Dear GhanaWeb: My best friend’s husband is not the father of the children

Dear GhanaWeb,

My best friend and her husband had childbirth issues when they got married. They visited hospitals and other places until four years into their marriage; God blessed them with a beautiful girl.

I left the country for two years, so I missed her pregnancy days and childbirth.

When I returned to Ghana, I visited her. I got there, and after engaging in a few conversations, she told me she wanted to share a secret with me.

She revealed to me that she got pregnant with another man and is planning to do it again until she has three children.

Her reason is that a prophet she visited when she was looking for a child told her that her husband could not get her pregnant.

The man she is married to is down to earth. A very quiet man who accords respect to every person, irrespective of their age. I was surprised she could do that to him.

She said she was doing it for the greater good, and she now has two children.

I respect the man, and imagining how a good man of his calibre would be hurt when he later finds out that his children are not really his children troubles me.

When I went for her second child’s baby christening, I told her to tell her husband about the babies, or else I would. She snubbed me and left.

I called her and gave her an ultimatum to tell her husband. It’s been over three months, and I still haven’t said anything to him.

I want to tell the man myself, but I do not know if it’s my place to do that.

How do I handle the situation?

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