Dear GhanaWeb,

I’ve been married for four years, and throughout this time, my husband has consistently been unfaithful. I do everything I can to fulfill my role as a wife, but nothing seems to make a difference.

He doesn’t listen to me, and he acts as though he no longer loves me, even though he chose to marry me out of his own free will.

I’ve been trying so hard since the beginning of this year to make my husband listen to me, so every month I cook with my menses for him to eat, yet there’s no result.

I’ve tried repeatedly, almost every month from last year until now, but nothing seems to be working. I don’t want to resort to any fetish or spiritual practices; I just wanted to try using my menses, but even that hasn’t worked.

My husband is still constantly cheating, and it’s made him completely irresponsible. I’m left struggling to take care of our child on my own.

He has the means to support our family comfortably, so much so that I wouldn’t even need to work, but instead, he spends all his money on other women.

I know this might not be the right way, but what else can I do? I’m truly suffering. My husband has everything it takes to make me and our daughter happy, yet he chooses to spend it all on other women.

I have to beg him just to leave a little money at home. On weekends, once he moves his car, he doesn’t come back until midnight, and he’s always drunk.

People even send me calls and videos showing him out with different women. It’s humiliating and heartbreaking.

This whole situation is exhausting. I just want to humble him, to bring him back to his senses so I can finally enjoy my marriage.

I don’t want a divorce; I’m still trying and hoping this “menses” method will work for me too, but so far, it hasn’t.

Is there anything else I can do?

I’ve heard that some women use their menses to cook for their husbands to get them to listen or become more submissive, how exactly do they do it?

In my case, it seems to have backfired. Instead of drawing him closer, he has become even more arrogant and continues to cheat.

What am I doing wrong? Why am I the one suffering like this? I’m desperate and I really need help.


FG/EB


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