have expressed interest in me and asked me to keep it a secret.
At first, I tried to resist them. I often rejected their advances, but eventually, I gave in.
The truth is, I’ve slept with all four of his friends. They don’t know about each other, and none of them knows that I’ve been with all of them, or that I’m still with my boyfriend. I’m the only one who knows the full story.
It was never my intention to betray my boyfriend like this. I know he would be deeply hurt if he finds out, and I don’t want to lose him. I live in constant fear that one day, his friends will talk and discover what’s been going on, and it will get back to him.
They all have girlfriends, I’ve met them. Each of them told me they liked me because I’m prettier and more hardworking than their girlfriends. They said they wished they could be with me, but since I’m already dating their friend, all they wanted was a secret chance to love me.
Right now, I don’t know how to say no to them or end things. I’m scared that if I break it off with one of them and he gets upset, he might expose everything.
I’m terrified of being shamed and thrown out of the relationship I truly care about.
I’m not proud of what I’ve done. I feel terrible sleeping with four of my boyfriend’s closest friends behind his back. I’ve had enough. I want to stop everything and focus on my relationship, but fear is holding me back.
Every day, I worry: what if they start talking? What if the truth comes out? I’ve thought about confessing to my boyfriend, but I’m sure he would break up with me, and I don’t want to risk losing him.
Please, what should I do?
FG/EB
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