As true love, I live in pure hearts, unity is my pleasure, mercy is my treasure, peace is my product, happiness is my aim, poverty is my shame, illness is my weakness, hatred is my enemy. In my presence, the depressed say, I am delighted! The sick say, I am healed! The poor say, I am rich! The weak say, I am strong!.....
However, it is good to say you are looking for friendship than to say you are looking for love since love is strange and it takes little regard for anything harmful or risky or bad. Love can take the form of mercy, kindness, compassion, generosity, loyalty, devotion.....Therefore, if you say you are looking for love it's like you have open your heart and mind for anything, whether good or bad. You will receive proposals from all kinds of people. Many people will take advantage to ask you for help in many ways and the less serious ones will have the chance to ridicule you and the probability of you getting true love is less. Notice that love exist everywhere but its genuineness is rare. Start with friendship and converse a lot. If you are very serious, then sit down, think and planned good questions to test your friend. However, ask so many questions from objective to subjective, ambition to addiction, health to wealth, capability to responsibility.....In this case, you will know the resolutely serious one, the liars, and the less serious ones will get bored and quit.
Furthermore, do not be deceive by people's description of themselves as, I am trustworthy, kind, God-fearing, faithful, understanding, have good sense of humour.....In fact, almost everybody in this world will attribute good qualities to themselves no matter how wicked or cruel they are. Even, a mad person may claim to be sensible!
Verily, true love is faith. Do you know what broken-heart is? It is when the true love in your heart gets accident. You feel a burning sensation within you caused by the trauma of the broken-heart. Therefore, when somebody loves you dearly, always remember to ask them why they love you so that you may intensify that which they saw in you before they love you. Obviously, a man dear and attracted to a woman will get more women to love him truly even if the women know that he has a woman already but a woman dear and attracted to a man will hardly find another man to love her truly if the man knows that she already has a man.
An ideological survey of love displays the following phases. L-O-V-E phases of love: Like phase (LP), Outright phase (OP), Validity phase (VP) and Everlasting phase (EP).
The Like phase (LP) of love is the first stage of falling in love with someone. It is mostly characterized by beauty, affluence, fame, nobility, aristocracy, prettiness, extraordinary performance.....It is not very solid and therefore, not always successful since its intensity depends on the degree of its characteristics. For instance, the more the affluence or beauty, the more the love. No money no love. The major element here is the eye or vision. LP is fragile and broken-heart at this stage is not too severe....
When LP continues for long amid communication and close relationship or interaction, it develops into the Outright phase (OL) of love. At this stage, there is an emotional feeling of kindness, mercy, compassion, faithfulness, sympathy....for each other. Marriage at this stage is always successfully and broken-heart is very severe. The major elements here are common interest and intimacy. For instance, affinity, what I like is what you like and what you dislike is what I dislike......
By living and spending more time together, the love gradually enters into the Validity phase (VP) of love. Here the major elements are time and intimacy. At this stage, love is so matured, intensed, invincible and invulnerable that beauty or affluence or race or age or height or fame.....is negligible. For instance, I am crazy about you that if I do not see you I cannot eat or sleep....I am anxiously thinking about your safety or welfare. Nothing can separate lovers at this stage except death since they are glued together as a unit in all aspects of life. Broken-heart is very rare here but if it occurs, either by death or something other, it may lead to extremely severe mental or heart sickness. Verily, the VP is the highest stage of love you can experience on earth since we humans are mortal.......
However, the everlasting phase (EP) of love is in paradise, where only the pious, God-fearing and righteous dwell forever! There is absolutely no broken-heart! The major elements here are righteousness, God-fearing and piety or islam(meaning peace, obedience and submission to the will of God Almighty).....
Looking for love assured with the heart, justified with the soul, fortified with the spirit, blessed by God Almighty, honoured by the Angels, practised by the Saints, essential to life, shameful to death, and indebted to humans? Then, remember, the pure the heart the true the love. Its your life so its your choice!....(courtesy: likeabdallah
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