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My husband bites my breasts, parts of my body to feel sexually satisfied - Woman cries for help

What do you do to feel sexually satisfied when having sex with your partner? Whiles some people engage in sex for pleasure, others way of getting this form of pleasure is by inflicting pain or causing harm to their partners.

This is the story of a Ghanaian woman who has been married for 6 years; she sent her story to Facebook's Abena Magis, a relationship expert.

On condition of anonymity, the woman explained, for her church loving husband to feel sexually satisfied, he bites her nipples, neck or any part of her body closer to her husband's teeth.

She added that she married her husband as a virgin.

"Abena I've been asking myself for 6 years why I'm still with my husband. I married a virgin to a man who is beloved in church. Who is respected by everyone. A man people look up to but a man who has to bite me before he can get satisfied in bed".

To escape from the visible pains which take days to heal, the only option she can resort to is to deny him sex; her denial will mean, no financial support from her husband.

"If I refuse him sex it means no money when I need it most. I refused him sex for 2 weeks. I was pregnant and my breasts were swollen. I finally did but when I needed money for hospital bills when I nearly miscarried at 5 months he told me no. Unless I swear an oath on a Bible that I won't refuse him sex. Even after giving birth he'll still bite my breasts or hands or neck. I have to wear sweater for weeks until all the marks are gone. I go to work and I don't want to go home."

Followers of Abena Magis suggested her husband might be suffering from Sexual Masochism Disorder - a condition in which someone is sexually aroused by being bound, beaten, or otherwise made to suffer physical pain or humiliation. This desire can cause a significant amount of distress.

According to Psychology Today, this disorder falls under the psychiatric sexual disorders category of paraphilias, which involve recurrent, intense, sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviors that are distressing or disabling and have the potential to cause harm to oneself or others.

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Abena I've been asking myself for 6 years why I'm still with my husband. I married a virgin to a man who is beloved in church. Who is respected by everyone. A man people look up to but a man who has to bite me before he can get satisfied in bed. If I refuse him sex it means no money when I need it most. I refused him sex for 2 weeks. I was pregnant and my breasts were swollen. I finally did but when I needed money for hospital bills when I nearly miscarried at 5 months he told me no. Unless I swear an oath on a Bible that I won't refuse him sex. Even after giving birth he'll still bite my breasts or hands or neck. I have to wear sweater for weeks until all the marks are gone. I go to work and I don't want to go home.

Sister forget. I've had counseling. I've been through therapy. He's also been through it and yet nothing changed. I've spoken to different people about it and he's spoken to them too. If he hasn't changed after all the sessions why should I believe in it again? Why should I be the one who has to suffer just to make sure my babies are taken care of. Why must I be the one to keep on complaining about my marriage when he says we have a perfect one? But when I pack I still unpack. I've bought poison before and kept it somewhere for months. After he hurts me I'll go and look at it but never took the chance to die.

Abena the sad thing is that I know what to do. I know I can divorce him. Even if I don't tell the truth why I still know what to say to free myself. I know how to slowly poison him till he dies and no one can trace it to me. I know how to drive and make sure he gets hit and he'll dies. Even if he becomes paralyzed I'll be free. I think of all these but I don't do. I'm not happy living like this but I don't understand why I'm still staying. I don't think I like this but why am I still staying? I don't know if I need help. I don't know if I can get help. I'm just tired but want to talk. I'm tired of keeping silent.