Dear GhanaWeb,

I have been married for a year now. Two months before our wedding, I completed and fully furnished a house for my wife and me.

I work full-time, and since my wife preferred to be cared for and pampered, I supported her choice not to work.

Five months into our marriage, tragedy struck. One afternoon, while my wife was preparing a meal, she got distracted watching a movie.

The food caught fire, which spread quickly through the kitchen and engulfed the house. She tried to stop it, but it was already too late.

Neighbours eventually rescued her, but not before she sustained severe burns. Thankfully, her life was spared, but she was left with significant physical injuries.

We lost everything in that fire, our home, personal belongings, and a large amount of money I had invested in building our life together.

But the emotional impact and her physical suffering have been even more difficult to deal with. Since the incident, her recovery has been slow and painful.

Unfortunately, it has also created emotional distance between us.

I admit that I carry resentment about what happened.

I know accidents occur, but I struggle with the fact that it could have been avoided.

As much as I want to be supportive, I feel detached and unable to rebuild our connection. This has affected every aspect of our marriage, including intimacy and family planning.

It hurts me to say this, but I’ve come to the difficult conclusion that I no longer see a future with her as my wife.

I know people will see this as heartless, and maybe it is, but I believe continuing in a marriage where love and emotional support are gone may cause even more harm, especially to someone who is already dealing with so much.

I do not want to abandon her without ensuring she is treated fairly and with dignity.

She’s been through enough, and I want to know how I can offer support during this transition, especially emotionally and financially, to minimize any further trauma.

So, I am asking, what is a fair and compassionate way to handle this divorce?
How can I offer compensation or support to ease her burden without making her feel discarded?


FG/EB



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