Dear GhanaWeb,

Two years ago, I went to visit my elderly brother. He knew I was coming but didn’t know the time. I think I went earlier than he was expecting.

I got there in the afternoon. I just went inside without knocking and I met him having sex with another man.

He’s in his 30s. He always said he was single and wanted to establish himself before marriage. I never thought he was into men until that day but I didn’t say anything when I caught them in the act.

I left immediately and returned later, but he was furious. I was asked to stay with him because my school was closer to his house.

That same day, he made me return with my stuff and told me not to come to his house again.

I told my parents he wasn’t around and insisted I wasn’t going to stay with him for school. I didn’t give my parents any reason; I didn’t want to expose my brother.

After about three months, he texted to thank me for keeping his secret but that was it.

He stopped paying my fees and doesn’t involve himself in anything concerning me. I’ve tried since that day to get him to help and support me like he was doing before I went to see him but he kept avoiding me.

He doesn’t even come home anymore because of me. My parents keep saying I did something wrong and blaming me for making him not help me. I can’t also say the truth but I’m innocent.

I’ve tried to go and see him and apologize for walking in on him and his boyfriend, but he won’t listen to me. He said it’s not my fault that he’s avoiding me. It’s just him, so I shouldn’t take it personal and that I should try to build my own life because he won’t be involved anymore.

He was my stepping stone. He’s successful and has connections so he can also help me to be comfortable.

I’m not judging him for being into men. It’s his life and I’m going to keep this a secret forever. My parents keep pressuring him to marry and all that, I could have spilled the truth, but I kept mute.

He made me struggle through school. Now that I’m done, he won’t even link me to get a job. He doesn’t mind me at all. What can I do?

FG/EB